How to make your lover jealous and afraid of losing you

I want sex with a married man. Mutually. Not for a while. She herself is free. How not to get caught up in romantic delirium. I ask seasoned lovers to advise me on how not to become attached to a person with all the consequences.

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No one will give such advice - how not to get attached, so as not to write, you can get used to it and fall in love, it’s better not to start..

In short, author, your claw is already stuck.

It’s simple, as soon as you start fucking with him, you’ll get stuck. Very few women after sex (not just once, but at least periodically) can pull themselves together and not become attached to a person. As a rule, these are professional kept women of the highest aerobatics (and there are really few of them and they know the price for their services well, and therefore do not become attached to anyone). And you just want sex, like an animal. But an animal is controlled not by the brain, but by emotions and instincts, cat. Judging by what you write, you are not able to control. Guest 1 writes correctly, it’s better not to start.

just live your life, how can you even become attached to a person initially knowing that he is not free?? just consider him an object for sexual pleasure, nothing more

That’s what I thought, I’m married, I don’t have sex with my husband, I started dating a married man, I thought I wouldn’t fall in love, but I fell in love, I got hemorrhoids, I already regret starting a relationship..

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A woman who agrees to the role of a mistress initially understands and accepts the situation. But sooner or later the moment comes when she thinks about how to keep her lover near her. If the initial passion and feelings begin to fade away or the behavior of his mistress ceases to meet his expectations, the married man tries to retreat.

Why do married people need outside relationships?

A married man begins to cheat on his wife for the following reasons:

Lack of emotional intimacy. This is often encountered by spouses who have lived together for about ten years. There comes a period when people who are accustomed to each other’s character stop openly expressing affection. This leads to the fact that they become strangers, turning the partner into a kind of emotional garbage bin, into which only negativity and dissatisfaction are added.
Lack of variety in sexual relationships. Sex with your wife ceases to bring vivid sensations, which can be found in abundance on the side.
Fatigue from family life. When responsibilities, lack of free time, and constant pressure from his wife begin to oppress a man, he strives to get rid of negative experiences. To relieve stress, feel confidence, and freedom of action, he finds a woman who can understand and appreciate him.
The need for self-affirmation. Many men sincerely believe that having a mistress is proof of masculinity and personal importance. By starting an affair, such men confirm to themselves the status of an alpha male. At the same time, they prefer women who are not inferior in beauty to top models.
The emergence of feelings for another woman. Suddenly, a man finds “the one” for whom he has deep and sincere feelings.

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Most often, a man does not seek to leave the family, since he is completely satisfied with the current state of affairs. He has a wife, children, family values and a woman ready to give love.

The latter must take into account some features in relationships on the side in order to know how not to make a mistake in such a situation and keep her lover close to her.

Ritual with paper

This is another version of the ritual that helps awaken love at home. Prepare a small sheet of paper, clean and completely white. Write on it the details of your lover: when he was born and what his name is, be sure to indicate the last name and patronymic. Turn the paper over and write the following spell:

Find a bowl or plate in which you can burn the note. Keep in mind that you will still need the ashes. Light a match and bring it to a piece of paper. While the note is burning, read the words of the love spell:

Please note that the sheet of paper must burn completely. Take a bowl of ashes outside and blow them into the wind. This ritual is perfect to use at a distance or to attract the attention of a new acquaintance.

What should a lover be like for a married man?

Regardless of the reason that pushed a man to cheat, a woman should rely on the properties that her lover expects to see. In most cases, he agrees to commit adultery in order to be able to periodically escape family problems and find a cozy and calm temporary refuge. Since it is possible to keep a married person by creating such conditions, it is necessary to highlight the basic principles of behavior.

Space for peace and relaxation

A man tries to be where he feels good. The mistress’s task is to provide a calm and comfortable environment. He sees quarrels, reproaches, attacks and bitterness at home too.

You need to create a contrast in order to stand out from your dissatisfied wife:

always meet your lover in a good mood;
look well-groomed every time;
surround with care, attention;
surprise with culinary delights;
Praise a man because he needs to feel important.

If the topic of conversation is unpleasant to a man, you need to change it. It’s better to distract your attention with more enjoyable leisure activities.

Sexual relations

It is important to fully satisfy your lover sexually. It is necessary to make changes and innovations in your intimate life from time to time. Thanks to this, the man will not lose the feeling of excitement, receiving vivid impressions not only physically, but also emotionally. Sex is one of the most effective means that can keep a married man.

Never refuse sex to your lover, but there are certain limits to everything. There is no need to subject your body to endurance tests. This only means promoting his fantasies and desires, especially those that his wife could not or did not want to embody.

Having freedom of choice

You need to let a man do what he wants. If you want to have fun, then you should organize a festive event. An active person will enjoy spending time in a noisy and fun company or visiting an interesting place. Vivid emotions experienced together will strengthen relationships.

If he needs silence, you can have a romantic dinner in a warm home environment. At the same time, you need to behave at ease, naturally, showing sincere and positive emotions. Perhaps a married woman needs the same environment in order not only to keep a man, but also to experience pleasant experiences herself.

You need to respect the personal boundaries of your chosen one. By imposing, there is a risk of loss of interest on his part. A man, in turn, likes the self-sufficiency in a woman’s personality.

Don't discuss his family

Under no circumstances should you discuss your lover's family, especially when it comes to attacks or insults against his wife. No matter how great the lover’s affection, it is always inferior to the legal bonds of marriage. The wife was able to marry him and became a conqueror in her own way, so men always treat their spouses with respect.

In how to keep a married lover with you, you should always proceed from the main principle of male infidelity. A man finds a woman for a relationship on the side not in order to go to her, but because of the loss of certain components in family life. At the same time, he always protects and tries to save the marriage.

Don't complain about the second role in his life

You cannot show your chosen one that you are capable of getting tired or moping. Staying on the sidelines is difficult, but you knew what you were getting into when you started a close relationship with a married man.

Finding themselves in such a situation, lovers often begin to play the role of the victim. As long as a woman insists that she is the injured party in the current circumstances, no one and nothing will help her. It happens that a mistress likes to be a victim, to experience painful experiences, looking for the guilty party in her misfortunes. Manipulating a man in this way is ineffective, since complaining about one’s fate causes irritation in the opposite sex.

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Conspiracy using water

Water is the most powerful remedy when used correctly. This ritual will require significant effort and some preparation. It is carried out during the period when the moon is full or waxing.

3 days before the ceremony, fast: do not eat meat and fish, do not drink alcohol. For 3 hours before casting a love spell on your lover, give up food completely.
The choice of water will also need to be approached responsibly. It is best to use well, spring or melt water. If you can’t find such water, you can use regular tap water, but it needs to sit for 3 days. She must definitely stand at the head of the bed. Water can be kept in glass containers.
To cast a love spell, choose a clear moonlit night. Take a new glass of water prepared in advance and place it near a lit candle. To charge the water, share your desires, feelings and intentions.
Then transfer the water to the windowsill. An important point: the glass should be illuminated by moonlight. Next, you need to read the love plot out loud 7 times in order to dry the victim.
While reading, move the index finger of your right hand along the rim of the glass clockwise. Leave the water on the windowsill until the morning. The main thing is to make sure that no one touches it.
The next day, drink this water to your lover. A suitable option is to mix it into some drink or food.

The text of the conspiracy that must be read over the glass:

Methods of manipulation

In how to keep a married man, advice from a psychologist based on manipulation will help. These methods of influence will provoke jealousy, as well as the desire to be close. However, the chosen one must be manipulated carefully. The main thing is not to cross the boundaries of what is permissible, so as not to seem mercantile, frivolous or indifferent. In addition, do not let your lover forget about yourself and the fact that you are interested in him. Subconsciously, the man will begin to think that his mistress’s actions are a reaction to his actions or initiative, and not her whim. Effective ways:

Changes in appearance. In a relationship with a lover, sudden changes for the better raise suspicions, especially in cases where a potential rival will be present at the upcoming event.
Changes in the usual schedule. By canceling a date under an ambiguous pretext, you can receive a lot of messages or a sudden visit. At the same time, some things need to be kept silent, revealing a small part. This frees up space for intrigue.
Ignoring is a good way to make your lover yearn for another meeting. But you can’t overdo it, since the element of hunting, of course, whets the appetite, but the unattainability of prey eventually begins to tire you and ceases to interest you.
Flirting is an effective but dangerous method of influence that makes a lover jealous. There should be a little of it, so that at the moment of an outbreak of jealousy there is an opportunity to take on an innocent and uncomprehending appearance. If you flirt when your lover knows that you see him, then it can turn into a game of “Who will be jealous of whom.”

Possible ritual options

In white magic, there are many rituals to cast a love spell on a lover. Many of them require a photograph or some thing of a loved one, but there are options on how to bewitch a lover without consequences at home and without a photo:

poppy ritual;
ritual with paper;
water spell;
ritual with knots;
love spell ritual.

After carefully reading each of the methods, you will choose the most suitable one to bewitch your loved one. Remember that you can dry out a guy even from a distance.

What to do if a man’s feelings have cooled

A secret relationship is a source of adrenaline for a man. Lack of variety leads to boredom and then indifference. If dates with your lover do not bring positive, emotional experiences, then your lover’s feelings may cool.

However, the man himself does not demand seriousness in the relationship from his mistress. He strives to get the feelings that he experienced in his youth, when attraction makes his head spin, pushing him to impulsive actions. Although guys want to appear masculine, they need romance and tenderness.

There is no recipe here. If you and your husband lack love, you will certainly become attached. But if it’s just sex, then it’s possible.

If you really limit yourself, then there will be fewer meetings, no overnight stays together, no discussions of feelings and declarations of love, no joint plans.

Sex and general topics.

And the calls - well, mine called often. Well, I called right away - there was no feeling that it would be wrong, he was always happy to call, even if I was at the wrong time.

IMHO, the main thing is, don’t even allow the thought that you can make changes in your family life

Remind yourself that your main value is keeping your family together. And this is just a pleasant pastime.

Falling in love is not so dangerous. The main thing is not to lose your head. A light hobby is for tone and youth! What a great mood!

But pussy suffering must be avoided)))

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Rules for conducting rituals

If you decide to conduct the ceremony at home, you must follow the following rules:

a love spell is carried out on the waxing phase of the moon on any day of the week except Sunday;
Before performing the ritual, loosen your hair and remove makeup;
You need to perform magic alone without witnesses; you should not share it with anyone after performing the ritual;
Focus and concentration are very important, so make sure there are no distractions.

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