How to become cruel and cold-blooded. How to be cool-blooded in any situation? Realize that you can control your emotions

The scale of your personality is determined by the magnitude of the problem that can drive you crazy - Sigmund Freud.

Composure is one of the most necessary qualities in modern living conditions. When everything is speeding up furiously, when problems surround you, when selfish people are annoying you, you just want to feel nothing and take all this chaos under your breath. In these moments, you realize the importance of calm and indifference in achieving your goals.

And to move from awareness to practice, you need to completely change your personality. In this article we will look at how to do this and what exactly needs to be done.

This may seem wrong to some, but in our situation we will have to show not our best qualities. One of them is selfishness.

You must accept it as a principle that you don’t owe anyone anything.

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This is completely your life and you decide what, how and when to do. There are basic values - love, work, family and friends, and the rest - problems, circumstances, ill-wishers, emotions - are just garbage. You need to throw this garbage out of your head and focus on the main thing
. This will allow you to start managing it yourself.

#2 Become better than others

Not only do you just need to show selfishness, you also need to raise your authority. At least for myself.

Composure is a constant state, expressed in complete calm and confidence. And for this confidence to appear, you need to feel like you’re on a horse all the time.

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Become cool. Don't give up, be proud, be indifferent to criticism. This is a matter of your self-esteem
. If you feel depressed, there will be no peace. This will be described in other words - fear, humiliation and despondency. On the outside you will look quiet, but on the inside you will be like a piece of bread that is used by everyone.

This doesn't mean you have to become an asshole. This means that you need to do something useful and... In training, in work, in your hobby - to become the best without any alternative. You need to reach a state in which no other people or circumstances can intimidate you with their “power”.

#3 Send everything and everyone

Let circumstances take their course. If something is really bothering you, just turn your back on it with the words “screw it, come what may!”

Cool people don't worry too much about their problems. If something can be fixed, they, of course, get involved in working with it. If something cannot be changed, they simply go with the flow, maintaining their endurance and patience. In 5, 10 or 20 this problem will not matter at all

, so there is no need to be nervous about wasting your health.

#4 Maintain external calm

The external state directly affects the internal. By the way you dress, how you put your hands in front of you, how you speak, you can find out what is going on in your soul.

Of course, you can pretend to be cool and constantly restrain yourself. But still, your character will come out through nervous movements, twitches, a ringing voice and uneven breathing. Therefore, in addition to internal changes, external ones must also be added. Here's what to do:

Stop jerking your leg when sitting
Stop constantly walking from side to side when you think
Breathe deeply and rhythmically
Speak in a calm and even voice
Think more before expressing a thought

Honestly, I don't think you can become a frozen machine and adhere to all these recommendations. But if your motives are strong enough

, then it is only a matter of desire and time.

#5 State of body = state of mind

This is a small addition to the previous point. Sometimes you are simply overworked and because of this you overdramatize the situation. Your body is tired, fed up with everything, and even the smallest problem can throw you off track. This occurs either due to heavy physical activity or due to a sedentary lifestyle at the computer.

In the first case, good sleep helps, in the second - regular exercise. And the best solution would be to combine these two processes.

#6 Organize your life

It is difficult to become calm when you are surrounded by chaos and disorder. Going there, picking up this, talking to this, meeting that - all this shakes the nervous system and makes you irritable. Even the calmest person in such a situation can lash out at family and friends.

To prevent this, you need to surround yourself with a calm atmosphere

. Clean things up, watch less negative TV shows and videos. By all means you need to limit the number of irritants so that they do not disrupt your equanimity and self-control.

Ecology of life: Negative emotions such as anger, aggression and irritation take up a lot of mental strength. In this regard, we will consider methods for suspending them

Negative emotions such as anger, aggression and irritation take up a lot of mental strength. In this regard, we will consider methods for suspending them, technical techniques, as well as three effective ways to gain composure in any critical situations.

Negative emotions, especially such as anger, aggression and irritation, take up a lot of mental strength, and therefore it is advisable to fall into such a state as little as possible, which seriously complicates entrepreneurial activity and, naturally, does not provide the opportunity to create a positive business image. In this regard, it makes sense to consider technical techniques and methods for their suspension

1. Always separate the person and the problem. Focus on her. After all, she is more important. This will switch you from an emotional level to a rational one. Then it is simpler and easier to resolve the contradiction. In addition, such a switch frees one from affect, a violent emotional reaction, in which consciousness is switched off and the process of behavior is not controlled.

2. Imagine another person in your place. How would he behave in this situation? Play the role of this person. This will help you forget about yourself and cool down your anger.

3. You can imagine such a picture. There is a glass wall between you and your partner. You see his irritated gestures, but you don't hear what he says. There will be no need to respond with a “growl.” Select some detail in his wardrobe (a poorly sewn button, a tie that has gone to one side, etc.), look at it carefully, and say thoughtfully: “You will lose a button, but there are no such things on sale.” You will hear in response: “What the hell is a button!” Show: “This one.”

4. You are seething with anger, you are ready to express offensive words to your partner, but overcome yourself: calmly, you are confident, you control yourself. Smile or fake a muscular smile. Imagine how funny your smile is.

The following three methods of self-soothing are also very useful.

1. Rationalization of anger. This method requires, first of all, to comprehend the reason that gave rise to anger and give it a different meaning. You were ruled by your emotions and your mind was asleep. Wake him up. Learn the lessons.

Look for anything positive about what happened. It's always there. Find it, and the situation will look a little different.

In anger, as a rule, a person achieves almost nothing. And you also achieved nothing by giving free rein to your emotions. Ask yourself: “Is what I haven’t achieved very important to me?” After such questions, you should feel funny if you have humor.

Analyze whether your partner had the same motives and intentions that you think about? Did he really want to humiliate you with his words or actions?

Check yourself again and mentally ask yourself if you have done everything to prevent your partner from behaving rudely and offensively. Apparently, he was dissatisfied with your actions, to be honest. Tell yourself: “Yes, this guy must have tremendous restraint and great respect for me so as not to lose his temper.”

2. Visualization of anger. His technique is aimed at experiencing an event that will cool down the anger. For example, some person offended you. You are angry with him. But if you could see this person in some humiliating situation, you would have a feeling of satisfaction (“Serves you right”), perhaps even pity for him. And your anger would most likely disappear.

The visualization technique teaches how to play out the entire conflict situation in the imagination, as if on an internal screen, and thereby extinguish anger. To visualize, you need to relax, focus on internal sensations and normalize your breathing. The following options for visualizing anger can be recommended:

1) reduce the height of the person who caused your anger. Let him be a dwarf, a gnome or a bug;

2) try to see this person in a funny way;

3) imagine anger in the form of a beam of energy that goes through you into the ground;

4) come up with a scene of imaginary revenge against your offender and enjoy revenge (only in the imagination, of course). published

People with cold hearts are those who cannot be reached emotionally. They are not affectionate and do not exude warmth. In this article, we will give you some tips on how to recognize a person with a cold heart.

“...I call people with a cold heart people who are withdrawn, depressed and far from deep feelings and experiences. From those who are abstracted even from themselves, you should not expect reciprocity - they will not be able to give you what they are not able to experience on their own,” says psychologist and author Leon F. Seltzer.

Most of your reactions are normal.

The title of this chapter is the most important golden rule you need to understand to begin with. Many people lack the awareness that they are, in fact, completely normal and that their reactions are completely natural.

In an attempt to become a cool-headed person, you may lose your strengths. Why do you want to become calmer, cool down towards people? You, but spent nerves, indicate that a certain person is dear to you and you are worried about your future.

For example, you often express your dissatisfaction with your husband, but doesn’t this mean that you are showing yourself at this moment as a caring woman? Don't they show your responsible attitude and professional approach to business?

By being cold-blooded towards everything you can lose everyone. Will she become completely different, deprived of benefits, advantages, brightness? Think about it, sometimes reconciling and accepting yourself as you are is the best solution available.

Next time, think about whether they are normal and what positive qualities they indicate. If you want to become a little calmer, I can offer some useful tips from psychology.

Goblin Slayer

An anime where Mr. takes revenge and kills goblins - due to tragic events that occurred in his childhood. Burning with hatred before the green obscurantists, the main character becomes an expert in exterminating vile creatures. Despite the disdainful attitude of his fellow adventurers, he continues to follow his line and live for one goal - the extermination of goblins.

Perhaps Goblin Slayer has 3 advantages over other series. Firstly, this is shocking content that is dumped on the viewer in episode 1 like a bucket of slop. Secondly, this is a fantasy world, made in the best traditions of D&D, without any random people. Thirdly, there is Orcbolg himself, who acts as a silent avenger and has an invisible charm.

If you are tired of the regular summoned schoolchildren and imbecile heroes, then Goblin Slayer will be a balm for your sore soul. Highly recommended viewing.

Don't share

The next time you are faced with a challenge that makes you feel strong emotions, try to first breathe out and approach it rationally. Do not rush to retell it to your loved one or loved ones. Don't call your friends. The interlocutor will only inflame you, you will be more nervous and worried.

You need to instill in yourself the rule - solve the problem where it arises, and not talk about it. Give yourself some time to cool down and then see what you can do to resolve the situation. Of course, you can turn to your loved ones for help or advice, but do not shift the decision making to them.

If you forbid yourself from discussing the incident, what will you do in this case?

Examples of cruelty from life

Life is cruel, what does that mean?

When they say that life is cruel , they mean the ruthlessness of some events.

Often, this is a personal assessment that is subjective in nature.

Life seems merciless and harsh to those who have faced strong shocks that have left a mark on the psyche and character (the death of a loved one, betrayal, the death of a child, a serious illness).

In addition to them, there are people with a negative, pessimistic view of current events. In fact, everyone determines the shade of life independently , someone notices good deeds, and someone screams about total injustice.

Common examples of cruelty include murder, rape, assault, and acts of vandalism. As for near or non-criminal actions, frame-ups, psychological violence (abuse), betrayal, betrayal.

All these actions, as you can see, are instinctive . A person cannot cope with sexual instinct, resorts to rape or affairs on the side.

A person cannot cope with the hierarchical instinct (the desire to become the best, to take a high place in the hierarchy), and kills another out of envy.

Life is biological ; people sometimes tend to slip into animal behavior. And this is worth remembering. That sometimes even the most noble people can not show their best side.

A person is driven by needs that can be satisfied with the help of resources (money, connections, capital).

And there is competition . And not everyone is ready to compete fairly.

This is why cruelty, unceremoniousness, and rudeness occur in everyday life.

Rejoice

No matter how many techniques you learn to be cool, the deciding factor will be your... Most often, you immediately forget about all the techniques as soon as a real problem arises. Enjoy the opportunity to change everything. Now is your chance to practice. You can spend several years studying Zen, but when faced with adversity, you lose your temper.

As soon as you have the opportunity, be cool and indifferent, at least outwardly, and then be sure to praise yourself and give yourself a gift for doing the right thing. This is how, bit by bit, you can become a new person.

Golgo 13

An anime where he is a professional cold-blooded killer sniper. "Golgo-13" is the alias of a professional killer. His real name is Duke Togo. His sphere of communication includes both law enforcement agencies and officials with the mafia. A kind of agent 47 in Japan always works alone and takes on the most complex orders. The series is a collection of various stories that revolve around the legendary sniper.

Literature

It is impossible to describe all the techniques that will help in one article. Fortunately, there are a lot of excellent books on this topic that have become bestsellers. I would like to recommend some of them to you.

In Osho's book Meditations for Busy People. You will find a whole scattering of techniques that will help you get rid of stress at the most critical moment. You will understand where experiences come from, you will be able to establish control of the mind over the body, you will learn how to meditate while eating, sex, and penetrate into silence when there are screams around and the situation is out of control. You will learn to turn to the voice of your heart and mind when others think it is impossible.

If you prefer a psychological approach to problems, then I recommend reading “Resilience to Stress” by Sharon Melnick. In it, much attention is paid to rules and strategies, harmony and, most importantly, calm: how; the 50% rule or what to do with what you have no control over; what is reasonable detachment and how to address it; concentrate in 3 minutes, as well as where the “on” and “off” buttons for your emotions are located.

That’s basically all, don’t forget to subscribe to the newsletter so as not to get confused in the world of psychology and always receive relevant and useful advice that works every day. See you again and good luck.

What it is

Coolness does not imply emotional detachment and coldness, despite the fact that the root of the word contains these concepts. Rather, we are talking about complete or maximum control of one’s own, that is, the ability to hide them or relegate them to the background in situations where the development of an emotional reaction may interfere with a favorable outcome of the matter.

This personality quality cannot be unequivocally classified as a positive or negative spectrum. In addition to making independent decisions regarding rescue or solving crisis situations, cold-bloodedness manifests itself as a high degree of inhumanity. In its negative manifestations, cold-bloodedness is characteristic of maniacs, crazed scientists, emotionally burnt-out guards and medical staff who are unable to respond to the level of human suffering. This side is associated with a lack of empathy and, as a consequence of a frustrated instinct to preserve another human being - murders become lengthy and painful, care turns into torture, and the achievement of any goals fully justifies any sacrifice among society.

Positive manifestations of composure lie in the ability to operate exclusively with facts, to maintain the inviolability of the sphere of one’s personal experiences of an intimate nature. It is difficult to manipulate such a person and it is almost impossible for him to interfere with his assessment of the situation. This trait helps to build a clear plan even in the most unusual situations that change at high speed, which ultimately gives a person a state of calm (or it is this internal stability that allows one to maintain balance).

Many people want to learn composure, pursuing personal goals - to calm the nervous system, direct life in one harmonious direction, and solve emotional problems. It is worth noting that this task is quite feasible, since the quality of composure is not innate, although it has some biological justifications (strength of the nervous system, characteristics of temperament, etc.).

Composure not only helps to react more adequately and correctly, but becomes a real necessity in some areas of activity (military, rescue services, surgeons, crisis psychologists and other specialties directly working in the risk zone). In addition to extreme situations, the ability to take control of one’s emotions helps one to exist in highly competitive teams, with a poor microclimate, and to resist manifestations of mobbing, blackmail and emotional abuse.

Cold-blooded man

Attachment to a cold-blooded person can bring pain and suffering to someone who is not ready for emotional distance. People with cold hearts have special habits that help determine whether you really are someone you shouldn't get attached to.

They don't ask anything about you

Most often, indifferent people do not show interest in their interlocutor and do not hide it. Regardless of whether you are in a platonic relationship with such a person or a romantic one, they will not be interested in how your day went or how you are feeling.

If such a person still tries to find out some information from you, this means that he needs it purely for personal purposes.

They are far away

These people may be far from you not only physically, but also emotionally. Often, when talking with such a person, you get the impression that in his thoughts he is very far away, although in fact he is standing in front of you.

They are very restrained in showing emotions. Cold-blooded people rarely reveal secrets and allow themselves to show their vulnerabilities. They just prefer to keep their distance.

They are great at manipulating people

Those with a cool heart love to manipulate. The thing is that they very weakly, and often do not feel any pity or compassion towards others.

They can learn useful information about their “victims” and then use it against them. If you notice that there is a cold-blooded person in your environment, know that he definitely has a couple of skeletons in his closet and a list of those who were not lucky enough to catch his eye.

They
look down
on people “Cool people have a constant need to talk about themselves in the most flattering way possible and often remind others of their superior qualities that deserve envy,” says Professor Preston Nee.

You should constantly monitor how they treat people whom they consider “below” themselves. For example, to service industry workers or the homeless. People with cold hearts have too little empathy to be treated as people worthy of respect.

Something is always missing

It is difficult to find a common language with people who have a cold heart. When they are around or interact with you, there may be an uneasy feeling that something is missing in your relationship.

Regardless of whether your relationship is platonic, romantic, or even family, you will have many difficulties with such people because they have no attachments. The most common missing link is emotional connection.

They are self-obsessed

Me, me, me. People with a cold heart are almost always selfish and focused only on what concerns them in one way or another.

“Subconsciously, such people view others only as additions to themselves and as helpers to satisfy their needs. They always put their own needs above everything else...” says Dr. Seltzer.

They are incredibly self-centered. If you did something better than them, they will still claim that in fact it is not so.

They don't have close friends

“For emotionally unavailable people, relationships and connecting with others are just a way to keep themselves busy until something more interesting comes into their lives,” says author and relationship expert Sarah R. Kline.

They often speak very unflatteringly about their former partners. A number of failed relationships can be found in their past. One gets the impression that they are simply not able to get along with one person for a long time.

Cold-blooded people are also quite emotionally distant even from their family. They find it difficult to find a common language with people, but at the same time they easily part and let go without regret.

They are excellent liars

When you see a potentially “cold” person in front of you, be careful not to fall for his lies. What he says may just be part of the manipulation he uses to gain control over people.

They may lie about very minor things, such as how their day was yesterday or what school they went to. But this does not mean that they are not capable of big lies.

Those with a cold heart may lie about past relationships or about their “friends.”

“Once you recognize the lies in the stories being told, you will be surprised that you ever believed these absurd, unreal facts,” says divorce recovery expert Cindy Holbrook.

Conclusion

Getting close to those with a cold heart can result in big troubles for you. However, by knowing their signs, you will always be one step ahead. Don’t be afraid to weed out indifferent and cold people from your life, because you probably deserve a much warmer and more caring attitude.

The scale of your personality is determined by the magnitude of the problem that can drive you crazy - Sigmund Freud.

And to move from awareness to practice, you need to completely change your personality. In this article we will look at how to do this and what exactly needs to be done.

This may seem wrong to some, but in our situation we will have to show not our best qualities. One of them is selfishness.

You must accept it as a principle that you don’t owe anyone anything.

#2 Become better than others

Not only do you just need to show selfishness, you also need to raise your authority. At least for myself.

Composure is a constant state, expressed in complete calm and confidence. And for this confidence to appear, you need to feel like you’re on a horse all the time.

#3 Send everything and everyone

Let circumstances take their course. If something is really bothering you, just turn your back on it with the words “screw it, come what may!”

, so there is no need to be nervous about wasting your health.

#4 Maintain external calm

The external state directly affects the internal. By the way you dress, how you put your hands in front of you, how you speak, you can find out what is going on in your soul.

Stop jerking your leg when sitting
Stop constantly walking from side to side when you think
Breathe deeply and rhythmically
Speak in a calm and even voice
Think more before expressing a thought

Honestly, I don't think you can become a frozen machine and adhere to all these recommendations. But if your motives are strong enough

, then it is only a matter of desire and time.

#5 State of body = state of mind

In the first case, good sleep helps, in the second - regular exercise. And the best solution would be to combine these two processes.

Developing composure

External stimuli may interfere with problem solving. If you get rid of them, you can calmly cope with the task. Some people cannot think in complete silence, while others are disturbed by noise.

You can almost always temporarily escape from circumstances that irritate you and, away from them, think and make the right decision. For example, if household noise bothers you, you can go for a walk in the park and think about your problem there in a calm atmosphere.

In order to be more confident in your abilities, you need to remember those moments when everything worked out for you and you were able to cope with stress or a difficult situation because you did not lose control at that moment and kept your cool.

The situations that you managed to deal with are your achievements. They must be remembered - they give confidence in their abilities and help to maintain calm.

It's hard not to get nervous if you're tired. When a person does not get enough sleep or feels hungry, he can be irritable. If you're tired, it's hard not to get nervous. Consciousness will be clear if your body is comfortable. This is facilitated by moderate physical activity.

How to develop composure? Breathing calmly in a difficult situation helps you pull yourself together. In a person who is captive of emotions, breathing is disrupted and becomes intermittent. Breathe evenly and deeply, while your thoughts become clearer and your emotions are under control.

Assassination Classroom

In almost every series where OYAS are present, schools and teachers are present. But this subject certainly does not pretend to be a banal plot. After all, the students here, although they are schoolchildren, are murderers. More precisely, they are all still studying, but graduation is just around the corner. The school is not quite ordinary. After all, what normal educational institution would still allow such an absurd specialty to be taught to young creatures? And the teacher’s appearance causes extreme concern. After all, he's not even human.