How to find a normal guy? For relationships, love and family (V.V. Mukhin)

How to find a normal guy on a dating site?

Having lost faith in colleagues, classmates or neighbors, more and more girls trust their fate to dating sites. According to statistics, only up to 10% of men have an unsatisfactory attitude towards enterprising women who first start dating by correspondence. Yes, our males are all “hunters” at heart, but often without a push they may not pay attention to the girl.

Let's look at some tips on how to find a normal guy on dating sites:

1. There is a category of “momba-dependent” people who constantly hang out on websites, even regardless of their marital status. Take a closer look at the person's account. If he has more than 2000-3000 views, then it is undesirable to contact him. Normal guys who are actually looking for a girlfriend for life rarely have more than 3 contacts.
2. The situation is similar with user photos posted on websites. If there are up to fifty or more pictures posted, then with a greater degree of probability this is a narcissistic type. Serious guys try to post no more than 3-5 of the most impressive photos on such resources.
3. Try not to delay communication with “virtual interlocutors.” Such people can drag their feet for months, bombarding them with promises, delaying a date in real life by any means necessary.
4. Men who are seriously interested in meeting share their contact numbers themselves, expressing a desire for a closer acquaintance.

It is important not only to know the most likely places to find a normal guy, but also to properly prepare yourself for the upcoming changes. Excessive narcissism, complexes, reluctance to change habits and other nuances can interfere with this matter. Try to change for the better not only your appearance, but also your personal qualities.

Sequencing

1. Some girls believe that there is no need to think about how to find a guy; they believe that the betrothed will find them himself. This opinion is wrong. As you know, water does not flow under a lying stone. Therefore, young ladies need to act. Stop crying and getting upset over trifles, complaining about your loneliness. Realize why you are looking for a partner: for a serious relationship or light flirting is enough for you.
2. Imagine the image of the young man you dream of. Think about how he should look, what he should do, what character he should have, what habits. Do some visualization. Imagine where and how your meeting will take place, what the first date will be like. This will make it easier to find the ideal guy among the crowd of young people.
3. Now you need to start improving your inner world and appearance. Don't forget that the first thing men pay attention to is appearance. This applies to your figure, hairstyle, manicure, proper makeup, clean and ironed clothes. Try to look at yourself from the outside; perhaps your image is imperfect in some way and needs to be corrected. You should not immediately be upset if your appearance does not correspond to the accepted standard of beauty in society. In fact, there are many men with their own tastes, there are also those who can’t stand skinny girls and are crazy about fat girls.
4. If you are looking for a guy to start a family, then you need to take care of the right selection of clothes and shoes. The outfit should not be vulgar and should not in any way hint at an intimate relationship. You need to choose clothes that would favorably emphasize your advantages and hide your shortcomings.
5. Analyze your inner world. Think about whether you have bad character traits. Perhaps it's time to change something about yourself. Remember that guys love kind, caring, affectionate girls. They also pay great attention to the ability and desire to self-develop and improve.

The most likely reasons why you can't find a guy

1. Men try to avoid constantly whining crybabies and girls with extremely low self-esteem. Love yourself, a confident woman, like a magnet attracts strangers into her environment.
2. If you constantly encounter negative individuals who completely fail to meet the requirements, simply change your search location. Remember, intellectuals do not hang out at biker gatherings, and cool rappers avoid the silence of libraries.
3. The first meeting often does not help to fully assess personal qualities. Even completely sane men often hesitate when meeting strangers, develop complexes, and speak outright nonsense. Give a chance for a second try, take a closer look, maybe at the second meeting the guy will be able to open up better.
4. If a woman torments herself with reproaches about why I can’t find a boyfriend, but at the same time you are delightful, witty and beautiful, then the problem does not lie in your appearance. Strong personalities often do not notice how, when communicating, they accidentally strike at self-esteem and suppress the interlocutor, causing a desire to run away from an overly self-confident and caustic person.
5. Complete intolerance for shortcomings is one of the main reasons for loneliness. It should be understood that we ourselves are not fairies who feed on rainbows and farting butterflies, which means that we will still have to come to terms with some less than ideal traits of our partners.

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Suitable places for dating

Let's look at what are the best places to meet and where to find a guy.

1. Parties and holidays. Young people should attend all kinds of events where many girls and boys gather. This is a place where you can meet new people and even find your destiny.
2. Public places. This could be a visit to the theater, a cafe or going to an exhibition. A girl can be standing at a bus stop, and a stranger will approach her. It is important that she does not get confused, does not start to feel embarrassed, and recognizes her future suitor in time. A girl who goes out on the street should know that there are a lot of guys around her every day. You need to be open to meeting people and look around, suddenly your destiny is somewhere nearby.
3. If you are thinking about how to quickly find a guy, then you need to know that dating on a social network is especially popular today. Here you can find a man who will attract a girl’s attention with his appearance and figure. After studying the information on his page, the young lady will be able to understand whether they have anything in common. After that, she will be able to start communication herself. Besides, communicating online is not as scary as in real life. Today, approximately 50% of people meet on the Internet. Even if you can’t find a boyfriend, then relax, learn to communicate with young people without feeling excessively shy or anxious. And this will be useful in the future when communicating with men in real life.

I met my husband on VKontakte. The first date took place a year after the correspondence began.

How to find the guy of your dreams

Girls dream of a relationship with their dream guy, but many fail to find him. There are many reasons, it is pointless to consider them. It is better to concentrate on solving the problem and achieving the goal. This is not difficult to do if you wait patiently, forgetting about the fear of loneliness.

There is no place for coincidences in life. Man himself builds his destiny with his thoughts, decisions and actions. There are exceptions, but they are beyond our control.

1. Decide what your dream guy is. If you search for a person without knowing what qualities he should have, you will not find him.
2. The search will be successful if you change yourself. Life is an illusion, and every person gets in reality what he imagines and imagines. Material on how to become attractive to men will help with this.
3. Open up to communication. If you don’t meet and communicate with members of the opposite sex, you won’t find your soulmate. Just don’t forget that a young man’s greatest fear is rejection. If he sees such an attitude, he will not approach.
4. Don't focus on the problem. On the contrary, relax and continue living, hoping for the best.
5. Try to constantly visualize. Mentally imagine the man with whom you dream of living your life. Think about going to a cafe together, walking in the park, or vacationing abroad.
6. Men want to see the girl of their dreams next to them. Try to become one. You are still alone, because life is closed from communication with men and does not change.
7. Believe in a happy life. Happiness is a pleasant feeling, the illusion of which is created by a person. Let go of thoughts that something is missing.
8. Go through life with a smile. A smile is the bait that the long-awaited man with whom you will celebrate more than one wedding anniversary will fall for.

If you want to be loved and desired, do not lock yourself within four walls. Appear on the street more often and the guy will pay attention to you.

Places where you can meet a guy

After you have examined your behavior and corrected your appearance, you can begin the search for the treasured prince. To do this, think about what kind of young man you would like to meet, and visit places where such guys can be.

• Gym. By regularly visiting the gym, you will eventually get to know those guys who also devote a lot of time to sports. As a rule, these are purposeful and serious young people who monitor their health and development (unlike those who sit on a bench in the yard with a can of beer all day long). So, the answer to the question of where to find a handsome guy is: in the gym.
• Cafes and nightclubs. It is these establishments that are most popular among girls who do not know where to get a guy. The easiest place to make acquaintances is in a cafe and entertainment club. The main thing is not to show that you are here looking for a partner for one night. Don't let guys think that you're easy to get if you meet him at a nightclub. Have fun and dance, spend time with your friends. And soon you will definitely attract the attention of a handsome young man.
• Public transport. For many years, public transport has been the most common place to meet a guy and fall in love at first sight. Be polite in public. Behave like a decent girl, and it is on this bus that the guy of your dreams will turn his attention to you.
• Social media. The easiest way to find an MCH is to meet him on a page on a social network. Join interest groups and chat about your favorite topics on forums. Thus, the likelihood of meeting a young man who is right for you increases much faster. If you are united by common interests, such communication will grow into more much faster. If you liked a handsome young man on a social network, leave a comment under his photo. Perhaps he will write to you soon. If he didn’t consider it necessary to answer, it means you weren’t interested in him. Don't be afraid to keep searching and believe in yourself.
• Holidays and parties. Do not refuse invitations to attend this or that event. It is at friends' parties that bright acquaintances occur. And this is where the normal guys are. Put on your beautiful dress. Do a chic hairstyle and light makeup, and go ahead in search of happiness. The whole world will be at your feet. Don’t be shy to get acquainted, cast aside doubts and embarrassments. After all, you deserve the best lover in the world.
• Resort. It's easy to meet a cool young man on vacation. At this time, people are relaxed and do not think about pressing problems, so acquaintance takes place in a relaxed atmosphere. However, do not forget that on vacation you can also meet young men who are looking for fleeting hobbies. If you are planning a long-term relationship, let the young man understand this so that he does not waste his and your time.

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— Where to find a normal guy!?

- my roommate would sometimes say, and then she would sit on the bed, press herself against the wall and sadly look out the window... A couple of years later, her “prince” drove up in a car literally to the doorstep of the house and himself met the “wretch.” Now they are raising their daughter. What can I say - lucky... To find true love or at least a relationship not burdened with responsibility, not everyone just needs to be bored at the window. Where and how modern girls “set nets” for the stronger sex, we decided to find out first-hand...

Feed him and... own him

Elena is the most popular girl in the student dormitory, although she does not admit it. Instead of sweatpants, she puts on a cute satin robe, makes sure her manicure is impeccable, and puts on eyeliner. Everything would be fine, but the girl is going... to the kitchen of the hostel.

“When I entered, my mother was apparently very worried that I would “die of hunger,” and therefore the first thing she did was not buy me a laptop, but a set of pots and two frying pans,” Elena says with a smile.

First - proven “homemade” dishes, then - recipes from the Internet and “improvisation”. The student boys who ran into the kitchen began to stop longer and longer to “drool” while looking at the delicious legs. Chicken, of course, stewed with garlic and beans, pre-marinated in mayonnaise. The most interesting thing is that after a while Elena began to feel sorry for these owners of hungry eyes. He will feed someone, share with someone... And in the evening, many, in the hope of “continuing the relationship,” come to get-togethers.

- I don’t know why, but this method really works. Now, when someone asks how to please a guy, I advise you to cook something for him,” says Elena. To my question about the robe and manicure, she modestly laughs it off: “It won’t hurt!”

Choose the best of the “maniacs”

“Let me touch your tender neck, cover it with kisses, then go lower, and then even lower...” This is one of the most harmless messages from guys that Katya showed me on her laptop. According to her, all girls who are going to find a partner on a dating site should be prepared to respond adequately to such “wannabes.”

At twenty-four years old, Katya experienced an unpleasant breakup with a guy who meant a lot to her.

— To get out of depression, I started going to a psychologist, and he advised me to learn how to simply communicate with men, talk to them, express my opinion, listen and not “get hung up” on obligatory long-term relationships.

Having registered on the site, Katya was pleasantly surprised that in the first half hour more than 50 people wrote to her. But when I read it, my impression changed a little. Many offered sex in the very first message, but when they did not receive a response, they were sincerely surprised: “Well, don’t “break!”.” True, there were also normal guys who wrote something about themselves, looking for common topics for conversation. But if you come across one, consider yourself lucky.

“In the evening I turned on the computer to check my messages, and sometimes I said: “Well, how are my “maniacs” doing?” - the girl laughs.

Katya was convinced: in such a search you cannot hope that you will find your love, but you can count on the appearance of interesting interlocutors and cheerful friends in your life. But going on a date after the first few messages is quite risky. Somehow, out of inexperience, Katya decided to meet a virtual acquaintance. The guy came in with an unbuttoned jacket (and this was in November!), under which... he didn’t wear anything else. So among the “maniacs” you need to choose only the most adequate ones.

When you're in the club they go crazy

In order for this to happen, the first girl’s task is to buy herself short dresses and “miraculous” shoes, in which it is comfortable to dance and your legs look longer. Veronica and Nadya, who became friends thanks to the same rented apartment, claim that such high-heeled shoes exist. They also often talk about meeting guys in clubs.

— Many girls think that they need to come, sit at the bar and “put on” an unapproachable appearance. On the contrary, guys immediately think about such girls: “Yeah, she’s waiting for adventure,” says Nadya.

The girls do not use any special “bewitching” techniques. It’s simple: if you want to be noticed, but not labeled as a slut, it’s better to come in a group, and also, dance a lot, and don’t stand modestly on the side.

Veronica, for example, knows how to “light up” on the dance floor, and therefore she does not have to suffer from lack of attention:

— As always, I was having a blast when a guy who introduced himself as Denis “danced up” to me. We met and went on dates for two months. It all ended when he met... his girlfriend in the city!

This certainly ruined my mood, but it didn’t force me to give up dating at the club. By the way, Veronica and Nadya have a friend who became afraid to meet in this way after one incident. One day, an unfamiliar girl approached Yana and started a conversation with her. The girls danced together all evening, laughed and joked. A new friend even gave her a ride home. And the next day, a “club” friend (at least that’s how Yana perceived her) sent flowers and a postcard with a proposal... to start a romantic relationship.

New dress - new life

In Christina’s wardrobe now you can hardly find comfortable sweaters, jeans and T-shirts. They are taken out of the closet only for trips out of town. And for all other occasions - dresses, skirts that fit tightly to the figure, blouses with a neckline.

— The first thing I noticed when I started wearing exactly this kind of clothes: asking men for something became much easier. And get to know them too. More precisely, they get to know each other very often. It’s enough to turn around correctly, walk, sit beautifully or effectively cross your legs,” Christina is sure.

That's how she met her current boyfriend, whom she's been dating for almost a year. Our “sorceress” hopes that the dress she wore that day will be shown to her children and grandchildren.

— I am in no way saying that you need to “expose” most of all. It’s just that femininity and attractiveness should prevail in the image,” says Christina.

The main advantage of the “dress” method, according to her, is the ability to attract the attention of guys anywhere: even in a club, even in line for wallpaper.

Shame or triumph?

Julia fell hopelessly in love when she was nineteen years old. The guy studied in the same group with her fifth-year neighbors, and therefore often went into the room where the girl lived. For some reason, the object of love was in no hurry to get acquainted with Yulia. He only said hello when we met at the university, but he never even asked for his name. Six months passed, and Yulia still remained “furniture” in the room of his fellow students.

“For some reason, in such cases there is no shame,” says Yulia and tells a story that simply cannot happen to the “right” person, at first glance...

…It wasn’t difficult to persuade the neighbors to take her for a walk on a Saturday evening. He also had to go. Well, we met: evening, frost, night streets. How do students warm themselves? It is known what! Julia secretly poured the contents of the glass into the snow, but she herself pretended to be drunk. (“Either triumph or shame! There is no third option” was her motto that evening).

- Take me Home! - she asked the unapproachable fifth-year student with unexpected courage. And he didn’t refuse! The neighbors smiled ambiguously, said goodbye and went on their walk.

“It’s so funny for me to remember how we passed by the watchman, how in the room I pretended that I couldn’t take off my boots myself, and he had to pull them off me,” Yulia recalls.

The guy turned out to be honest, and therefore, after putting Yulia to bed, he went to his room. What then? Julia says that no romantic relationship occurred between them. This slightly stupid step, apparently, was the cure for love.

Tatyana Gais, November 28, 2013. Source: newspaper “Zvyazda”,

translated: https://zviazda.by/2013/11/23485.html

What's stopping you from finding a young man?

1. A girl will remain alone for a long time if she sets too high demands on her chosen one. In such a situation, it is better to think about whether you meet all the criteria that you put forward for the prospective candidate. No need to be too demanding.
2. Having bad habits. Not every guy wants to meet a young lady who smokes or abuses alcohol.
3. Girls' mistake: comparing all possible candidates with a former lover.
4. It is difficult for a young lady to start a relationship when there are negative experiences, grievances, and a broken heart in the past. It is important to be able to survive what happened once and begin to live in the present.
5. A girl’s complexes cause great difficulties in building new relationships. If they are dictated by the presence of some shortcomings in appearance, it’s time to accept yourself as you are, to love yourself for what you have. If you cannot cope with your fears on your own, it is better to seek advice from a psychologist.

Flirting guy

Some girls are not ready for a serious relationship and agree to settle for flirting and short-term relationships. Not all women are capable of long-term sexual abstinence and need an appropriate therapeutic effect. Therefore, some ladies are looking for a gentleman for one night and do not want to burden themselves with a serious relationship.

Easy relationships in real life can be found at such events:

• On a rest. A holiday romance is one of the types of easy, short-term and unburdensome relationships. A holiday romance leaves pleasant memories, filled with passion and romance. The main thing is that the girl understands that the connection will be severed as soon as the train starts moving or the plane takes off into the sky. Boarding houses intended for the treatment of elderly people should not be considered as a vacation. But popular domestic and foreign resorts are precisely those places where there are great opportunities for easy relationships that end upon arrival home.
• In the cafe. In any entertainment establishment it is easy to meet a man who is not against intimate communication. In such places, people are in a good mood, they are open and will not mind the company of a nice girl. One of the men will definitely treat you to a cocktail and offer a more intimate setting.
• At work. If a single woman spends a lot of time at work, she can find the same colleague who does not have time to look for a sexual partner.

Often people are connected only by sex, and if both partners are happy with it, there is nothing reprehensible in it. And not only men are looking for easy relationships. Some modern young women are also not against one-night stands and do not want to settle on one partner.

Intimate dating on the Internet

For a short-term relationship, it’s easy to find a guy on the Internet. But there is some risk in this. In real life, a man may not be who he says he is and may not match his avatar photo. But if you set out to find an intimate partner, it is better to use trusted sites such as Tinder and OkCupid. These are international and popular services that offer entertainment and easy dating for people living around the world.

Despite the large number of registered users, such sites have their drawbacks. Men post outdated photos in which they are much younger than they are now. Among the applicants there are strange personalities and downright vulgar guys. Whether to choose this method of dating or not is a personal matter, but you definitely need to be careful and not agree to a meeting after a few insignificant phrases.

You can also find intimate dating on any sites where people are looking for a partner for a serious relationship. For this kind of communication, you need to choose the right words and correctly convey your desires to a stranger sitting on the other side of the monitor.

Appearances and passwords

Often, intimate dates take place in unfamiliar apartments and are accompanied by a secret password. “Yavka” is a secret apartment where strangers meet and agree to spend the night or a couple of hours with the same unknown person.

To recognize each other, lovers use a password - a secret phrase that is discussed in advance in order to recognize each other.

These words (appearance-password) were borrowed from spies and secret agents who made appointments at secret apartments and began a conversation only after code words.

Currently, passwords are used in online dating to make it easier to recognize a person when meeting. In addition, such secrecy gives the relationship an edge and a spirit of adventure in the style of a spy thriller or action movie.

To find a guy, you need to let more people into your life. Do not avoid contact with the outside world, be welcoming and friendly. Pay attention to the way the men around you look at you, and think about which of them has been dreaming of a date for a long time. We must remember that even by leaving the house for fifteen minutes, you can meet your destiny and your future husband.

Where to find a good guy

Perhaps you don’t want a “normal” guy, instead you want to find a good guy , someone you can take a closer look at first and “get used to” and who is very likely (and therefore good) to keep you company in your old age. Then here is a small list of “places” where you can find a good guy:

• work or school (driving school, computer courses, etc.);
• friends or acquaintances of your friends, whom you can observe for some time, drawing appropriate conclusions;
• your friends, yes, they are the ones who know you very well, and if they decide to “start up” a relationship with you, then the likelihood of a strong and long relationship increases greatly.

In conclusion , you can also try to find a guy by phone, but this option is quite difficult to calculate, so we’ll “cut him down in the bud.” You shouldn’t rely too much on chance... I would like to believe that you have already chosen your option, and, regardless of what kind of guy you want to find, everything will work out for you. Good luck!