Personal growth training is a kind of key to solving problems, mostly related to self-distrust and the attempt or desire to shift responsibility for one’s own life to others (relatives, colleagues, acquaintances...)
But here it’s worth remaining completely honest and admitting:
PERSONAL GROWTH TRAINING CAN GIVE A POSITIVE EFFECT ONLY IF YOU CAME NOT FOR A SOLUTION TO YOUR PERSONAL PROBLEMS, BUT FOR THE TOOLS TO SOLUTION THEM!
The key phrase is TOOLS that will allow you to ensure PERSONAL GROWTH and SELF-DEVELOPMENT.
Personal growth trainings provide a number of key changes through the use of training methods including NLP, psychodrama, Gestalt, and participants in personal growth training, in the process of passing, are constantly on an “emotional swing”.
The “swing” swing occurs due to the training participants performing a series of exercises, the meaning of which is sometimes not obvious - it is they that lead to some loss of self-control during the training, and it is they that provide the start of personal growth.
Who cares about the rating?
- For training participants, when choosing a trainer or training:
A high rating shows that this person has something to convey to his listeners. He has experience, his own vision of life, popularity, author's approach and much more.
A professional in the field of personal development is always an example of what a participant in his training can achieve. People go not only for information, but also for Personality. We can say that a coach with high values of a complex indicator is a self-realized Personality. There is a lot to learn from him.
When choosing someone who will help you on the path of internal changes, it makes sense to pay attention not only to colorful advertising, but also to the real achievements of this person. The comprehensive rating takes these achievements into account.
- For coaches, as an objective assessment of their achievements:
The fact that the level and qualifications of a coach grows with each year of practice is obvious, but it is sometimes difficult to establish criteria for this growth. The rating will help with this: using the rating, you can track which indicators this year turned out to be better than the previous one? Which ones have remained unchanged? Which ones are behind? How did this affect the overall rating? In this case, the rating is a help and a hint for a reasonable coach: what tasks to set as top priorities in order to improve his skills.
By the way, personal growth training is dangerous in any case and is definitely contraindicated:
- Children and teenagers;
- People with any form of emotional instability;
- People with a low stress tolerance threshold;
- Persons suffering from mental or somatic disorders; (especially if they occur in a latent form.)
In such cases, psychological defenses are designed to PRESERVE the stability of the psyche of a possible patient or child. Any loosening or harsh impact on such a participant can lead to irreversible consequences.
Translating from Russian into Russian - this means that the mere desire of a particular person to “undergo personal growth training” is not enough - the obligatory task of a professional trainer ensuring the personal growth of a participant is to assess the possible risks associated with the upcoming psychological stress, “screening out” and selecting training participants .
However, the real value of personal growth training is that no one tells anyone HOW TO DO IT. Each participant himself comes to a NEW sense of himself and a different vision of life and the usual events around him.
In the process of performing the exercises, discoveries occur, making and experiencing them, in the training mode, the participant receives NEW SKILLS and the opportunity to build his NEW life.
Personal growth training, with its non-ambiguous teaching methods, makes it possible to prioritize what is truly important to you in life and begin to value your future, which would not have come on its own.
An important condition for effective completion of the training is the presence of potential for self-development and the participant’s readiness to independently build their new life, since there is NO ONE who needs this as much as you.
It is WILLINGNESS TO CHANGE that is a CRITICALLY IMPORTANT CONDITION.
Personal growth training is a privilege for those who are ready to use their untapped creative, spiritual and life potential to achieve goals and realize events that would never have happened on their own.
Where to begin?
How to develop your personality? You need to start with an honest dialogue with your own self , for a clear understanding of personal complexes, character and temperament flaws, acquired habits that worsen the quality of life.
This is quite a difficult task, but it is many times easier than the daily work of fulfilling the intention to make yourself better, more responsible, healthier in a mental and physical sense.
Having identified the main internal enemies , you should not start fighting everyone at once.
It is more effective to choose the most annoying habit or complex so that you have enough enthusiasm and willpower to fight it.
But when you can assume that a new useful skill has become ingrained in you and has become almost innate, it’s time to begin confronting the next negative manifestation in your behavior, perception, etc.
It's better to start with what affects your physical well-being.
By getting rid, for example, of the habit of eating a lot of sweets at night, you will definitely lose some amount of fat in your body, begin to sleep better, begin to look at the world more positively and gain a reserve of strength for further feats in the fight for your happiness.
And so that in the evening you don’t feel the urge to finish with a cake or a couple of eclairs, try to start reading fiction , which you have long planned to read, but everyone couldn’t find the time.
If the desire to work with your jaws turns out to be a distracting factor, take care in advance of a substantial portion of straws from various vegetables. This way you will achieve your main goal and replenish your personal supply of vitamins and fiber.
What contributes to personal development:
- Reading good literature. New images and other people's experiences develop the brain and curiosity, provided that the sources of knowledge are worthy.
- Sports . The ability to achieve results through willpower also works successfully when deciding to achieve goals in another area.
- A conscious desire to get rid of bad habits and negative character traits .
The most worthy and insidious enemy of a person is himself when he becomes dependent on something. And every victory over one’s unworthy affections is a great contribution to the development of one’s own personality. - Communication with experts in their field. The skill of others gives a charge of enthusiasm for going through difficult paths and mastering additional skills.
- Engagement in charity in the form of personal participation in helping the weak and injured. Such communication promotes a change in personal values and an understanding of what really matters most to each person.
- Attending special trainings , provided that the presenters are really interested in providing effective assistance to their students and know how to do it professionally.
- Studying sciences that help you soberly assess your capabilities, rationally allocate time and plan navigation routes for your development and formation as an integral, developed personality.
Interesting, popular and effective trainings
Systemic family constellations
This training is also called “Hellinger constellations.” The author of the technique is Bert Hellinger, a famous German psychotherapist. Based on extensive experience working with patients’ problems, Hellinger concluded: the roots of many problems, including problems with women’s and men’s health, failures in personal life or profession and career, lie in the family field, family history.
The session is attended by the client himself, “deputies” who play the role of members of the family community, and spectators. The client places “deputies” in the space of the “family field”, and during the placement, certain hidden, undeveloped problems and complexes are revealed. When the client realizes the true reasons for his troubles and problems, it becomes much easier for him to cope with them.
Countering manipulators
No manipulator ever acts for your good. All his actions are always aimed at satisfying his own needs at the expense of others, be it in everyday life or in business. Mastering the ability to counteract manipulators is useful for everyone, without exception.
At trainings, the coach talks about the hooks that manipulators use to hook their victims, and shows in practice how it works
But most importantly, you will be taught not only how to get off the hook, but also how to not get hooked again.
Self-organization training
Hand on heart, many of us can admit: the path to a correct and healthy lifestyle is blocked by our inability or unwillingness to properly organize our personal time. We do a lot of unnecessary things and do not do what is necessary, because there is no time or energy left for what is necessary. The habit of making plans for the future and following them is common to few people. We love to indulge our weaknesses and this makes us even weaker.
Training on organizing personal and work time will help reveal the causes of failures, deal with disorganization and give you simple tools to put your life in order. You will learn to prioritize and find a balance between work, family matters and leisure. And an ordered life will definitely give positive results for your well-being and mood.
How to become rich and what does God have to do with it?
The “founding father” of the science of self-development and achieving cherished goals was Wallace Wattles, born in 1860. Coming from a poor farm in Illinois, he was educated in an American country school, where children were taught to read, count and write in the elementary grades, and in the middle grades they were taught geometry and US history. Wattles was an enthusiastic person and loved to read: of his own free will, he became acquainted with the works of Descartes, Schopenhauer, Hegel, Swedenborg, Emerson and many other philosophers.
All this, as his daughter Florence later wrote, led Wattles to reconsider his views on life: he joined the New Thought movement, which was just gaining strength in the second half of the 19th century. The ideological concept of this semi-religious movement was built on one key principle: everything that exists in our world is God or a manifestation of His divine essence.
Wattles, who always had great social ambitions, learned a lot from the teachings of the New Thought and, after losing the 1908 elections for Congress, where he was nominated by the Socialist Party of the USA, he wrote the book The Science of Getting Rich. It was published in 1910, a year before his death, and shows the significant influence New Thought had on Wattles:
And further:
Here's what he thinks about development:
The book “The Science of Getting Rich” was such a colossal success that it made Wattles’ name famous throughout the country, and his work influenced many authors of self-development manuals in the future. Thus, the creator of the acclaimed book “The Secret,” Rhonda Byrne, has repeatedly said that Wattles’ text inspired her. In addition to her, Tony Robbins also praised the book.
Trainings: good, bad and different
- Hello!
We are starting the training - “How to quickly earn 500 thousand rubles”! To get started, answer two questions. First: how much does a ticket to our training cost? - A thousand rubles! - Great. How many seats are there in the hall? - Five hundred! — Thank you everyone, the training is over. There are plenty of fake trainings like this, throw them out the window. In modern language this is called “selling an information product.” They are conducted by people who are not really knowledgeable about anything except the ability to sell air, empty words and elementary truths. Going to such trainings is just a waste of time. You can recognize fake “trainers” by an unnatural smile, the absence of documents on specialized education and any achievements other than the duped hundred or two clients.
A completely different matter is training aimed at developing certain skills or helping to understand your relationship with yourself and with the surrounding Universe. Some of these classes are taught by real specialists who have their own expertise, extensive experience and scientific degrees. Usually, all information can be verified by searching the Internet for reviews of those who have already completed the training or confirmation of the truth of titles and regalia. In such self-development classes, you can really discover your talents, get rid of complexes that interfere with your life, learn useful techniques and gain new experience.
Why trainings are often useless
Because miracles don't happen. It’s not enough to experience the insight: “This is it! Now I understand what I was doing wrong!” Even if you now know “the right way,” nothing will change. Because knowing is not enough, you also need to DO. But this can be very difficult. In humans, even the survival instinct is not as strong as the desire to do everything “as usual” and not “as is correct.”
And it often turns out that a person wanders through trainings, gaining all kinds of information about “how to do it right.” But he continues to live “as always,” gradually gaining despondency and irritation - “These trainings don’t give anything.” All you need to do is take one step - from theory to practice. From reading the instruction manual to the ON button.
Epilogue: we have been tired for so long
Not everyone is ready to rush into the pursuit of self-realization, and in general, not everyone wants to interfere in these disputes between coaches, training gurus and motivation specialists.
And this concerns not only direct self-realization: a rebellion against norms and stereotypes has begun on all fronts: the foundations of even the fashion industry are gradually crumbling, which, it would seem, was the last to lose its position, supported by injections of funds from the beauty industry. However, as one famous poet said, “nothing can be held back - not green on purple, not the V-neck of a T-shirt, not the broken edge of an umbrella,” and therefore today body positivity and the cult of “accepting yourself as you are” are triumphantly sweeping the planet.
Active supporters of “healthy egoism”, who call for not giving a damn about the opinions of others and their ideas of success, are gradually appearing all over the world, and their fame is growing rapidly. This time, there are “prophets” in our country: at the end of 2020, the book by psychologist Pavel Labkovsky with the telling title “I Want and I Will” sold 550,000 copies throughout the country - this is almost an unprecedented figure for the Russian market.
