Creative reboot: what to do when everything is annoying and you don’t want anything?

Expert commentary. Maria Zvegintseva, psychologist:

All women were once little girls. Even the smartest and most strong-willed. And we were all brought up in the spirit of traditional Soviet morality: a man is the breadwinner and head of the family, and a woman’s destiny is a house, children, and perhaps simple work. Well, so that it doesn't get boring. But times are changing. And today, many of us are the main breadwinners for the whole family. This means that we cannot afford even the slightest whim, not to mention an extraordinary vacation or a bad mood before “women’s” days.

As a result, what our grandmothers and mothers used to win the hearts and minds of their contemporaries - softness, femininity - becomes a luxury for a modern woman. But the desire to be weak and feminine has not gone away! Because of this contradiction, attacks of tearfulness come over us - we want to take the burden of responsibility off our shoulders. At such moments, the main thing is not to be afraid or ashamed of it. And especially not to try to push the problem deeper inside. Remember - if you ignore the blues, it can turn into a serious illness. Therefore, do not be afraid to seek help from a psychologist.

We don't think about the fact that our boss might also be having a hard day or upset about a project that didn't finish well. The child in your soul is crying bitterly because adults don’t love him and he doesn’t hear anything around him. Therefore, when, through your fault, something is done incorrectly at work, you react too violently to the situation, and hysterics begin. Although, in fact, you, like your boss, like any normal person in general, have the right to make mistakes.

Quick SOS

. It is clear that helplessness irritates you the most. You really made a mistake, and nothing can be corrected. Well, it happens to everyone. But you still feel bad. Everything is shaking inside, it’s hard to sit still. I want to scream and cry... Do this as quickly as possible! If possible, leave the office. After all, you don’t want everyone to see what’s going on with you. And when you are alone, do this exercise: stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, tense all your muscles and take 10 slow, deep breaths. This should help. Return home on this day on foot. A walk will improve your mood, and all the sadness will remain at work.

The Independence Trap

You meet with friends and often go to parties. Nothing worries you, no one limits you... Just a heavenly life! You sympathize with friends who are tied to home and family. They can no longer manage their lives the way they want. So why do you feel sad when you receive another wedding invitation or hear stories about someone's baby? You begin to doubt whether you are living correctly. You feel like you are missing something. This thought makes you depressed. What to do in such a situation?

Quick SOS

. You definitely need to speak up. Call a close friend or an understanding relative - a trusted person, someone to whom you don’t need to pretend that your life is wonderful. Just throw out everything that has accumulated. By talking about your problems out loud, you yourself, as an intelligent woman, will find their solution. And a kind word from someone close, who simply pats you on the head, listens and says the banal: “Everything will be fine, you’ll see,” can work wonders. After all, you are not the only one who has moments when the future is seen in gloomy tones.

Look at your life from different perspectives. Imagine several options for the development of your relationship with this or that man. What would you get if you weren't alone right now? You would probably have a reliable rear, family and children. It's not too late to create all this. Or maybe the experience of this relationship would be negative and only bad memories would remain...

One thing is clear: if you had given up your freedom when you were still a very young girl, you would not have met many wonderful people and your life most likely would have been less colorful. Think about how many interesting and wonderful things have happened in your life and will definitely happen in the future! The main thing is not to be sad over trifles.

A perfectionist's nightmare

You are a working mother, your day is planned literally minute by minute. You remind yourself more than a robot: you unconsciously move along the same route: work-shop-kindergarten. And at home you do several things at the same time. You are focused and closed all the time: will you be able to get everything done, have I forgotten anything?

For the time being, things are going great. But the day comes when everything goes wrong in the morning. Plans are thwarted and nothing works out. It seems that luck has turned away from you. The breakfast suddenly got burnt and the kids were late for school. You stayed late at work, didn’t have the strength to go grocery shopping, and it turns out that at home you only have a pack of dumplings. There's not even ketchup. At least sit down and cry. Why did everything go wrong?

Even if in this difficult moment you shouted: “I can’t handle all this!”, no one would believe you. After all, you are a superwoman and have always managed to do everything, so now you must be on top.

Quick SOS

. Learn to set aside some time for yourself on any day, even the busiest one. In these five minutes, it doesn’t matter whether all the laundry is ironed and whether dinner is ready. think only about yourself now... As they say, “and let the whole world wait!”

It's difficult, but possible. If you have small children and you can’t get alone during the day to relieve stress, wait until the evening. Do all the essential housework, and when the kids go to bed, focus only on yourself. Postpone all remaining tasks until later. Believe me, they are not going anywhere. In the end, let the husband take care of them, at least as an exception! But even if he is not able to replace you at the ironing board (you still feel sorry for the shirts), nothing bad will happen. Remember - you are obliged to serve all members of your beloved family from morning to night! You have the right to rest, for example, to meet a friend in a cafe or to visit a beauty salon.

If your kids are already adults and don't need diaper changes, give yourself a worry-free day. Instead of wiping down your cabinets, go to a friend's house. Warn your family to call only in extreme cases. During your absence, they will understand how much you do around the house, and you will unwind a little and regain your zest for life.

Long-term crisis

A few months ago you decided to renovate your apartment. They borrowed money and bought materials. But a week later, the construction team, as usual, disappeared. And you don’t have time to look for other people, since you need to go to your sick mother. It makes you return tired to your “construction site.” Your sister hasn't worked for a month and constantly calls you to complain. You already want to scream, because you have no strength... You would like everyone to just leave you alone, but you understand that they simply cannot cope without you. conscience does not allow you to withdraw yourself and let everything take its course.

Quick SOS

. It's not always easy to escape from stress. It seems that this is your hopeless situation forever. Then perhaps it's time to consult a specialist. It is better to prevent depression than to treat it later. If you put everything in order, even the most unpleasant situations will turn out to be solvable.

There are no hopeless situations

Tips for fighting the blues are, as a rule, universal. But no one gives guarantees. After all, we are all different and experience our sorrows in different ways. In this difficult situation, the main thing is to find your own effective method of fighting for a good mood, which will help you get out of a crisis situation with your head held high and a lesson for the future.

If you can't cry out or find it difficult to talk to another person about your emotions, just cry. Hide in a quiet corner and roar your heart out! There is nothing wrong with this, you have nothing to be ashamed of. After all, this is not a joke, but a natural reaction of the psyche to negativity. Accumulated irritability and resentment come out with tears. Don't suppress the pain, otherwise it will come back with double force.

If you can get away for a while to get away from it all, do it! Try to add variety to your daily schedule as well. Fight routine. Change the route you take to work, rearrange your home. Then even long-term life problems will not cause such blues. And remember, sometimes you need to pamper yourself, give yourself gifts. Relax exactly the way you like and just do what you want. This is not at all as difficult as it seems at first glance. Very soon you will see how your mood improves and new bright colors appear in your life.

Hello, dear readers of my blog! Today I want to talk about irritability, nervousness and internal aggression. What to do if everything is annoying? How to live when you catch yourself in negativity every minute? This state of affairs will not lead to anything good. A couple of simple tips on how to avoid serious consequences.

Identifying sources of aggression

Main irritating factors:

envy of other people's successes and well-being;
negative character traits of another person, similar to those present in you, and you are trying to overcome them;
a complete divergence of points of view on any issue with the interlocutor.

In fact, there can be plenty of reasons that cause anger. But you should not lose sight of the fact that by throwing out negative emotions on another person, you yourself become a source of irritation for him, which can lead to a significant conflict. Therefore, it is very important to learn to listen to your experiences and learn to control your emotions.

Sedatives

When it is impossible to cope with a stressful condition on your own, it is better to take a sedative. There are a lot of drugs, so you shouldn’t waste time on empty thoughts.

Novo-Passit

With its help you can easily cope with an anxious or restless state, sleep disorders.

The components included in its composition act almost instantly. Produced in the form of drops.

Taken 3 times a day with meals. Even children are allowed to use.
Possible side effects such as drowsiness, nausea, decreased muscle tone. The composition includes valerian, lemon balm, St. John's wort, hawthorn, black elderberry and hops.

Valerian

A simple but effective way to overcome stress and calm down.

It is advisable to use for increasing nervousness and sleep disturbances.

The product reduces irritability of the nervous system. Available in the form of tablets or drops for internal use. Promotes long-term calm and balance of the psyche.
The dosage is chosen independently. The only contraindication is the presence of hypersensitivity to the components of the drug. As side effects, inhibition processes can be noted - the appearance of lethargy and weakness.

Persen

Became widely known thanks to advertising. It is worth taking the drug when irritation does not go away on its own, but accumulates in the body.

It is produced in capsules and tablets. The composition is similar to Novo-Passit, only peppermint, magnesium and lactose compounds, and silicon are additionally used.
The daily dose for adults is 3 tablets per day or 2 capsules, but for young children it is better not to give Persen at all. In case of overdose, you may feel tired and have spasmodic pain.

It helps a lot if you have sleep disturbances.

Corvalol

In demand as a sedative for older people.

It is used at the moment when excessive irritability appears and nervous conditions arise.

The release form of Corvalol is drops and tablets. The active components of Corvalol are phenoborbital, mint oil, and ethyl alcohol.
You need to take the sedative before meals in the amount of 15-30 drops, diluted with water. You need to repeat the medication two more times at intervals of 6 hours. In some cases, the dosage may be increased to 50 drops. The duration of use depends on the doctor’s diagnosis.

You should not take Corvalol if you have liver failure. Contraindicated for drivers and pregnant women.

Supplement your medication intake with beneficial herbs, and you will quickly achieve the desired effect.

Getting rid of irritants

The simplest way to get rid of negativity is to eliminate those things from life that cause irritation. Sometimes it becomes useful to stop communicating with uninteresting people, change jobs or move to a new place of residence in another city. As an option, change the usual rhythm of life, even moving the arrow on the alarm clock back or forward a few minutes.

The cause of aggression should be sought in habitual everyday actions, some of which can cause a storm of negative emotions.

The most common irritants are:

Unpleasant acquaintances.
If in your circle of acquaintances there are people for whom you unconsciously feel disgust, you should stop communicating with these individuals or reduce it to a minimum. The main mistakes of parents that lead a child to hysterics
Hateful job
If you are annoyed by your own work, you clearly understand that this is “not your place”, there is no joy even from achieving positive results, then you should immediately think about looking for another workplace.

In fact, eliminating irritants is not as difficult as identifying them accurately. Very often, the causes of aggression are not the people or objects around you, but yourself. Delve into yourself and when stressful situations arise, try to remain calm and find positive aspects in what is happening. For example, if the reason for the negativity lies in uninteresting work, you should not immediately write a letter of resignation. To begin with, you should evaluate the possibility of prospects and advantages - good wages, friendly team; You can even try to make adjustments to the course of the main work, suggest to the boss to change the tactics of conducting a process, find interesting points for yourself that can be improved.

What to do if your loved ones are annoying

Sometimes situations happen in life in which your own spouse begins to irritate you wildly. Little things that, it would seem, you have long been accustomed to, but are unpleasant to you, gradually grow into a lump of negativity, which will ultimately become a huge lump and can burst out with insults for past grievances and unpleasant moments in life.

To solve the problem of irritability towards your husband, psychologists recommend the following courses of action:

If you are unable to change what is happening, try to change your attitude towards it. Don’t focus on socks thrown anywhere, dishes not washed after yourself, and so on.
There is no need to create a scandal out of nowhere. Maybe you just misunderstood some situation? Listen carefully and discuss the problem calmly.
Imagine how he lived in a bachelor's apartment before you met. Did he iron his shirts every day? Did you wash your socks every day and carefully hang your jacket on hangers? So why should he radically change his habits if he is already trying to adapt to you in some things?
Make sure it is your spouse who is annoying you. Think about it. Maybe you yourself brought the negativity home from work? Don't cause unnecessary stress to yourself or your loved ones.

Another point is the stage of life when a woman is pregnant. What should you do if your own husband infuriates you just by thinking about him? Where to look for the cause of irritability?

the body of a pregnant woman is subject to hormonal changes, and not only her husband, but also all kinds of smells that were once pleasant can cause aggression in her;
perhaps a negative reaction is caused by the perfume that the other half uses, or he eats foods that cause disgust;
ask him not to use unpleasant cologne or completely eliminate its use during toxicosis;
regarding your husband’s taste preferences: try to make concessions, give him the opportunity to eat what he likes, at least in your absence. This is also a temporary measure, since after the birth of the child the sense of smell returns to normal.

The solution to the problem is actually nearby.
You just need to sort out the situation that causes anger. Everyone is free to decide for themselves what is best for them and how to more effectively get rid of irritability. Not every woman needs the advice of an experienced psychologist. Sometimes it is enough to independently analyze the situation and find a solution. The main thing to remember is that stress is the cause of many diseases, which means you need to try to remain calm and self-controlled in all moments of life. Expert commentary.
Maria Zvegintseva, psychologist: All women were once little girls. Even the smartest and most strong-willed. And we were all brought up in the spirit of traditional Soviet morality: a man is the breadwinner and head of the family, and a woman’s destiny is a house, children, and perhaps simple work. Well, so that it doesn't get boring. But times are changing. And today, many of us are the main breadwinners for the whole family. This means that we cannot afford even the slightest whim, not to mention an extraordinary vacation or a bad mood before “women’s” days.

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The Independence Trap

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A perfectionist's nightmare

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Long-term crisis

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There are no hopeless situations

17.07.2015

By myself

When your hatred is directed at yourself, at your every action, at all your deeds, then you should think about what you are doing wrong. Hatred doesn't come out of nowhere. It always has a beginning. But it may not have an end if you just decide to leave everything as it is.

Hatred is inside you. This is your feeling. And it is not caused by other people, not by circumstances, not by situations, but only by you. You get irritated and angry, you get mad. And not because the grass is not as green as you would like it to be.

You need to deal with the anger that sits inside you. If you cannot do this yourself, then you should contact a specialist. You can simply have a heart-to-heart talk with your loved one. The solution may be on the surface, but you don't see it.

I hope you can deal with your hatred. Don't blame everyone around you. Take a look at yourself, look inside. Look for the reason within yourself.

If you found interesting thoughts in my article, be sure to share the link on social networks. Have a nice day!

You, of course, know that they are often blamed for emotions and mood. There is some truth here, and a significant one. And the main roles in the play based on the novel “Besit” are played by this company.

1.
Estrogen and progesterone are female sex hormones.
Their level and proportionality change during the cycle. Hormones give you a set of vivid sensations in the form of PMS. Or rather, not really them. Emotions are a reaction to changes in hormonal levels from the central nervous system

(CNR). Have you ever wondered why some women experience premenstrual syndrome relatively calmly, while for others life is not pleasant? Yes, the first ones are unpleasant, lucky individuals, but that’s not all that matters.

“If the central nervous system reacts so painfully to hormonal changes, there are some problems in the body,” explains medical endocrinologist, Ph.D. Yuri Poteshkin. – For example, there is not enough serotonin, which should be released in moments of joy, and the mood regularly tends to be depressed. Or pain on the eve of menstruation and other sensations in the body are so unpleasant that they give a reaction in the form of irritation.” Conclusion: with pronounced PMS you need to go to the gynecologist. And then it will be seen whether they will prescribe you anti-inflammatory drugs, prescribe a COC, or refer you to a psychotherapist.

2.
Thyroid hormones – hormones of the thyroid gland.
When too many of them are produced (this is called “hyperthyroidism”), harshness, aggressiveness, and outbursts of anger appear.

. In the extreme, everything turns into thyrotoxicosis - poisoning of the body with excess hormones (a condition that is dangerous even for the heart). Fortunately, this usually does not come to this; the patient is “intercepted” earlier. However, he still manages to show himself in all his glory.

“An important detail: the person himself feels good, his mood is often upbeat. Those around him are more likely to complain about him,” says Yuri. Therefore, if different citizens increasingly utter phrases in relation to your wonderful you like: “You have become unbearable,” “It’s impossible to deal with you,” there is a reason to contact an endocrinologist. An additional incentive should be the accompanying symptoms: hair falls out, nails become brittle, you constantly feel hot, the cycle is disrupted, and weight suddenly disappears.

By the way, a lack of magnesium in the body can also cause nervousness and irritability. Of course, you shouldn’t prescribe it for yourself (adverse and allergic reactions have been recorded, plus you need to take into account interactions with other drugs), but if something happens, it won’t hurt to get tested and consult with a specialist.

How to deal with irritability. Why is everything annoying?

Every person has those days when he just doesn't want to do anything. And this is not laziness, which is inherent in everyone, but a special emotion that causes a lot of inconvenience not only to the character himself, but also to his close people. Irritability and groundless aggression are, unfortunately, very common problems in our time. A heated situation at work or at home can be the last straw for a large-scale explosion of negative emotions. Where does irritation come from, how to be in harmony with yourself and always radiate positivity?

Creative reboot: what to do when everything is annoying and you don’t want anything?

In December, the list of things that need to be completed before the New Year is endless. In this frenzied race against deadlines, it is very easy to lose yourself and simply break down. Olga Baturina, curator of the intensive “Creative Reboot” at the British Higher School of Design, told InStyle what a creative reboot is and what to do when you don’t feel like doing anything?

Expert opinion

Olga Baturina,

“The calendar is the last month of the year, which means that the pace of life increases and stress becomes a common condition. But in fact, feelings such as irritation, rage, anger and aggression are an integral and important aspect of our human nature. And it is impossible to suppress them, and it is simply not necessary.

It is clear that you can temporarily bring yourself back to normal using well-known and proven methods - and, of course, it will be different for everyone. You can distract yourself by going to an exhibition or a movie, a trip to the sea, and so on, but then anger, fatigue and creative apathy will come again - right?

There is such a fairy tale - “Moon Bear”. The meaning in it is deep and relevant: in many people there lives in the soul an irritated, tired soldier who does not want to hear about anything, does not want to do anything. Locks himself in a room filled with rage and sits there for the rest of his days, instead of looking for a reason and a way to cope with it. So, it’s better not to try to control yourself, to try to suppress your rage - otherwise an explosion of irritation may later burn everything around you. Better get to know your anger and irritation. Ask yourself what contributed to their appearance, when and under what circumstances they appeared, find the reason, calm down your old obsessive beliefs. These emotions are then released as new energy. And we can already use this energy in other areas, especially in creative ones.

As part of the intensive in Britanka (the four-day intensive “Creative Reboot” starts on December 15), we are working on a variety of options and trying to track how our lives change when new creativity enters it. The program is designed for a wide audience and will be useful both to those who just want to make creativity their hobby or main profession, as well as to already established illustrators, stylists, photographers, and designers. As part of the intensive program, it’s as if we are returning to childhood and looking at the world with different eyes: the ordinary becomes interesting and exciting again. We find our strengths and hidden potential, thanks to which new ideas and the courage to implement them appear. Various creative exercises like drawing blindfolded help you listen to your inner artist and his preferences, trust his creative vision and boldly create without looking back. This is not a quick path, and you need to gain courage before you start your journey: an intensive course can give a good push, suggest techniques, but then you must incorporate them into your life.”

Everything infuriates me: how not to turn this condition into the norm?

Many people report that they have become much more irritable lately. This can be influenced by various factors, ranging from hard work to dissatisfaction with one’s own personal fulfillment. The main thing in the fight against excessive aggressiveness is the understanding that there is a problem, and it should not be suppressed and kept inside, but solved.

You should also not take irritability for granted, even if you work a lot and are too tired. In solving the problem, you should turn to your loved ones for help; if you explain to them your condition, then it will be easier for everyone to cope with a difficult period in life, and look for positive moments in the most difficult situations.

Why does everything piss me off: what could be the reasons?

Excessive irritability is characteristic not only of men, but also of women. This problem can affect every person who lives in an overly active rhythm, leaving no time for rest. In order to cope with aggressiveness, you must first find its root. The reasons for the problem can be completely different, for example:

women can react sharply to the world due to hormonal changes in the body

overwork and lack of sleep inevitably lead to groundless aggression

Regular suppression of emotions also often causes bursts of irritability

· a tense situation in the family and dissatisfaction with loved ones can cause anger

· a feeling of one’s own unfulfillment in life often becomes the cause of aggressiveness

These and many other things, such as the emotional and energetic background in places where a person is often located, can affect his restraint and harmony with himself. It is often not people's fault that they are irritable. So-called provocateurs like to evoke this emotion, whose role can be not only a hated boss or an envious rival, but also a husband, child, girlfriend and even parents.

Nervousness and excessive nerves

People of different ages, genders, professions, and personalities come with complaints of nervousness and problems with nerves. And if a person really suffers from a functional disease of the nervous system - neurosis, he is prescribed a special course of treatment, a certain lifestyle. But today we will not talk about illness: problems with nerves in many cases are caused by defects in upbringing, improper organization of work and life.

nervousness

Our country has created the necessary conditions for the harmonious development of man. Education from the earliest years is built in the spirit of collectivism, which excludes the manifestation of individualistic tendencies and associated conflicts. And, nevertheless, in clinical practice, in everyday life, one has to deal with individual manifestations of increased nervousness.

Let's look at the facts that will help us understand what its causes and methods of prevention are.

How to deal with a bad mood. We look for the positive in everything

First, you need to understand the root of the problem, you have already understood that. Then there are two options: eradicate the cause of aggression or learn to look at it differently. If you cannot remove the provocative element from your life, then you should simply stop noticing it, even to the point of turning your daily look at the problem into a fun game.

Look for positive moments in everything, this is the only way to become more harmonious. You can take up any positive or relaxing hobby that is close to your liking. For active people who find it difficult to sit still, it is very useful to engage in sports or relaxing yoga.

Aggression around: how not to succumb to provocation

Often, irritability manifests itself precisely because of the influence of external factors, and not on its own. There can be many provocative energy and emotional channels. It is quite difficult to determine exactly which one will hook you.

Take it as a rule: everything external must satisfy everything internal. Start in the bedroom where you relax. Choose a comfortable mattress, soft pillow and blanket. Pay attention to the bed frame. You only need high-quality materials that will last a long time and will not irritate you with unsteadiness and squeaking.