EMOTIONS and FEELINGS. Part 2. ~ Thinking errors or conversations for awareness

Conditions that may accompany the lack of a sense of spiritual and emotional closeness:

Psychoses are acute mental states.
The feeling that someone controls or can control your thoughts.
The feeling that you hear or can hear voices that others cannot hear.
Lack of feeling of emotional intimacy.
The feeling that others can penetrate or hear your thoughts.
The idea that you should be punished for your sins.
Thoughts that something is wrong with your body.
Thoughts that something wrong is going on with your mind.
Other people's thoughts in my head

Sometimes people have the impression that they do not feel emotionally or spiritually close to someone.
These feelings of lack of emotional empathy for someone can be due to several aspects.

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Lack of emotions

author: Natalya Stilson, https://gutta-honey.livejournal.com/

About a year ago, when we talked about emotional intelligence, people became very excited about the prospect of tracking their emotions and doing something about them for their own benefit. But after some time they began to write in letters that this was a strange thing. It seems like there are no emotions.

Well, just the little things, please. I saw a flower - I was happy, a sick kitten was shown on TV - I was upset. But by and large it turns out to be some kind of nonsense with emotions. The day has passed and, already falling asleep, the person remembers: “Oh yes! Follow your emotions! So what did I have there today? And after some time he realizes that there was nothing that could have been followed. Although the day was extremely eventful.

Where did the emotions go? They are still where they were in childhood, but they are hiding in every possible way cunningly. Or rather, we hide them ourselves. One way to hide an emotion is to develop habitual automatic behavior. When there is a need to understand emotions, a person can stuff them down with some standard scheme-ritual. Often, in the process of carrying out this pattern, people receive some kind of pleasure, which leads to the formation of dependence on such behavior patterns. Each time, in response to a negative emotion, we can turn on a habitual action that will flood the negative with a certain amount of dopamine and we will all forget what we so wanted to realize.

What could be such habitual behavior? Yes, anything. People have a favorite repertoire: alcohol, TV, the Internet, food, music, hobbies, caring for others, toxic thinking, hidden aggression. In general, whatever your heart desires, as long as it doesn’t let you think about the essentials.

Of course, when the word “addiction” is uttered, a certain image immediately appears of a person whose life and well-being are melting away as a result of his passion for chemicals, behaviors or things. People immediately compare themselves and the imaginary poor fellow and exhale noisily: “No, I don’t have that.” If I drink a little, I don’t go on the Internet often either, but if I drink often it’s for business, I watch a little TV and not series, but serious programs. But the fact is that despite the absence of loss of adaptation (family in place, work being done, friends available), the majority still have a dependence on one or another object or phenomenon.

We all live in a changing and often unpredictable world. Those. It is impossible to live completely automatically without thinking and understanding how we feel about what is happening. But understanding and realizing does not always bring positive emotions. Sometimes people suddenly realize that they are somewhere God knows where in the vastness of life in the middle of a bunch of problems, and they don’t know what to do about it.

As soon as a person finds himself at a certain point in space, he has feelings about this or questions about the meaning of life (but thinking and feeling is such a thing, you can, in general, not always achieve good emotions, but rather the opposite, because the overwhelming Most people think of themselves more poorly than well). It’s terrible how neglected everything is and how, and what to do about it? How to get out of here? These are serious questions that are truly scary. It's scary and unpleasant to think about it. And in order to stop all these emotions and prevent them from further penetrating to the level of consciousness, a person grabs onto his usual activities and stops emotional insight in the bud.

Did the thought come to you in the evening that your marriage relationship is not so good? Go chop up a salad or play a shooting game, go on a diet and count calories, watch a football match or read a forum. Let him go. And then don’t be distracted so that insight doesn’t strike again - crumble the salad, watch TV, read the forum.

By themselves, neither salads, nor shooting games, nor diets, nor forums are anything bad. They just try on themselves for other purposes. This is a cunning maneuver by a person to distract himself from himself. And since instead of painful awareness and feelings you receive some kind of bonus in the form of pleasure, such a replacement activity becomes regular for a person. The average individual has at least several such deceptions for himself and skillfully avoids all sorts of soul-searching through habitual everyday actions and activities.

You say: “Or maybe this is a hobby? Maybe a person likes to chop salads?” There are a number of differences here, which indicate that a person does not do this for pleasure, but simply replaces one action with another:

People, as a rule, do not clearly realize that they are doing something specifically and deliberately. Chopping salad, like a decision comes unexpectedly and semi-automatically, just like turning on the TV, checking email or something else.
Although the desire to occupy yourself with something comes suddenly, if you look closely, then just before the start you can identify a period associated with some unpleasant emotions, at least a trace of them. A little anxiety, fear, resentment, anger. Feelings that are not desirable for awareness are immediately covered up by habitual actions. Any trace of negative emotion immediately evokes a desire to suppress it: “Shouldn’t I go look at the cats on FB?”
Then the activity is done semi-automatically too. A person remembers the period of crumbling lettuce, but has no idea how long the process took, what the person was thinking at that time, and sometimes he doesn’t even know whether the lettuce was needed. From the outside, a person looks detached, as if he is actually thinking deeply about something or is really immersed in activity without a trace. Sometimes, having completed the swim during the evening television broadcast, he feels shame, embarrassment, and gets angry with himself: “Well, here I am again, sitting in front of the TV all evening.”
After a negative reaction (for example, shame) to a failure in time occurs, a defense reaction occurs. A person rationalizes his behavior (I was tired, so I spent the whole evening in this state), denial (in fact, I didn’t waste time in vain, I was thinking, resting, etc.), minimization (I didn’t spend that much on TV at all ; compared to IvanIvanovich, I don’t watch much TV),
Although there is no increase in tolerance as such, there is nevertheless a need to have more opportunities to deal with the subject of addiction. For example, buy a larger TV, connect to cable to have more channels. Or rewrite more salad recipes, make a new salad every day, and generally improve your salad skills. And there is no limit to perfection.

Why is this bad?

First of all, because people often completely lose touch not only with what is happening in their heads, but also with reality. Life passes automatically between daily habitual activities. In the evening a person cannot say what he did all day, what he did, what he thought about, what his mood was.
Such mini-addictions under unfavorable psychological conditions tend to turn into full-blooded addictions.
They eat up time that could be spent more productively on something really good and useful and leave a feeling of emptiness and a wasted period of time (day, week, month, year).

Thus, for those who are already planning to change themselves for the better, it makes sense to engage in these most protective habitual activities. The more of them there are in life, the more neglected everything is, as a rule, and they are often a mask for apathetic depression. It is advisable to catch these things in yourself and see what emotions they hide behind them. If you find them in your home, this does not mean that it will be necessary to ban TV and salads. Anything is possible, but only if they are used for their intended purpose. Those. the TV is used as a TV, not a placeholder for emotions.

When is the sense of smell restored?

Many people with COVID-19 have reported a sudden loss of smell, followed by a sudden and complete return to normal smell after a week or two, with no nasal congestion at all. There are also cases where the sense of smell is absent for 5-6 weeks after a severe form of COVID-19.

The sense of smell disappears if the odor molecules cannot reach the receptors (it’s like smelling flowers with your nose pinched). This occurs due to swollen soft tissues and mucosa - cleft syndrome. The rest of the nose and sinuses appear normal, and patients have no problems breathing through the nose.

When the virus enters the cell thanks to the protein and causes swelling, the olfactory neurons remain intact. When the healing process begins and the immune system copes with the virus, the swelling subsides. The aroma molecules have a clear path to their intact receptors, and the sense of smell returns to normal.

If the inflammation is extensive, it can also damage nearby tissues (cells). We believe that this is the second stage - damage to the olfactory neurons. They are regenerated from stem cells in the nasal mucosa, but this requires a longer time and the sense of smell is restored much more slowly.

Often during recovery, a distortion of the sense of smell occurs - parosmia, when things smell unusual. You may notice odors that resemble sewage, burning, or chemicals.

Symptoms of nervous system damage by coronavirus

At the University of Siena in Italy, after several weeks of observation, doctors discovered neurological changes in 36.4% of patients. The Italian Society of Neurology analyzed these clinical realities and found in patients with coronavirus such symptoms of damage to the central nervous system as:

– Hypogeusia (loss of taste)

— Hyposmia, anosmia (lack of sense of smell, partial or complete)

– Neuralgia (headache, sore throat and facial pain)

— Migraine

— Mental impairment

- Severe muscle pain

- Dizziness, nausea and vomiting

What is a state of hopelessness?

The state of hopelessness , in its extreme manifestations, comes on its own very rarely. As a rule, the individual himself actively participates in this, emotionally driving himself into a corner, cutting off possible solutions, losing faith and giving up.

Facts about the state of hopelessness:

Hopelessness is not biologically fixed as a model of reflexive behavior (which may include pleasure, fear, a sense of security).
The feeling of hopelessness can be regulated by a person himself if he analyzes the meaning of situations, actively seeks a way out of them, and stimulates faith in the best.
The feeling of hopelessness is a critical point in the perception of oneself in this world, which can serve as a starting point for changing the value and semantic space of perception.
A person immersed in hopelessness sees everything in a negative light, does not see a way out of anything, loses the desire to act, goals and guidelines, does not see the meaning in daily actions, and, perhaps, in his entire life.
The loss of illusions about achieving what you want can reorient a person towards other goals, or can awaken the desire to go into a dead end, stop and freeze one’s own life, and go into a state of hopelessness. The feeling of the impossibility of further movement in order to find a way out of the situation - hopelessness, in its extreme manifestations pushes people onto the path of alcoholism and drug addiction.

In this context, they are perceived as ways to escape reality. In some cases, extreme hopelessness pushes a person to suicide. This is a critical perception of a given experience that gradually penetrates and covers most areas of life, like metastases in the last stage of oncology.

*Therefore, it is especially important not to miss the first persistent symptoms of negative perception of the environment, the possibility of solving the problem, loss of hope and faith in a good outcome. Without these internal supports, it is impossible to overcome hopelessness.

Problems in life and hopelessness as a consequence

Problems in the life of every person arise from time to time, some of them, especially complex ones, can provoke hopelessness, like a feeling:

irreversible loss of health,
major financial loss
dismissal from a promising job,
unhappy love, child's illness,
and a lot of other examples that can exist both as everyday problems and as rare difficult circumstances from which it is difficult to find a way out.

The most difficult moments of complete despair, a state of hopelessness, come when a combination of several significant factors occurs for one specific person.

Moreover, personal significance in the formation of such a feeling as hopelessness is paramount, because the death or problems of strangers (even a large number of them) are unlikely to affect your system of worldview with the same intensity as the death of one relative or loved one.

And uncritical negative experiences, but in large quantities and in relation to different areas of life, can lead to the feeling that there is no way out, due to their multiplicity.

Two feelings of hopelessness

In terms of the spectrum of sensations, hopelessness is two different feelings : one is a reaction to the acute negative impact of a problem that has arisen in an important area of life, the other is a feeling of the permanent meaninglessness of life itself.

The severity of the perception of critical moments and hopelessness intensify when several negative factors are combined, and even more so if one of them is basic in the value system.

Seeing the permanent destruction of his own hopes and needs, a person loses faith in the best and the strength to overcome difficulties, loses the ability to think objectively and does not see alternative solutions, that is, he decides for himself that there is no way out.

This inability to analyze new meaning and find ways is caused by a significant number of negative experiences, the instinctive perception that with active action big problems come.

When a person is in a state of chronic hopelessness, not only the will and mood manifestations of a person are destroyed, hopelessness affects his personality as a whole, and also leads to some somatic manifestations.

Frequent physiological reactions to a feeling of hopelessness are: decreased immunity, a feeling of weakness, stooped posture, bronchitis, pneumonia, neurological problems, tics, tremors of the limbs, insomnia, nightmares.

*The longer a person feels hopelessness, the more the range of existing disorders worsens. If in the initial stage it is possible to solve problems by regulating psychological perception, then later, when immersed in the situation, it is necessary to treat the physical ailments that arise.

What is anosmia and hyposmia

Anosmia is a complete loss of smell, accompanied by a decrease or absence of appetite. Food loses its taste overnight.

Hyposmia is a partial loss of smell. Both anosmia and hyposmia are well known to people with colds and upper respiratory tract infections. Post-viral anosmia is one of the main causes of lack of smell in adults, accounting for up to 40 percent of all cases.

Coronavirus anosmia may be the main symptom of a very mild form of COVID-19. Analysis of available data from several countries and their own observations led them to the conclusion that anosmia may be a marker of the disease.

Patients around the world who have tested positive for coronavirus have reported a lack of smell and taste as their only symptoms, with no fever or cough. The absence of other symptoms of infection means that most cases escape our attention. But according to the WHO, such cases are not confirmed in practice.