Have you broken up, but don’t understand how you can let go of the man you love with all your heart? Do obsessive thoughts about him haunt you around the clock and darken your life? Has the whole huge world full of possibilities narrowed down to one single person with whom you are not currently together? It's time to shake yourself up and pull yourself together!
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Mental and emotional dependence on another person is an insidious phenomenon. It's akin to alcoholism. When you spend all your time and energy dreaming about another person, you are not in the real world. And you don't live your life. And this is very, very sad.
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Today you will learn how to let a man go, despite internal resistance. And why is it so important to do this if you want to get him back.
Letting go does not mean forgetting
The ability to let go of people, things, problems and obsessive thoughts in a timely manner is a vital skill for the psyche. After all, when we cling to someone or something with a death grip, we automatically stop developing. In addition, this position almost always brings us tension and pain. Try to clench your fists really, really hard and smile at the same time. It doesn't work out very well, right?
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You need to let your man go, regardless of whether you broke up with him or are on a break in the relationship. Letting go does not mean forgetting! Oddly enough, you can only get your man back when you completely let him go. In this case, letting go means removing the energetic attachment. Binding is an energy channel of communication between you and your chosen one. But the trouble is that it is one-sided. Thinking about a man, dreaming of intimacy with him, you give tons of your energy without receiving anything in return. This is where exhaustion, anxiety and apathy come from. There is no strength left for myself anymore. You simply ignore all personal desires and needs.
And this affects your appearance, what you wear. Moreover, how you show yourself in communication with others. An eternally sad face only evokes pity and a desire to stay away from you. For men, such a woman is very unattractive.
What will you get by learning to manage the situation competently?
You will be able to use the released energy, direct it to another activity, process, relationship, and thus continue to move forward. You will also save time, money, health and other resources that you will need on your life’s journey.
You will be able to glide from wave to wave like on a surf, constantly taking on new turns of development.
If you are a businessman, you can finally set goals and do it wisely, achieve them and discover new horizons for yourself, which is necessary for successful business development.
A new space will open up for relationships, new stages will begin that will allow you to avoid boredom, addiction and the accumulation of dissatisfaction with your partner.
You will be more able to look at the situation from above with a fresh look, and not plunge into it headlong and not get stuck in it, like in a swamp.
You will have more free time for yourself, your family and your hobbies.
Introspection
Sometimes it happens that we feel that we need to let a person go, because it will be better for both us and him. In this case, you need to analyze the situation in order to realize: without him, your life will change for the better. No matter how much your heart ache, no matter how nostalgia torments you, try to think rationally. Undoubtedly, this can be very difficult, but in some situations you just need to turn off your feelings. Therefore, if you yourself have decided to say goodbye to a person whose relationship has brought you troubles, praise yourself for your rationality and do not allow yourself to succumb to emotions. Each of us must choose the life and those people who bring us spiritual and emotional pleasure. Therefore, if you feel that you are uncomfortable around a person, you always need to let him go. And we’re not just talking about technical situations when you are offended. It happens that the relationship seems to be normal, even good, but you understand that you are not on the same path with this person, because you have different views, different attitudes towards situations, and so on. In this situation, you should not force yourself, explaining your behavior by saying that you feel sorry for the person, you have been friends for a long time, and so on. Sometimes we have to let go of even old friends, because we grow, change, gain experience, and with some people we simply diverge. And so that in the end your relationship does not end in mutual hatred, you just need to separate in time and let each other go.
Say no to nostalgia
Many of us cannot let go of a person because we constantly think about him, remember various situations, listen to songs that evoke associations associated with him, watch films with similar stories. With this approach and attitude, you will naturally not forget about the one you want to let go for a very long time. In some situations, it is easier for men in this regard, because they do not have the habit of talking about the same thing a hundred times, remembering every little thing, and so on. But girls constantly want to remember, discuss with friends the person who left their lives, as if this brings them some kind of pleasure. If you know that you are just such a woman, try to literally forbid yourself to fall into nostalgia. As soon as you feel like you want to talk about something, listen to a song or watch a movie, use your willpower to switch to something else. At first it will be very difficult for you, but over time you will get used to it and learn to control your emotions. When we fall into nostalgia, we ourselves want to suffer, because we believe that if we cry all our tears dry, it will become easier. There is indeed some truth in this: in order to survive something, you must first cry. But your sadness should not turn into a protracted depression, which is what constant nostalgia causes. So always try to live for today and not think about what once happened. In the past you have experienced good moments and they should remain in your memory, but if you constantly live only by them, then in the end your life today will go downhill. Always remember this and try at all costs to think only about the future.
Don't be selfish
It happens that we cannot let go of a person because we feel hurt and bad without him. And we are talking both about letting someone go to another city or country, and about simply giving a person more freedom of action and not tying him to oneself. The fact is that no matter how good and kind we are, every person is inherently selfish. It’s just that some people can restrain and control their selfishness, but for others such behavior is normal. If you cannot let go of a person for this very reason, remember what the concept of “true love” means. If we love a person sincerely and truly, then we always wish him well, we always wish him a life in which he will be as happy as possible. And even if this life begins to take place in another city, or even country, if for this life he needs people besides you, you must come to terms with this and wish the person happiness. You love him, you love him so much that you can’t let go. This means that, guided by your love, you need to realize that it will be happiness for this person to give him the opportunity to get what he wants. Of course, no one says that it will be easy and simple for you. But try to imagine how he laughs happily, how his eyes light up. Think about this every time you feel sad and want to tie a person to you. The more you think about his happiness, the easier it will be for you to come to terms with the fact that you are no longer as close as before. Especially if this person is really dear to you. You'll just appreciate meetings more.
Matter of habit
Very often we cannot let go of a person because we are simply accustomed to certain things, pastimes, and so on. In fact, we are not as attached to a person as to a measured life in which there are no surprises and everything seems to be planned out in advance. Naturally, when such a person disappears, we have a lot of free time with nothing to occupy it and we become scared. That's why we start to miss people and try to bring them back. But in fact, instead of chasing the past, you need to learn to look for new activities, hobbies, and so on. Instead of suffering without a person, just change your life, start doing what you couldn’t do with him. We are sure that you had desires for which you simply did not have enough time. Then it seemed to you that you could do without it, but if you analyze the situation again, now that you have free time, rest assured that you will understand how much you haven’t done and how many unfulfilled desires you have left. So do this, instead of staring at the wall and tormenting yourself that your planned life no longer corresponds to the schedule that once developed and became familiar to you. Rest assured, some time will pass and you will understand that the new way of life is no less interesting for you than the old one. There is no need to become too attached to a certain lifestyle. Changing things up from time to time is a very good thing. So remember this, and that the person you loved and perhaps still love, gave you the opportunity to learn something new.
Life is a series of partings and meetings. Sometimes even with dearly loved and close people our paths diverge. At such a moment, you need to gain strength and let the person go from your thoughts. But how to do this if your heart is torn to pieces?
Let yourself go
If you remove the energetic connection to your loved one, the connection between you will still remain. But it won't be toxic. You will remember him, and he will remember you. But at the same time, you will feel like a separate person and will be able to fully control all your actions towards a man. And he will lose his power over you. For example, he won't be able to use you for a one-night stand. You will have the strength to resist temptation and stick to your line. You yourself understand that physical contact with a person who is not with you emotionally and mentally brings even greater suffering. While a real relationship is an equal exchange and a conscious desire to go through life together.
Goodbye unrequited love!
It is extremely difficult to forget a person loved with all your heart and soul. But it’s even worse if you love, but they don’t love you. You won’t be nice by force, so unrequited love must be erased from life. A psychologist's advice on how to let go of a loved one from your thoughts is as follows:
- Look at the object of your longing again. Most likely, you idolized him and awarded him with traits that he did not have at all. You can't waste time on a person who doesn't even see your efforts.
- There is no need to live with expectations. You can live in unrequited love for a long time. But is it worth it? Your loved one lives in the present and enjoys life. So you do the same, having first told him: “Goodbye!” It is possible to look into the future by analyzing relationships in the past. For example, you have been the mistress of a married man for 2 years. He periodically comes with flowers, complains about his wife, and you hope that he will someday get a divorce and you will finally live happily. If this did not happen in 2 years, then it will never happen.
- Keep your distance. If you decide to throw a person out of your head, then it is better not to see him. When the “irritant” is not in sight, it is much easier to wean yourself off the person.
- Don't blame yourself. Anything can happen in life. There is also a positive side - experience. You've learned a valuable lesson and now know better what you want.
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In any situation, if you decide to let go of someone close to you, there is one universal piece of advice. Love yourself first. Self-love is a manifestation of healthy selfishness. This is how it should be, there is nothing reprehensible in this.
Fill your life with your hobbies, go to fitness, go fishing, meet friends more often, travel. This way you will live your life, and you will hardly notice that you have let the person go. One day you will be surprised to notice that enough time has passed without you even remembering it.
How to let a man go - in practice
Imagine energy ropes stretching from your body towards your loved one. Observe which zone they come from. These are probably the heart and sex centers (the heart area and the area below the navel). Pay attention to how powerful the flow of energy is from you to your chosen one. Make the decision to get all your energy back and start living your life to the fullest. And then imagine golden scissors with which you cut these energy ropes, no matter how thick they are. Do this practice several times. Thank the man for the lessons he taught and set him free. This freedom is vital for him now, just as it is for you.
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Come back to yourself
In a full-fledged relationship, there must be two personalities - you and your loved one. Is it necessary to let go of someone dear to your heart at least in order to understand who you are? What are your aspirations, desires, needs? What is happiness for you, besides relationships?
Imagine that all the energy that has been going to your loved one for months now belongs only to you. It is your responsibility to use it to its maximum advantage. Think about what things make you happy, write them down and hang the list on your refrigerator. It could be little things - delicious food, flowers, massage, shopping. And also some new activity, hobby, a feeling of involvement in some interesting business or circle of people.
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In order to develop and gain experience, you need to communicate with different people. During this period, it is advisable to expand your circle of contacts as much as possible and open the heart of the Universe.
So what is next?..
There will be a lot of “goodies” after you truly let your man go. Firstly, your appetite will improve, you will have a passion for life, an interest in people and new things. Secondly, your eyes will sparkle and your sexual energy will return. Accordingly, men's interest in you will increase significantly. And thirdly, sensing that the flow of energy on your part has stopped, your loved one will soon appear again. Perhaps he will even immediately offer to start all over again.
It’s up to you to decide whether to dive headfirst into an old, painful relationship, or not to rush, or maybe build it in a new way. But remember that the most important value is not someone else, but you, your personal comfort and peace of mind.
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Why don’t you let go of thoughts about a person?
If you can’t forget someone, it means that person was very important to you. Your feelings for him are very strong, so your thoughts always return to him. Or the object caused you a lot of offense and disappointment. And now you have negative feelings towards him or even a desire for revenge for everything he caused to you. In any case, you should abandon unnecessary thoughts as quickly as possible. So that they don’t lie like a dead weight in your soul. Case from practice:
Irina’s story: “For a very long time, thoughts about my former, beloved husband haunted me. We were together for 6 years, legally married for 3 years. The separation turned out to be very quick and unexpected. In just a month, his attitude changed a lot. All my attempts to please were in vain.
After which he left without really explaining anything. For 1.5 years I waited for him to return and say that he was mistaken and ask for forgiveness. But instead I found out that he married someone else and they were expecting a child. It was a real shock! I realized that I couldn’t handle it on my own.
The feelings never cooled down; I didn’t even want to look at other men. I decided to see a psychologist. I was very pleased with the result. After a few sessions, I became much calmer about the situation and was able to accept it.
Gradually I realized that life goes on and thoughts about my ex left me. Only a psychologist helped me start building new relationships.”
