If your man doesn’t do anything at all and you are trying to find a foundation for a man’s earnings, then read the article first. This article was written for those women who want to move from a neutral position of achievement to a big plus.
When young girls come to me with the question: “How to motivate a man? And how can I inspire him to do great things?”, then first of all I ask them to tell me about their life partner. Please describe him as a person and directly as a man, the owner of the house. Before you continue reading, I would ask you to ask yourself a similar question. Create a detailed description of your husband or boyfriend on paper: how you see him most often. Write everything, no one will see this description except you, and honest completion of the task will help you for further work. And only when the description is completed, you can continue reading. Write!
Have you written? Now read this description again, but through the eyes of a person who never knew your husband, and try to compose a portrait based on the list you wrote. When I ask girls a similar task, they admit that the image looks like an unpleasant person with whom they don’t really want to deal. Although, as soon as we begin to analyze the portrait in detail, a lot of advantages are revealed that they simply did not take into account.
Why is this so important? The fact is that
From the image that is embedded in our head, subsequent communication with the object of this image follows.
And if your description is a collection of shortcomings, then, most likely, your communication is filled to the brim with reproaches. Most do not even notice these reproaches, considering it part of normal dialogue. This is where we will stop to look at it in more detail.
How to motivate a man through attitude towards him
It is believed that women love with their ears, and it is extremely important for us to hear frequent compliments. And this is right: when we hear pleasant phrases addressed to ourselves, we realize our worth and feel inspired. For a woman, a compliment is a reminder of her unique essence. It is also extremely important for men to hear such reminders, but not in the form of compliments, but as gratitude and praise
.
How often do women forget to thank men! Yes, real men always take care of their women, but they only do it sincerely when it remains noticed.
After all, even the most touching concern can turn from goodwill into obligation and a sense of duty!
In most cases, male care in the family appears precisely as a debt obligation
, and this greatly inhibits a man’s desire to develop.
Let's give a clear example. The wife calls her husband:
- Dim, please meet me from work (shop). My bags are heavy.
“Okay, honey,” Dima answered and kept his promise. This is where the story ends.
Do you think such communication can be called an outburst of goodwill? Perhaps, but only the first 5 times. For the sixth time, the man will subconsciously feel like a slave, obliged to carry out the instructions of his mistress.
, even despite the noble word “please”. Feelings of constraint arise unconsciously, on a subconscious level, and these feelings spread not only within the family, but also necessarily affect the man’s activities not for the better.
When a man feels like a debtor at home, then in the outside world, no matter how much he wants, he will never be able to become a manager.
And if, upon meeting, his wife greets him with a smile and says:
- Dim, thank you for coming. And what would I do without you?
One such phrase changes his attitude to the situation, the man feels like a hero, and next time he will come sincerely of his own free will, joyfully realizing that his actions are taken into account and appreciated.
Why is this kind of gratitude so important to a man’s success?
Remember how we recently found out that a woman makes a strong man (see article)? This example clearly demonstrates this. After such phrases, a man feels inspired, free and purposeful, a hero in the eyes of a woman and at the same time her patron. This feeling of patronage and omnipotence penetrates so deeply that it directly affects his self-perception in society. A man must initially feel powerful within his family, and then this power is transferred to the outside world!
So ask yourself now: what does your husband feel next to you? Debt and obligation or freedom and the desire to be a hero for you?
Answer this question honestly for yourself. Please note that you do not need to humiliate yourself and pretend to be a slave Isaura in order for your husband to feel strong. Through humiliation and admiration you will generate not strength, but vanity and aggression.
The only thing you should do is be grateful that your man takes care of you and your family
In other words, to be grateful for his labors, which are performed daily. Remember that a sense of duty binds a person, but freedom opens him up.
And if you learn to be grateful for the fact that this freedom is invested in you, learn to turn his merits into achievements, then as a result you will see a truly inspired man next to you, who will certainly want to achieve even greater success and victories!
At all times, a woman has been a muse for a man
, a source of inspiration and motivation.
But modern ladies often forget about this, and instead of encouraging them to take action, they simply nag and reproach their chosen ones.
How to make a man want to move forward
and conquer new heights?
How to motivate yourself or someone else to lose weight? Find out about this from ours.
What is it for?
The main task of a woman
in a couple is not just recognizing the potential in a man, but also showing it to your lover.
Motivation aimed at creating personality allows you to “energize” a representative of the stronger sex for new sporting, professional, financial, intellectual, spiritual and personal exploits.
Thanks to motivation, a wife/girlfriend can get what she wants from her chosen one, but do it very gracefully and beautifully
. A man will be fired up with a goal and will go ahead of his own free will, and not at the behest of his companion.
How does motivation work?
Motivation
is a psychological process, the mechanism of action of which is to initiate and maintain purposeful actions/behavior of a person.
It begins with some goal that has arisen in the head as a desired guideline. Further, motivation develops through actions performed by a person to achieve a goal.
The principle of motivation is quite simple and consists of the formula “need - opportunity to achieve - action - goal achievement.”
A state of rest is the most comfortable for a person, as it allows you to save energy and protect yourself. Thus, a person is predisposed to inertia
. And motivation acts as an impulse that allows you to break through, and.
The motivational impulse can be:
- internal
(built on a clear awareness of one’s desires and individual desires); - external
(formed from external data entering the human information field and causing a certain response).
How is it different from manipulation?
Motivation and manipulation are completely different concepts in nature.
, although they are often used to achieve seemingly similar goals.
It is always associated with deception, personality suppression, classic pressure and blackmail. A woman who manipulates her chosen one seeks personal gain.
At the same time, she is not interested in the process of achieving her goal.
. For example, if a manipulative lady wants a fur coat, she will be equally happy if her husband/boyfriend takes out a loan, earns money, gets into debt or sells valuables.
Those. The representative of the stronger sex is only interested in selfishly satisfying her own needs.
Motivation is not associated with lies, selfish gain and pressure
.
A woman may indeed be interested in improving her standard of living through a man.
But at the same time, she is interested in the man making progress through personal growth and achievement.
At the same time, it is important for a woman motivator that the man enjoys his success
and wanted to move forward, and did not follow the lead of his companion who was blackmailing him.
KONSPEKTY.NET
What causes families to break up and understanding of the main purpose of creating a family to be lost? Why do more and more young people nowadays want to “live for themselves” and not for their family, and are more eager to receive rather than give? Hierarchy in the family is one of the most controversial topics in modern society.
In the process of world globalization, our country is increasingly exposed to the brutal propaganda of new cultural and family values by “enlightened” Europe and America. New ideas, completely alien to traditional Russian culture and understanding of the family, are put into our minds and imperceptibly replace the foundations of people’s worldview and sense of self. In particular, one of the most important ideas of the West is the understanding of man as an independent individual with inalienable rights, which he must constantly protect and defend. Such an individual can even choose for himself which gender he belongs to. And the word “sex” has long lost its relevance, since it was replaced by the concept of “gender”, which means the division into men and women not according to physiological characteristics, but primarily according to a person’s psychological perception of himself. Thus, Western culture completely abolishes the difference between men and women, and, consequently, the difference between their roles in the family. Now spouses are viewed only as equal partners with equal rights, free to independently decide who will provide for the family, who will look after the children, who will be a dad and who will be a mother, or even whether there will be two dads without a mother.
However, despite the great desire to make men and women equal in everything, it is obvious to any sane person that men and women are not equal. After all, entire groups of organs are completely different. God intentionally created people to be different so that they would show each other love and respect. The most important thing in the life of any person is his family. And God intentionally gave men and women different roles in the family. A woman is the keeper of the home, and a man is a breadwinner and protector. And children are their common concern and the meaning of life, for which they work together. This is the ideal the Lord expects from all of us. And there is nothing terrible in the fact that a man is the head of the family, and a woman should respect and honor him as a husband. He, in turn, must love and take care of her.
Thanks to the new Western ideology, a person replaces the main goal of creating a family with his own selfishness and convenience. Most marriages break up for the reason that people initially sought marriage not in order to show love, but in order to receive it from their spouse and have a certain everyday comfort in life. And as a result, men call themselves the boss without doing anything to confirm this and demand honor and respect. And a woman works, raises children, and carries the whole family on her alone. Of course, there is no talk here of a normal family structure, as the Lord planned it.
In a normal form, a woman should not strive to bear everything on herself, but she should learn to inspire and motivate a man with her meekness and love for him and for her children. As they say, a wise woman will build a family, but a stupid woman will destroy everything with her own hands. The main mistake of strong Russian women is that they strive to rule everything in the family, and with obvious pressure and rigidity. Sometimes a man doesn’t even have the right to choose. The wife has already decided everything for everyone “and it will be as she said.” This comes from the fact that it is easier for her to do it herself than to wait for some kind of activity from her lazy and childish husband. But does a woman ever think about why a man is so infantile and weak? Is it because she herself simply “crushed” him with her energy? Is it because she never consulted with him and did not encourage any of his undertakings, but only criticized every nail he drove in?
A woman should never forget that the head of the family is the man, and they are only in second place, but the man is the head, and the wife is the neck! This means that wherever he turns, that’s where he will go. And here the main point is the reasonable motivation of a man by a woman. You need to show your husband your approval for every step he takes, praise him for what he does. If a man is confident that his actions will be appreciated, then he himself will want to take the initiative. After all, any man is called to this by nature.
So, in order for the family to remain in our country and the birth rate to increase, our men and women need to sweep all Western garbage out of their heads and return to the original, traditional and correct understanding of the family and family values, where the husband is the head, the wife is the assistant and adviser, and the children - the future people of God. There is no need to replace roles in the family, women do not need to be in charge, but they just need to properly motivate their men to act. And then everything will fall into place on its own. The whole motivation of a man by a woman lies in love for him, in the ability to “inspire to heroic deeds”, in the ability for him to make the main family decisions himself. After all, a man and a woman are not equal, and they are assigned their own special roles in the family.
Download this material:
Please rate the material you read :)
(No ratings yet) Loading…
Related Posts
- What to do for depression in women?
- Motivation for student learning. Motivating Harvard Students
- Video: Motivating students to learn. Motivation…
- How does depression manifest in women?
- Abraham Maslow motivation and personality. Motivation according to Maslow
- Video: Motive and motivation in psychology. Motivation according to Freud
- Motive and motivation in psychology. Motivation according to Freud
- Relationships between a man and a woman. Psychology
- Support of a man by a woman
- Women's success in business. Setting up for success for women
- How to create a feeling of security in women?
- Spring depression in women: symptoms.
Technicians
The most correct and logical way of motivation is love
. If a woman takes care of her lover, supports the family hearth, and fills their life together with warmth and affection, the man will be ready to move mountains and get a star for his chosen one.
But if a man is going through hard times and has lost interest
to the eternal race for success or just to relax, you can resort to the help of various motivation techniques.
For making money
How to motivate your husband to earn more money?
Discussion of ideas
A woman shouldn't sit on the sidelines
, expecting monetary results from a lover.
After all, she, as a powerful source of energy, can support and energize a man.
And for this you need to show sincere interest
to all his ideas, discuss plans and encourage the chosen one. But you shouldn’t condemn ridiculous ideas, because then the man will begin to be ashamed of his thoughts and feel insecure.
Help cannot be provided
This is a completely ineffective strategy
. Some women take a second job, save desperately and support their families. They think that in this way they provide the man with time and opportunity to accomplish feats.
But contrary to their expectations, the man does not become a millionaire. It just turns into a houseplant, stuck in its comfort zone and unmotivated.
Why strive for anything if your loved one can provide for her own life? After all, it’s more pleasant to relax and let everything take its course.
And over time, exploiting your chosen one becomes not at all ashamed.
Trust as a basis
If a woman doubts a man's decisions, she conveys insecurity
in one’s own actions and the chosen one.
It is important to convey calm and faith
that the loved one will be able to adequately provide for the family.
In this case, the representative of the stronger sex will simply justify this trust, motivated by the firm position of his woman.
Ability to accept gifts
If a woman does not know how to accept expensive gifts and money, a man quickly loses his motivation to earn money.
After all, it is very important for a representative of the stronger sex to receive gratitude and delight in response to the “prey” that he brought home.
Why compete with other men, test and take risks if a woman ostentatiously pays for herself in a restaurant?
What to do in situations when a wife scolds her husband for wastefulness?
after buying an expensive gift? The need to provide and please your beloved immediately disappears on her initiative.
For success
How to properly motivate a guy to succeed?
"Stroking"
It is important to suppress any desire to shout at your husband/boyfriend, nag him and scold him.
Instead, you need to start praising him for every step
towards the goal.
Even if this step ends in failure, it is important to show the man that his attempt was noticed and appreciated.
But it’s better to limit yourself to simple things or praise, without resorting to flattery. Gradually, such “self-esteem strokes” will help a man take the right course
to achieve success.
"Example"
Perhaps the man doesn’t even think about the fact that he could succeed. And from the lips of a beloved woman, words about the need to develop seem insulting. After all, the beloved openly says that the current state of affairs does not suit her.
A wise woman will show her chosen one a positive example,
but he will do it very carefully. You can give a biography of a successful businessman, offer to watch a motivating film together, or invite your loved one to a speech by an authoritative specialist in his field.
The sight of a successful man will provoke any representative of the stronger sex to compete and take specific actions.
"Self-development"
Some relationships can kill a man's potential
.
If a woman continually persuades her lover to lie in bed instead of taking a step towards her dream, it is very difficult to resist.
Well, what if the chosen one is also overly protective?
your boyfriend/husband, while simultaneously involving him in useless leisure, over time, even a guy bursting with ideas will turn into a passive homebody.
A woman must set a motivating example.
To do this, you need to find a hobby and invest energy in self-improvement.
You can learn Chinese, dance hip-hop, do handicrafts, or learn a new profession. Next to an active woman, a man himself will want to perform feats.
To actions
Men do not understand hints, so it is necessary to speak directly and honestly. If a woman wants to get some action from a man, she must indicate her desire.
And it’s better to do this without aggression, reproaches and tears. The desire of your beloved is already a motivating factor.
A woman can help a man not only as a muse, but also as an adviser. Don't be afraid to point a man in the right direction.
After all, sometimes it is the spouse or girlfriend who can soberly assess the abilities and potential of a man, without exaggerating or belittling his abilities. Relevant advice
will push the hero to commit an act.
Delight
- another effective way to motivate men.
The reason for admiration can be current achievements or brave deeds committed in the past.
When the chosen one understands that he has already “accomplished the impossible,” it will become easier to decide to act
.
Everything is good in moderation. Motivation must be measured
. Do not turn family life into a training session for personal growth. Otherwise, any heartfelt words will lose their power, turning into empty sound.
Don't forget that motivation alone is not enough for great achievements. A man also needs resources, a plan of action and the right moment.
Therefore, if the chosen one has previously achieved success and has enormous potential, you should not be disappointed in him in moments of apathy and indifference
. Every person has the right to rest and break. A full break will allow you to accumulate strength for a new breakthrough.
How to motivate a man? Find out from the video:
Good afternoon, dear readers! Today I would like to talk to a female audience about how to encourage a husband to earn more. Financial issues in a family are not always simple and easy. Who should earn? What to do if a man doesn't want to work? How not to turn your beloved into a workaholic? Be your own boss, or how to get a man off your neck.
Motivation of a man by a woman to make money, actions and success: how to inspire
There have always been women who inspire men to do great things. In the Middle Ages, these were beautiful ladies for whom knights participated in tournaments.
Now these are women - “muses”, serving as the main source of inspiration for poets, artists and other creative people. Every girl can become such an inspiration, regardless of appearance and figure.
The main thing is correct behavior and sincere, genuine interest in what the beloved is doing.
The right motivation will help a man achieve his goal
Is it possible to motivate a man?
In order to inspire a gentleman to achieve feats, a woman, first of all, should not be obsessive in her desire to make a man the most successful person in the world. You need to act gently and wisely, especially if the chosen one is stubborn and has not been accustomed to obeying ladies since childhood. For proper motivation you need:
- Actively use praise as a means of achieving your goal;
- Never compare your life partner with other men, even if they have really succeeded in something. On the contrary, you need to tell your loved one that he is the best, even if this is not entirely true;
- Actively use your feminine attractiveness and never deny your loved one intimacy;
- Attach great importance to even the smallest victories and achievements of your life partner. This will help a man feel the significance and importance of his own personality.
These simple rules will help motivate even the most seemingly hopeless gentleman, who has been sitting on the couch for several years without work and prospects, to do great things.
The main thing is to act gradually and not take sudden steps, so as not to scare off the chosen one with your persistence and determination.
A woman’s task is to instill self-confidence in her chosen one and help him overcome the complexes that prevent him from achieving his desired goal.
The difference between motivation and manipulation
How to motivate yourself - set a goal and do everything to achieve it
Many psychology textbooks have been written about how to motivate a man. However, motivation should not be confused with manipulation.
Manipulation always involves some kind of selfish goal: a woman wants to achieve her goals with the help of a partner.
Motivation is a process when a lady helps her companion achieve his goals, not her own.
A man's success largely depends on his companion
Who do you need to be to inspire?
Every representative of the fairer sex should know how to inspire a man to succeed. In order to become a real muse, a woman must:
- To be sexually attractive, desirable, seductive for your partner;
- Have worldly wisdom;
- Never insist on your own, be able to adapt to the character and desires of your partner if necessary;
- Sincerely love a man and wish him only good, happiness, success, and selflessly.
If all the conditions described above are met, a lady can turn out to be a real inspiration who will help her spouse or loved one achieve success in absolutely all endeavors.
It should also be remembered that if a lady wants to motivate her chosen one, she should under no circumstances put herself above him, even if in fact the woman’s social status is indeed higher (for example, she occupies a leadership position with a high salary, and her husband - ordinary employee).
Also, a representative of the fairer sex must be one hundred percent confident in herself, her strength and beauty. That kind of confidence is contagious. It is quickly transferred to the partner, and the man begins to understand that he really can do anything.
Interesting. The muses of famous poets and artists often have rather ordinary appearance. An example is the famous Gala, wife of the surrealist artist Salvador Dali. She was older than Dali and did not have the parameters of a model, but she inspired the master to create many paintings.
How to properly motivate a man
How to interest a man by correspondence and is it possible to drive him crazy?
Motivating a man with a woman is a rather complex and time-consuming process. The main thing is not to be intrusive, so as not to provoke the effect of rejection. To do this you need:
- Talk directly, avoiding hints, but without insulting your partner, even if this is not the most successful person;
- Act systematically and daily;
- Constantly instill in your partner the idea that he will succeed;
- Never discuss the success of your spouse or partner with other people, even close relatives, in the presence of a man.
These simple rules will be of great benefit.
How to motivate yourself to earn more money
Not everyone knows how to motivate a man to earn money who has held a small position for a long time and is quite happy with this state of affairs.
The answer is simple: you need to make the man himself understand that earning a lot of money and financial well-being will benefit him.
Only by independently realizing the need to increase income will a former loser be able to change his old job to a more profitable one.
An ordinary employee under the influence of a lady can easily become a boss
How to motivate for success
Before inspiring a man to succeed, you need to think about whether he is able to cope with the tasks. The load must be within his strength. A woman should often repeat to her beloved that she believes in him, and success will not be long in coming.
How to motivate a man to take action
In order to motivate the chosen one to commit this or that act, it is necessary to explain to him what benefits will come from performing this deed.
For example, in order to achieve a marriage proposal, you can argue for the need for marriage by saying that joint budgeting will help optimize financial costs, and having a child together will help improve the relationship.
Men are practical people, therefore, having realized the benefits of something, the partner is unlikely to be stubborn.
The main thing is to find the right approach to your loved one
Praise is the best way to motivate a man
The most effective way to motivate men is verbal, through praise. You need to praise wisely. To do this, you must follow the instructions:
- Do not be verbose and praise only on the merits;
- Praise your husband or boyfriend not only for a specific action, but also for his character qualities (purposeful, stubborn, persistent), even if this is not entirely true;
- You shouldn’t greatly embellish your masculine virtues, because your partner can easily suspect the falseness and insincerity of the praise;
- You can combine praise with other types of reward (for example, a romantic dinner together at a restaurant or nice sex).
When choosing words for praise, you should remember the famous phrase from the cartoon about Captain Vrungel: “Whatever you call the yacht, that’s how it will sail.” If the laziest man is constantly told that he is a hard worker, he will certainly become one (but this will not happen right away).
On the contrary, if you constantly scold and humiliate the most purposeful and stubborn gentleman, he will soon turn into a weak-willed and helpless person. The power of words is very great and should not be underestimated. Verbal praise is an important tool for motivating action, which in 100% of cases helps ladies achieve their goals and motivate their loved one. This must be done delicately.
Praise always flatters male vanity
Women's tricks in motivating the stronger sex
In order for a person to become responsible, persistent, and purposeful, a woman must always pretend to be weak, even if in reality she is not, and hide her success. This must be done without fail.
Then the partner will want to protect her and thus develop important qualities: self-confidence, the ability to achieve one’s own and earn money for the family in order to live in abundance, perseverance and determination.
This is a time-tested means of motivation.
Also, in no case should you be rude and insult your chosen one, even if he doesn’t succeed in everything. You need to praise and inspire for any, even the most insignificant, step forward, for any business. In this case, the man will understand that he is important to the woman, this is the right path to progress and the right movement forward.
You shouldn’t share your tricks in motivating your loved one with anyone. Of course, the partner shouldn’t know anything either. Let the man think that he achieved all his successes on his own, without the help of a lady, and let his partner have nothing to do with his great victories.
Then he will become even more self-confident and strong in spirit, and his love for his chosen one will only intensify. These simple tips will help inspire any guy to do great things and receive his love every day.
The main thing is to act according to the system and guide your husband through life without stopping him from going on his own.
Every lady has her own little tricks
Interesting. If your partner is very stubborn, you can, as they say in psychology, “go by the opposite” to achieve the desired goal. An example from practice: my husband was laid off from his job, and he has not found a job for a long time, he does not even want to work, receive money and support his family.
In order to drive her partner off the couch, the woman, on the contrary, persuades him to rest and motivates this by the fact that a good job with big earnings is still very difficult to find. In 99% of 100, the stubborn person will certainly begin the search for a new position of money and wealth, guided solely by a feeling of protest.
It is not difficult to become a source of inspiration for a representative of the stronger sex; the main thing is to behave confidently and know your worth. Practical experience shows that such behavior can motivate a gentleman to do anything, including a marriage proposal followed by a trip to the registry office. Each man is a unique personality requiring an individual approach.
Source: https://srazu.pro/semeynaya/kak-motivirovat-muzhchinu-pravilno.html
Shared wallet
When a couple starts living together, problems often arise due to the division of finances. Whoever earns more can spend more, nest eggs from his wife, unspecified purchases, etc. If both partners were willing to sit down and resolve this issue, then a huge number of problems that arise in the future could be avoided.
The first thing to start with is to forget about the concept of “my/his money”. Now you live together and have a common budget that you plan together. The issue of your personal spending should also be discussed with your spouse. One person can manage the budget itself, but all financial issues must be resolved in advance.
Think: what do I want from life? If you and your husband have different views, then you simply need to discuss all differences and come to some kind of common decision. You want to spend money on yourself, on your appearance (cosmetology, massages, fashion brands, etc.), but your husband considers it all a waste.
You sit down and talk. You explain your position. The husband expresses his opinion. The main task is to find a compromise. For example, you spend a certain amount of money on yourself, and your spouse goes to a sports bar with friends on Fridays. You can always find a solution if you want it.
From one extreme to another
When it comes to motivating your man, it is very important not to cross the line and not make him a workaholic. Workaholism can have a very bad effect on both family life and the physical and mental state of a person.
There must be harmony in everything. Don't turn your man into a money printing machine. Know how to stop in time. Plan your budget in such a way that you understand how much, for what and where you need it. It’s better to stretch out your desires over time.
If you want to move to another apartment, but to do this you need to earn a couple of million, then think about how you can do this without compromising your health. Remember that there are things much more important than finances. And, of course, do not leave your man alone in this difficult matter.
If you are not working, then think about how you could start making money. Today there are a huge number of opportunities to start receiving money without even leaving home. Start your own blog, provide services at home (manicure, pedicure, makeup, hairstyles, etc.), translate texts, help in writing essays and term papers.
How to motivate a man correctly?
Just yesterday your man was active in all matters and concerns, at home, at work, but today he has changed. You cannot take him out of the house for a walk, to see friends, to the theater, to the beach. And before, you always went to any place together with great joy. The loved one stopped doing anything for the house. Became silent or, conversely, irritable. When such changes happen, there are reasons for it. They need to be identified and the first step taken in solving the problem.
For example, if your significant other needs a job, find your first potential clients. Having health problems? Prepare healthy food for your loved one. These small steps with your participation will motivate the man and provoke him to become the same, and perhaps even better.
Encouragement is a powerful motivation tool.
Getting angry, screaming or nagging for misdeeds is the worst thing you can think of. In a critical situation, you always need to find kind, and most importantly, the right words. Focus more often on positive traits and talent. Do this in front of others. Praise, but don't flatter.
Compliments are an excellent weapon of motivation, although sometimes a man needs practical advice rather than words of encouragement. Therefore, you should be specific with your praise towards him. Together with words of praise and encouragement, offer specific solutions that would become a support on the path to achieving goals.
Inspiration is the main driving force.
A man can notice and appreciate care, attention and understanding. But this is not what motivates and makes you move mountains for someone. What then, you ask? First of all, trust!
Don’t even try to adjust the man to your needs. Develop yourself at all costs, take care of yourself, try to gain your own independence, and finally improve yourself. If you present yourself as a passion worthy of pride, this will serve as the most effective motivation that always works.
It is important to give the feeling that you like everything, even when something is not done as you would like.
Admiration is a serious argument.
Everyone would like to be courageous, strong, the best in the world in women's eyes. This means that in order to motivate a man and provoke him to move mountains for you, you must admire his appearance, strong character traits, actions, words.
Words of admiration and approval inspire beautiful actions. They are like building blocks for two foundations: confidence and certainty, without which a man cannot take care of a particular woman. A man who does not feel confident and certain next to a woman will not want to move mountains for her, but will most likely go looking for another haven.
{module Psychology bottom}
In this article I will tell you how to motivate your man. What types of motivation are there and how to skillfully use them so that a man works, develops and invests in your family. I will give you step-by-step instructions, using which you will understand how you can motivate a man to grow and develop. And also, I will tell you about tips that may hinder you. As a result, you will have an understanding of how to make a man motivated to develop and improve the well-being of your family.
Success is like a rose growing in a garden; it must be cultivated with patience and persistence. And it is better to use techniques and methods that are adequate to the expected result.
Don't put a man on your neck
If a guy is poor, this does not mean that he will not love you deeply, firmly and for a long time. You can always help him, support him in a difficult situation, suggest the right decision. A woman should be a support for her man. It is for the sake of their beloved that husbands perform heroic deeds. Love works wonders. Never forget this.
But if he is passive, then it can be much more difficult. A young lady I know fell madly in love with a young man. I fell in love so much that I didn’t notice anything around me. The guy, don’t be a fool, took advantage of the moment and sat on the girl’s neck. She worked two jobs to provide for them, went shopping for groceries, and saved up money for a car so that her loved one could drive it. And the young man, in turn, sat at home, pretending to be looking for work, but always to no avail.
There are a million such stories. Don't let a man take advantage of you. Keep your overall budget in mind. Partners must work together on relationships, earn money, plan the future together, and seek compromises.
Tell us about your situation. What is your problem? How do you try to get your husband to work? Are you able to motivate your loved one to earn more?
I am sure that you will figure it out and find the most correct and suitable solution!
If a woman is in a relationship with a man, then most likely she may ask herself the question: how to motivate a man and make him successful? After all, everyone wants to have a wonderful prince next to her, a wonderful young (or not so) man, strong, caring and achieving great results.
But not everyone knows what the recipe for cooking a man is. What techniques and methods can a woman use to inspire her man, motivate him to achieve feats and actions, and make him strive for more and more.
Do you know what the secret words
Will they help you make a man fall in love with you very quickly?
To find out, click on the button below and watch the video to the end.
How to motivate a man to succeed: two approaches that will make him a millionaire • Growth Phase
You wake up, prepare breakfast, accompany your husband to work, devote the whole day to your business and worries, meet your spouse, spend time with him and go to bed.
Sounds like a pretty good life scenario. Your husband works, you have time for yourself. You're both happy, aren't you? No not like this.
The husbands of friends already have high positions, have created their own businesses, bought apartments, relax on the ocean shore and drive around the city in brand new cars.
Are you capable of making a difference? It’s unlikely, because you have a lot of troubles with children, home, relatives - women most often simply have no time to conquer the world.
But what about your beloved man? He provides for the family, he is your protector and reliable support. Isn’t it his “competence” to change your life for the better?
If you have also come to this conclusion and are now looking for an answer to the question of how to motivate a man to earn money, move away from his parents, or buy a car, you have found what you were looking for.
Men and boys
Before you understand how to motivate a man to act, you need to understand what type of man you are dealing with.
Based on the strength of motivation, setting goals and achieving them, all representatives of the opposite sex can be divided into two categories: men and boys.
The first type does not need your direct influence. He had long understood what he needed from life and how exactly to achieve it.
Remember any successful man - a businessman, an actor, a musician - they clearly follow their own path, gaining more and more fame, money and recognition in the process.
Do you think they need some extra motivation? No, it's just a myth. They need inspiration, which the girl they love can very well give.
As for the second type, the “boys” have not yet realized their role in this unfriendly world. Most often they are aimless and infantile.
If you get to know your lover, do not rush to think about breaking up. Your boy can become a real man, but only if he wants it.
This is where motivation is needed, because making money is not limited to going to work every day. A man must go to success, reach new heights.
How to motivate a man
Are you ready to inspire your hero to great deeds? Then... just be close to him. Yes, it's that simple. If there is a real man next to you who loves and appreciates you, all you can do is maintain this idyll.
Delight him, surprise him with new culinary masterpieces, or learn how to give a professional relaxing massage.
Develop intellectually and become a more interesting woman. Show the man that you do not stand in one place, but strive forward with him.
Nothing can motivate a man to succeed more than having an ideal soul mate. This statement is about you, isn't it?
How to motivate a boy
When dealing with a boy, you won't be able to use motivation as a panacea for all your problems.
Your chosen one may get a promotion or open his own small business. But the problem will not go away.
The boy needs to be re-educated into a man. Ideally, this should have been done not by you, but by his parents, but in such situations, life practically gives us no choice.
What problems do infantile men and, subsequently, their wives encounter? Lack of purpose. This entails the absence of an action plan, and then a passive life position.
In a word, a man floats with the flow and slowly degrades. How can a loving woman make her man come to his senses and start doing something? The answer lies in the problem itself.
Goal, plan, life position. It is this chain that connects a man with his success. The absence of at least one component causes inaction, stress and passivity.
Target
It’s worth starting with her. It should be one big goal that cannot be achieved in one week or even a month.
Buying an apartment or a car will be a good goal, but it’s better to let them be components of something bigger.
“Move your family to New Zealand”, “Get on the cover of Forbes”, “Earn $1,000,000”, “Swim in all the Oceans of the world” - these are some interesting goals for you.
Also remember the following rules:
- The goal must have a deadline. Earning $1,000,000 can take your entire life, but setting a one-year deadline will significantly speed up everything you do.
- The goal must be achievable. Your man may be able to become the most popular singer or actor, but becoming the President of the United States or the head of the People's Republic of China is already on the verge of fantasy.
- The goal should be flexible but unambiguous. This will save you from a lot of stress and failure. Agree, it is much easier to “Move to New Zealand” than “Move to a VIP apartment with an ocean view in New Zealand.”
- The goal shouldn't be the end of the story. Only by believing in the feasibility of your dream and working out a plan in case it is achieved will you receive additional strength and motivation.
- Purpose should be the meaning of your life. You can dream of becoming a football player while still working in an office. Don't make excuses and make your goal your number one priority.
Being a wise woman, try to ensure that the man's goal also concerns you and your children.
Plan
This will require not only a good imagination, but also mental abilities. Men make plans better than women, so ideally your lover should do all this.
You can help him with details and additional information. Be your man's faithful assistant, let him be the top manager of your common future.
The plan for achieving the goal itself looks like a huge ladder, the steps of which are actions and responsibilities.
It is not enough to break down the goal this way: “Buy a car = earn money + find a seller.”
How much money is needed? How to earn them? What kind of car do you want to buy and where? All these details must be in the plan.
As a result, the man will receive ready-made instructions for achieving success. All that remains is to follow the rules and act, act, act.
Life position
You can have a goal, a ready-made plan, but still sit still and do completely useless things. This is a passive life position.
It is formed along with the character and inner core of a man. Weak and helpless boys will never be purposeful and self-confident.
Are you able to change his life position? After all, such a radical change requires a serious restructuring of human psychology.
We list the factors on which the chances of success depend:
- age;
- the power of love for a woman;
- sincerity of desire to achieve the goal;
- presence of a serious problem and unwillingness to tolerate it.
It is much easier for a thirty-year-old man to change his outlook on life than for a fifty-year-old man. With age, our psyche “hardens” and we are less and less influenced by our environment.
The power of love inspires change. Loving is the best thing a woman can do for a man.
The desire to achieve a goal is important, because a man must truly want to change himself. Make sure that he himself chose the purpose of his life, and did not just agree with your manipulations.
People rarely change their lives just like that. There must be a reason, which is usually a boring problem.
Buying an apartment because of quarrels with neighbors, changing jobs because of an evil boss - the examples are obvious.
Let the man look at your efforts, your desire to see him strong and great. Inspire him with your faith and devotion. This may take time, so be prepared to wait.
Watch his actions. If nothing changes, and you have been living in anticipation of a miracle for more than one year, prepare a farewell speech and pack your things.
Some men are unable to change. There may be several reasons for this: upbringing, environment, the influence of a passive environment or lack of love for you.
Staying with such a man and continuing to believe in him is pointless. However, you yourself will understand this over time.
A happy ending
Let's not end on a sad note and remember that strong relationships and sincere feelings always triumph over falsehood and endless quarrels.
Is your partner a real man? Be his muse, inspire him correctly and give him warmth. It costs nothing, but is highly valued.
It’s hard to call your partner a real man, but you still love him? Then do everything to turn your loved one into a real superhero!
Help him decide on a goal, support him in creating a plan, and with the help of love, inspire a man to change his position in life. Remember - love works wonders.
For motivation, hang a sign with a quote from business coach Jim Rohn above his desk: “Successful people do what unsuccessful people don’t want to do.
Don’t strive for it to be easier, strive for it to be better.”
How do you motivate a man to succeed?
Team Growth Phase, Growth Phase
Source: https://fazarosta.com/kak-motivirovat-muzhchinu-na-uspeh-dva-podhoda-kotorye-sdelajut-ego-millionerom/
Fear is the first source of motivation
Many dictators and people who like to suppress others understand that fear is a great motivator and is great at getting others to do what is prescribed.
A woman can also use fear in her relationship with a man. Of course, this remedy is frankly very dubious, but it is still worth mentioning.
How can a woman use fear to her advantage? Well, let’s say a man can love a woman very much and be afraid of losing her. And she will manipulate this feeling, telling him that if he does not succeed, then she will simply leave him. A man can, of course, be motivated out of fear in such “unusual” ways.
Benefit and need satisfaction
A woman can motivate a man in another way - she can give him hope for some benefit. Let him understand that if he does something in the right direction, his situation will improve. And here we are talking not only about material improvements thanks to one’s work and efforts.
Here we can talk about the fact that a woman beckons with sexual pleasures, food, and anything else. Maybe my status, fame will improve, I will get peace of mind, or some kind of pleasure. Everyone finds their own ways. But in any case, you need to let the man know that if you do this, you will get such and such a benefit, you will feel more pleasant and better.
The highest level is love
But the most effective, best and most effective way to motivate a man to become successful is love. What a pity that only a small fraction of couples practice this method, and so few women try to use love to do what they want from their man.
Love is acceptance, it is openness, it is a feeling of tenderness and goodwill. All this, and much more, has the most powerful effect on a man. If a man sees and feels love from a woman, he gains strength and energy.
How to find the key to a man's heart? Use secret words
, which will help you conquer it.
If you want to find out what you need to say to a man to charm him, click on the button below and watch the video to the end.
If a woman is open to her man, does not accumulate emotions, does not walk silently like a partisan, but opens her soul to him - regardless of what is in her soul - cats are scratching or birds are singing - a man appreciates this very much, and he has a strong incentive to move on.
If a woman is closed, then she simply begins to irritate the man - even he himself cannot always understand why, but you simply begin to rage from the presence of such a woman nearby.
Love is a very strong factor, and the stronger the love, the stronger the acceptance of a person - without conditions and billing, the stronger the magic that gives a man the ability to act and move any mountains, horizons, and achieve any results. And most importantly, he will do all this not for himself, but for the woman he loves, and bring the results of his exploits to her feet.
So what's going on? A woman tries with all her might to motivate a man to make him successful, she tries, she invests, but he doesn’t move. Day after day, year after year passes, and the man continues to remain who he was, and does not at all want to turn into the prince she imagined.
And then the woman begins to rage and is sincerely disappointed
. She put so much effort, emotions, and everything else into it - but a stone flower doesn’t come out! The man does not want to become the man she imagined. No motivation, no pushing - nothing works.
And the relationship gradually begins to collapse, everything goes to hell. The man becomes even more passive, lazy, the woman begins to stress and do a lot, and at the same time endlessly nag her betrothed, who did not answer her dreams, and everything collapses.
And why all? Because the woman did not love the man, did not treat him kindly. She loved the image that she created for herself. And the man felt it. I felt that they loved not him, but some mythical idea of him.
And the woman tried to motivate him so that from the frog she considered him to be, he would turn into a successful, rich and cool “pepper”. A man understands that they love not him, but that image - and he loses all desire to do anything for this woman.
How to motivate your man. Male point of view ⇒ Blog of Yaroslav Samoilov
How can I get him to get off the couch and do something useful? Why doesn’t he complete all his tasks and abandon them halfway? How can I help him become successful?
These questions are asked quite often during my trainings. A lot of women are interested in how they can motivate a man to perform certain actions.
Several times I have heard complaints of this type: “I have already read every possible article on the Internet on this topic, but still nothing works.”
.
Since there really is such a problem, I decided to do a little research and came to the conclusion that almost all the material on the Internet about how to motivate a man was written... by women from a female point of view.
I agree that a lot of the advice does work, but it's not always aimed at long-term relationships. Why? I won’t go into depth, but you remember that you and I are “from different planets”
?
Considering this aspect, as well as the relevance and frequent questions from my readers, I decided to take the time to write a separate article on this topic.
After reading
until
the end
, you will learn
two “terrible” truths about how to motivate men. They will forever change your attitude towards them!
Myths about how to motivate a man to succeed
To begin with, I will list a few popular statements that are clearly myths:
– women who have had many relationships know how to motivate a man and can do this with anyone;
– sex is the best motivation for him;
– if you promise something important for him in return, you can motivate a man to almost any action;
And there are an endless number of such useful things on the Internet! Now forget about it and get ready to absorb some really important information about your man.
.
Who is he really?
First you need to take into account that a man is 100% internally motivated
, because:
1) A man always acts according to plan.
Even if you don't agree with this plan, he still already has it, which means nothing can force him to abandon it: be it planning to build a skyscraper or watching TV.
Rest assured, he has a plan even for this. How to motivate your loved one in this case? Try to inspire him, become a muse for him.
2) Motivation and inspiration work differently.
At first glance, these are two identical concepts, but in reality they do not have much in common.
Motivation can be defined as an internal drive to action.
This sounds a little confusing, so read the previous sentence a few times before we move on.
3) You should take into account that the source of inspiration does not directly affect motivation
and cannot ask or demand that she prove herself.
The very presence of a source (it could be you as a desired woman, muse, inspiration) is quite enough to motivate a man.
4) Motivation works when a man’s internal state, his readiness and external inspiration coincide
. You've probably noticed that men react differently to the same events at different periods of their lives.
Is it worth trying to hint?
Any man will tell you that hints for him are completely useless efforts. Unfortunately, we are not able to recognize women's cues.
There are no receptors in our brain that respond to them. You may not believe it, but you will have to accept it. It is unlikely that you will be able to motivate your loved one in this way.
How can a woman act correctly?
It is much better when a woman accepts a man as he is now, appreciates him as he is here and now, and loves him. In this case, the man also begins to treat the woman completely differently.
What's happening? A man sees that a woman accepts him, exactly him, and not a mythical image, and feels gratitude and love in return. As soon as he feels this, he has the strength and energy to move, to do something for this woman, to achieve success. The very motivation that the woman so intensely wanted to give him appears.
That is, it turns out that the less a woman tries, like Aladdin’s lamp, to squeeze out of a man, the more strength and desire he has to do something for her. The more she loves a man and accepts him for who he is, the more motivated he is, and the greater the chance that he will become successful and give the family the necessary well-being.
There are just a few secret words
, upon hearing which a man will begin to fall in love.
Discover a secret that only a few women know. Click the button and watch the video to the end.
Here are some very common opinions expressed by women on how to motivate a man that are not true:
- A woman who has extensive experience in relationships with representatives of the stronger sex knows how to make them do everything she needs, and can do this with any man,
- If you assure your chosen one that you will do something that is of great importance to him, then this can inspire him to any actions and deeds,
- Good sex can be manipulated by any partner.
Understand the type of your chosen one
By their psychological essence, by character, adult men are of two types: men and boys.
- “Man” is unshakably confident in what he wants and what he strives for, has a goal or goals in life. Doesn't shift the solution to his problems onto someone else's shoulders.
- “Boy” is a type of dreamy person; he does not have goals in life, but dreams. He is rarely independent, he always depends on someone, his mother, father, wife. He needs someone's constant attention and care.
Impact on the "man"
How to motivate your loved one if he is a “man” type? But no way. Are you ladies surprised and disappointed? But this is the true truth, I will try to prove it.
A man, by his masculine essence, is initially motivated, because he always has a plan for any action or activity, and a Mission in life. And it doesn’t matter what actions (career success or how to spend the weekend) this plan applies, but it exists, and it’s simply unrealistic to force you to abandon it. His plans and goals may change, as well as the planned time for their implementation. The implementation of these plans is influenced only by his inner conviction and desire to bring this plan to fruition. A woman may or may not agree with these plans or the timing of their implementation, this will not change his decision, and this is not stubbornness, but the fulfillment of his internal plan or plans.
So what, a dead end? Is your loved one unable to be motivated?
It is definitely impossible to motivate, but it is quite possible to make his conviction (that is, his own motivation and inspiration (that is, an external factor) coincide). These two concepts are not at all the same thing. Motivation is a person’s own desire for some then actions, and inspiration, most often, is caused by various external factors: a person (for example, a beloved woman), a thing, a goal, a situation. And these external factors can cause their own motivation. It’s a little difficult to understand, but this is exactly how it happens. Therefore, an external factor, that is, a source of inspiration, and in this case under consideration - a beloved woman, cannot in any way influence the husband’s own motivation, demanding from him some actions or deeds. She, beloved and desired, already by her presence next to the man, motivates him to act. You just need to be close to him, love him, support him, not interfere with him moving along the course that he has outlined for himself - this will be the best motive for his actions. And make a man obey you, using all kinds of methods and techniques , this is complete nonsense.
If your chosen one is a “boy”
You don't know who your favorite is, a “man” or a “boy”? It won’t be difficult to find out. Ask him to buy you something expensive, for example, a diamond ring or a fur coat. The “man,” in accordance with his internal plan, will probably say that now is not the time for such a purchase. He has already thought through everything, and depending on various reasons (financial capabilities, or he wants to surprise you), he will give you such a gift in accordance with his internal plan. And in response to your requests to speed up this process, he will always have some excuses.
“The boy,” in response to your request, will try his best to fulfill it, even if his financial capabilities do not allow this at the moment. And here it is important to understand that while you think that you are successfully motivating your man, he is simply obeying you. He will try to fulfill all your wishes (within his capabilities), but such a man-boy is unlikely to ever become truly successful, even if the woman next to him constantly tries to inspire him to be successful, advance in his career, and so on. That is, he will obey her in everything, and will simply become “henpecked.” Oddly enough, many women are satisfied with this role of the husband in the family.
A few words in conclusion
So, it is clear that you cannot motivate your chosen one, and by and large, this is not necessary. A normal man is motivated by himself, he will receive an education, create a family, realize himself in society, and achieve success in business terms. The task of the woman who is next to him is to be kind, understanding, patient, and, in general, loving. And of course, be an individual, with your own goals and interests. And remember that no matter how much you love your husband, and he loves you, you are still not two halves of one whole, but completely independent and integral individuals, and your relationship with your husband is not a crutch that should support you all the time. A man should feel that next to him a woman who loves him will always support him, that, as one man said, “you are together against the whole world,” and then there will be no need to motivate a man to take any actions, the presence of an intelligent and understanding beloved being next to him is the best motivation.
Motivating a man. Methods and tips
In this article I will tell you how to motivate your man. What types of motivation are there and how to skillfully use them so that a man works, develops and invests in your family.
I will give you step-by-step instructions, using which you will understand how you can motivate a man to grow and develop. And also, I will tell you about tips that may hinder you.
As a result, you will have an understanding of how to make a man motivated to develop and improve the well-being of your family.
Remember!
You can't make a rose bush grow faster even if you pull it up by its branches.
Only if you regularly water the bush, carefully trim dry branches, remove parasites from the leaves, and protect them from the scorching rays of the sun, can you expect lush flowering. Success is like a rose growing in a garden; it must be cultivated with patience and persistence. And it is better to use techniques and methods that are adequate to the expected result.
Types of motivation
If you've ever wondered: how to motivate a man to have a successful career, help around the house, a healthy lifestyle, a feat in the name of a beautiful lady? Then our article is for you. Let's see what types of motivation exist that can act as an incentive for development and growth.
The first source of motivation is fear.
Authoritarian leaders and dictators play well on human fears. They quickly learned that intimidating a person can force him to perform the desired actions. Men skillfully use this motive in relationships. They intimidate and remind women of their age and fading youth.
“Who will need you, at thirty-five and with two children?”
Women are not far behind either. If they feel that a man is very attached or in love, they give ultimatums.
“Either you change jobs, look for an additional source of income, or we break up.”
Sometimes you can motivate yourself to succeed in such a dubious way.
The second source of motivation is a sense of duty.
From childhood we were taught that a man should be the breadwinner, and a woman should be the keeper of the hearth. Therefore, we are very easy to manipulate using fairly standard statements:
“You should earn more money because your second child is coming soon.”
Many people in relationships put pressure on a sense of duty and get their way, forcing their partner to perform certain actions that they consider necessary for the interests of the family. This method works, but is ineffective.
The third source is identifying the partner’s needs and meeting them
This method is more effective and humane. You study your partner's needs and give hope for a certain gain. What, besides material goods, can act as a prize?
- Tasty food.
- Space sex.
- Attending a football match together.
- Increasing social status, career growth, fame.
- Peace of mind in the family.
- Opportunity to engage in hobbies.
Each relationship is individual, but the mechanism of action of the message is the same: if you do this, you will receive this benefit, life will become more pleasant and richer. As a result, both partners will be satisfied. Therefore, it is worth learning this method and putting it into practice.
The fourth, highest level of motivation is love.
Psychologists call love the most effective and efficient way of motivation. With age, passions subside, love turns into the form of mutual acceptance, tenderness, openness and respect for each other.
When a man feels that the energy of love emanates from a woman, his wings spread, strength and incentive appear to move forward to new heights.
Love is a fairly effective factor. The stronger your love, the greater the unconditional acceptance of your partner (without setting conditions and presenting bills), the more powerful the energy that gives a man the ability to act, open new horizons, and reach steep peaks.
Only in this case will he be ready for exploits, and the result of his achievements will surely fall at your feet.
Step-by-step instructions: how to properly motivate a man
Answer honestly the question of who is more interested in moving towards success. Those who need it should change. Since you are reading this article, then you will have to work on yourself.
A woman can create herself as the muse for whom a man is ready to perform feats, become successful and rich.
When next to a man there is a woman who believes, remembers his merits and abilities, trusts him, and shows readiness to support him in the most difficult situation, then the man is much more likely to succeed and will believe in his own success.
Please note:
failure is just part of success.
You must understand that if a man wants to achieve great heights, he will have to endure serious stress, losses, and falls. On the path of self-development, you will have to learn new skills and actions:
- Do not devalue ideas, but discuss them
. Show genuine attention rather than curiosity. Don't control a man, don't bring fuss into his life. On the contrary, trust your man (you will succeed, you are smart enough). And say goodbye to worries and uncertainty. - Don't run ahead of the locomotive
. You should not offer your help. There is no need to get a second job and work like an ox. You shouldn't compete with a man. It will end like this: “Where would you be without me?” This clearly shows pride and rivalry. - Learn to believe in your man
. Often an abundance of compliments and active acceptance hides a lack of faith. Monitor your thoughts, change them. Do I want to be the woman who believes in him? Imaginary and true faith in man. Notice the strengths of your man, do not attach importance to his mistakes. Think more about your merits, build the image of a successful person in your mind brick by brick. - Calmness and trust
. Not only to the man, but also to the Universe. When a woman is in a feminine state, a man is more easily inspired to succeed. - Calm your wild imagination
. Stop worrying and worrying. Stop scrolling through scary pictures in your imagination: you are left alone, in debt, etc., - Don't be afraid of your man's success
. What will happen if he earns not $2,000, but $20,000 a month. This is a different power, a different energy. Develop yourself. Fill yourself with different content. - Pamper and love yourself
. Let a man pamper you, spend money on you. Accept signs of attention with gratitude, do not chop off your wings. Get used to luxury and abundance. Remove the fear of money. Do not refuse a man's desire to give you luxurious gifts. - Live with pleasure
. Enjoy bad weather and delicious food. Charge your man with your own positivity. - Thank your man
. For his help, for being there, for gifts and attention.
The path of change is long and thorny, so don’t rush to push a man to change right now, don’t rush things. Give the man a month, six months, a year or two to realize the changes and make a decision. This is the last, tenth item on our list.
Watch a short video on how to make a man miss you. This video talks about an idea that will help you better motivate men:
Tips that don't work
Women's magazines are full of advice on how to inspire a man to have a successful career, how to get him to go to the gym, how to persuade him to get off the couch.
Women begin to act decisively, but for some reason men withdraw into themselves, do not want to be frank, share their thoughts and experiences. Why does this happen? Let's look at three popular tips through the prism of knowledge about types of motivation.
“Advice” first
In the presence of a man, call your mother or girlfriend, complain about your difficult financial situation, tell them that you don’t have enough money to buy a refrigerator or a trip to Switzerland. Children want to visit the entertainment center, but you haven’t been to the salon for a month. Perhaps, having heard your conversations, he will think and begin to act.
Why doesn't this work?
The method is absolutely not viable. None of the motifs are included here. Your endless chatter and whining into the phone will only anger the man. He will withdraw even more into himself and move away from you.
How to proceed.
Try to spend less time talking on the phone. And if you already called, then tell your mother, yours and his, what a great guy he is. Yesterday I nailed a shelf in the kitchen.
Today you placed decorative plates on it that you brought from Morocco. And on the weekend you are waiting for guests to demonstrate the updated kitchen. Satisfy your man's need for recognition and approval.
“Advice” second
Motivate a man to take action through children. Parents always wish their children all the best. So that they do not suffer from lack of money, lack of food, toys or seaside holidays
. Therefore, casually mention your baby’s dream. Let the father think about where to get money to make his child happy.
Why doesn't this work?
This advice is ineffective because it is based on pressure on a sense of duty and manipulation of children. Instead of the expected effect, you will most likely receive aggression in response.
A man will simply begin to accumulate resentment, anger and irritation inside. This will result in quarrels and family scandals with tears and mutual reproaches.
How to proceed.
Try to manipulate a man less. Offer to consider the options together, the benefits of each decision. Let him make the final decision on his own: send the child to the village with his grandmother for the summer or buy a ticket to a children's camp in Spain. After all, he is the master of the house, an accomplished adult man.
“Advice” third
Every woman dreams of walking arm in arm with a dizzying handsome man so that all her girlfriends will be jealous. How to motivate a man to play sports and go to the gym? Accidentally leave a magazine with fit handsome men on the table. After leafing through the publication, your man may feel jealous, think about it, and start working on his own figure to arouse your admiration.
Why doesn't this work?
The feeling of jealousy is unproductive in nature, causing anger and unmotivated aggression. The advice is based on the ineffective motive of fear that you will leave him.
How to proceed.
Take care of yourself, your figure. Start visiting a fitness center. When the first results appear, share your joy with your partner, tell him that you really want to be slim and fit next to him. So that together you look like a harmonious, beautiful couple.
All recommendations are based on the motive of satisfying the needs of the partner. To bring the highest level of motivation to work, check if there is love in your relationship.
Watch the video “How to find out whether a man loves you or not. Nine signs." The video presents a convenient checklist of 9 questions. By answering them honestly, you will understand whether it is worth working on your relationship and moving towards success, or whether it is better for you to break up and look for new partners.
Answers on questions
How to motivate my man to give gifts?
For a man to start generously giving you gifts, learn to receive gifts with gratitude. When accepting flowers, a box of chocolates or a souvenir, express positive emotions and show good humor. A man will subconsciously remember the emotional reaction, feel significant, and he will want to experience this state again.
How to motivate him to marry me?
Let's start with an important note: a man must make the decision to marry HIMSELF. Remember the paradox that a woman’s strength is in her weakness and become for him the woman he wants to protect from life’s adversities. Think about the main female roles and try to change them periodically. Be either a caring mother, an ardent lover, or a devoted friend.
How to get a man to get off the couch and start working for the good of the family?
The advice is simple: do not scold or reproach a man. It’s better to ask him to get a job and find an effective incentive. Buying new things for him and paying for a swimming pool for the kid probably won't work. But a new spinning rod for an avid fisherman or the purchase of a new SUV for a car enthusiast may well become an effective bait.
What to remember
- If you want to motivate a man to succeed, start making changes with yourself.
- Accept and love your individuality.
- Become calm and serene. Take care of your life, development (beauty, hobbies, business activity, health, etc.)
- Live with pleasure and gratitude.
- Believe in your man and don't rush things.
Source: https://womanwise.ru/otnosheniya-s-muzhchinoj/obshhenie-i-vliyanie/kak-motivirovat.html
