In adolescence, girls especially feel the approach of that very feeling that easily puts them in a state of anxiety, lightness and embarrassment - love! Gentle “girls” will stand aside until the last moment and feel something incomprehensible. Unrequited feelings! “He doesn’t pay attention to me, but I love him with all my heart.” Many people think so, but often it’s quite the opposite! If you don’t know how to confess your love to a guy, we will help you. Be honest with the person, perhaps he is just waiting for love and tenderness, and you keep your feelings secret from him!
Reasons why a guy doesn't admit his feelings.
1. The guy is shy. He himself is in love, but he can’t help himself to say so. This is the case when a girl is obliged to take the cherished step on her own. This will be an impetus for the boy to open up and talk about his feelings.
2. A guy can be so in love with a girl that he will be afraid to push her away from him, or even lose friendship. Here the initiative should come from the girl.
3. Another reason for a boy’s indecisiveness may be past negative experiences. Maybe he doesn't want to hear the bad word "no" again. In this case, he is sure that now the girl should talk about her love
4. A guy may think that confessing his feelings is not necessary, because everyone sees it that way. He performs different actions that speak about his feelings. But the girl needs to hear the long-awaited words. To make this clear to your lover, you need to be the first to say: “I love you” in order to hear the same thing in response. This confession should be beautiful and romantic so that the boy understands how wonderful it is.
5. Or it may be that the guy doesn’t love the girl. But she still has to tell him about her feelings so that everything falls into place and there is no doubt left.
How to say I love you?
Here you have the right to let your imagination go free! Of course, public actions are in the style of men, so become a good and affectionate cat.
- Find the right moment and tell him this directly and be sure to wait for an answer! There is no need to run away and leave him alone with these thoughts. Better help him figure it out.
- Master origami or another technique with which you can make an envelope or postcard. Be original and put all your love into it. Prose, poetry, it doesn’t matter, the main thing is from the heart and with taste!
- Invite to a dinner! You can bake a cake and write a confession on it.
The main thing is to be confident in your abilities and do not be shy to express your emotions. What could be more beautiful than this feeling of falling in love? So there is no need to hide everything to yourself. Frankly, it’s actually not difficult for a man to fall in love first!
Ways to confess your love to a guy
If a girl cannot openly approach the object of her sympathy, then you can write him a note in which you describe your feelings. In this note, you can ask about the guy’s attitude to the prospect of developing a relationship. After all, it is unknown whether the guy realizes that someone likes him or not. The note must be sent incognito. For example, through true friends. You can turn this into a fun game. Write another letter, which will describe the place where the main message is and throw it to the guy. Everything must be done so that the boy does not find out in advance who wrote the cherished words of love to him. And then, after reading his letter, the girl will be able to understand how her lover feels about everything that is happening.
If the girl is self-confident, then you can invite the guy to walk together in his free time, for example, after finishing classes. Before this, you need to think about how recognition will take place: find a beautiful place, create a romantic atmosphere. You need to talk with the boy first on general topics, but little by little move the conversation in the right direction. If a guy is ready to reciprocate your feelings, then he will immediately understand what you wanted to talk to him about and will continue the conversation himself. If you're lucky, he'll even be the first to confess his love, and the girl will push for it.
If a girl is not entirely sure that a boy likes her, then it is better not to start such a conversation, so as not to look stupid later. Walking together can only be explained by the fact that you needed a man’s help, but were embarrassed to turn to someone else.
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Modern technologies simplify the recognition process. You can take your mobile phone and send your boyfriend an SMS message. If he likes you, the answer will follow immediately. It may be that the boy will come up to you himself and say that he is not interested. It’s easy to get out here so as not to look abandoned. Just say that you wanted to send this message to another person, but you got the phone number mixed up.
You don’t have to write any words, but send a funny picture that will carry a certain meaning. The further development of events is similar to telephone messages.
A simple, and most importantly effective way to check whether your feelings are mutual or not is to inadvertently say the treasured three words or something similar during an abstract conversation. In this case, you need to carefully monitor the guy’s reaction. If he doesn't have any feelings for you, then turn the conversation into a humorous direction. We can say that you are thus preparing to declare your love to your chosen one. Guys are slow-witted people, so such a reception would be great. The main thing is that you do not show your disappointment in any way. You can’t blush or look at the guy with a sad, loving look. This will make it clear to the boy that the words were addressed specifically to him.
Therefore, you need to think through everything in advance and calculate any options for the development of events and ways out of various current situations. This will help you avoid looking stupid.
If a young man is a classmate
Confessing your love to a classmate is perhaps the most difficult of all of the above. Because there can be 2 options. Either he will blab it out to the whole class, and you will become a laughing stock, or he will understand you correctly and reciprocate. Confessing via SMS to a classmate is not an easy task. You must clearly decide what you will say to your lover. Recognition should be touching and easy to understand. Still, what kind of recognition will be is up to you to decide. The main thing is to write everything that you would like to say in person. There are many examples. However, if the muse did not come to you today and you were unable to write a worthy confession, then be sure to read what is given below.
Confess your love to a guy if the girl is shy
Modesty and shyness, of course, adorn a girl, but they are not always her helpers. In the case of falling in love, you need to forget about these character traits. After all, the boy may also not dare to come up and tell you about his feelings for you. So you both will walk around and secretly sigh for each other instead of spending happy moments together.
If admitting your feelings is a difficult task for a girl, then you can come up with an original way. For example, when talking with the object of your love, you can quote a poem or a beautiful phrase about love and say that this is a speech of your own composition. If a boy loves you, he will definitely praise your talent. And you, in turn, ask how he would react if such words were written directly for him. This is how a girl can unobtrusively push a guy to admit that he has feelings for her. But if a guy laughs at the poems spoken, it means that he feels absolutely nothing for you.
You can also use the help of a girlfriend, through whom you should convey to the guy that you love him. If he likes you, then through his girlfriend he will convey information about his mutual feelings. If not, then you can act out a scene of a quarrel with her and say that she lied to put you in a stupid position. In this way, you can find out what your lover is thinking and not look stupid in his eyes.
If a guy has a faithful friend, then every effort must be made to make friends with him or to make friends between him and his girlfriend. This way you can find out all the secrets of your lover. If he likes you, then true friends will definitely introduce you. Confess your love without confidence in reciprocal feelings
It is worth remembering that you cannot be one hundred percent sure of what another person is feeling or thinking. After all, you can show outwardly completely different feelings, opposite to those that lurk in the depths of your soul. That is why, if you do not talk about your feelings, you will never know what the object of your love thinks.
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It is easier to start correspondence on the Internet. The main condition is your anonymity. By talking with a guy in this way, you can find out his secrets and find out about his likes. And if he likes to communicate with you through correspondence, then this is already one step towards his heart. He will definitely fall in love with you if communication is interesting and exciting. If it comes to a meeting, then play out what you didn’t know, that you were studying together.
In any case, the girl must overcome her fear and take the first step. This will take away her feeling of uncertainty, which is the worst. If you can find out about the guy's true attitude towards you, you will know what to do next. And not to suffer sleepless nights in guesses and dreams.
If the boy is your friend
Is there friendship between a guy and a girl? This is the question almost everyone asks. Many argue that yes, of course it exists. Others, on the contrary, are trying to convey that friendship between a guy and a girl is something that will never happen. One way or another, everyone will remain with their own opinion.
The first thing you should clearly know before confessing via SMS is how your friend feels about you. There are only 2 options - he loves you or treats you like a friend.
But how do I know, you ask, if he loves me? Very simple. You, as a girl, should obviously notice some fleeting hints from him. Let's say if he often looks at you, or offered to walk you home, gave you flowers. Even if it’s just ordinary field crops, just picked in front of you, you must admit, it’s still very nice. Have you noticed any signs of attention on his part? Then feel free to write an SMS confession. The SMS can be anything. The main thing is that it is written from the heart. Under no circumstances copy any romantic poems from the Internet, it will look fake and artificial.
If you don’t notice any hints from your friend, then don’t be upset. Perhaps he is just modest and is afraid that you are indifferent to him. In any case, it’s better to try now and write that noticeable SMS than to suffer later because you never tried. Several SMS options will be presented below. But after reading them, you should make your own, and not just copy and paste the message and send it.
To this recognition you can add some memorable moments that you experienced together. Believe me, even the coldest heart will thaw from such a sensual recognition.
An acquaintance is someone whom you do not know as well as, for example, a friend, but to whom you may be equally drawn. Confessing to a friend will be about the same as for a friend. The main thing is sincerity and sensuality in words, write whatever you want. A young man will be pleased to read what you wrote, and not what was copied from another source.
But the confession does not have to be in prose. If you have poetic abilities, now is the time to use them! A poem about your deep feelings will clearly not leave him indifferent. But remember, it must be written by you personally. Again, there are simply a huge number of examples. But you must create your own unique text by at least editing the one presented below.
Tips on how to confess your love to a guy
The first thing you need to do is take care of your appearance. This does not mean that you should look somehow unusual, defiant, or vulgar. You need to be yourself. Show the guy that you are uncomfortable and ashamed to do the act that you are doing. You just have no choice, and you cannot remain silent about your love.
The best time to declare your love is in the evening. You will have the night to analyze everything that happened, think about your mistakes and understand what you did wrong in order to avoid them in the future. Morning confession is, of course, possible, but it does not evoke romantic feelings at all.
If a girl decides to take the first step, then she must look straight into the eyes of her chosen one and look for answers to her questions in them. You can’t look at the ceiling or the floor - this will not give you the opportunity to understand how the guy feels about you. The guy’s natural reaction will be a slight shock, because the stronger sex is not used to the practice of the fairer sex declaring their love for him. There is no need to consider such a stupor as a boy’s doubts. This is his absolutely adequate reaction. The girl must give her lover time to come to his senses and answer something. Statistics show that more than eighty percent of guys reciprocate their feelings towards girls.
If a girl is not ready to say words of love to her eyes, then you can give the boy a disk with romantic music recorded on it. You need to sign him in such a way that he understands that the meaning of these songs tells about the girl’s feelings for him. Main tips: - you need to choose a time convenient for two; - create a romantic atmosphere around; - you cannot give expensive gifts;
How to behave after confession?
After a declaration of love there is always an answer. It can be expressed in different ways, but basically there are three options: agreement, you need time to think, refusal.
Whatever answer you receive to your feelings, your partner’s opinion must be taken into account and respected. Don't be intrusive and push emotionally. Relationships, even love ones, should not be stressful. Love is freedom and mutual understanding.
The most important thing after confession is to behave as before. Life doesn't change dramatically, you don't stop being yourself.
If you get consent, that's great. You are now a couple, but both you and he should have their own interests. You are, first of all, two separate individuals and it should remain so from now on. Each of you has the right to do what you did, to communicate with the people with whom you communicated, and there is no need to stop this. Suppressing individuality and prohibitions will worsen relationships.
If you receive a vague answer or refusal, then don’t worry about it too much. You shouldn't be ashamed, you shouldn't be embarrassed. You expressed everything frankly, tried to change the course of events, and that’s right. If you do nothing, then nothing will change, and regrets about things not done will accumulate in life.
Love is a very strong and serious feeling that many people confuse with falling in love. Remember that falling in love is a bright, passionate feeling, and love manifests itself over the years, when you both learned about each other’s flaws, experienced not only happy and beautiful moments, but also sadness, resentment, quarrels, and coped with problems together. A strong relationship is hard work that shouldn't stop even if you've been married for over ten years.
But falling in love, or as it is otherwise called the candy-bouquet period, is a wonderful time. You experience the most tender, warm and inspiring feelings, which has a good effect on you as an individual. Don't be afraid to fall in love and don't be afraid to admit it!
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How to prepare mentally if you are shy?
For many girls, expressing their feelings first is a challenge. Even in childhood, girls were taught that the first step is always a man’s. However, time does not stand still; changes have affected many aspects of life.
However, if you hesitate to confess because of embarrassment, you need to work on yourself to get rid of anxiety.
At a personal meeting, you may be very nervous, but rest assured that the guy will be no less excited after your words.
If the fear of confessing in person is too great, you can write a message to the guy. A written confession can be carefully thought out, changed some words or phrases if necessary, and sent to the recipient when you have the courage.
In order to overcome your fears and gain confidence that his answer will be positive, you need to prepare:
- find out what kind of girls he likes;
- find out what he is interested in and hobbies so that, if possible, your interests coincide;
- think about your image, maybe you need changes for the better.
