5 signs of a greedy man

Nowadays, many women complain that men are greedy.
What is male greed? Does it always depend on a woman whether a man is stingy or not? Is it possible to turn a greedy person into a generous person? Does a man's greed depend on the degree of love for you? Let's try to understand these issues.

What are the reasons for male greed?

As a rule, greed begins in childhood. The boy who ate an orange alone, so as not to treat anyone, will never give you a gift. This was the custom in his family. The father did not give gifts to the mother, and now the son copies his behavior model and behaves like a greedy man. Stinginess and greed manifest themselves at a more mature age. There are reasons for this:

Lack of funds. A young man whose family was constantly in need of something, and whose parents forced him to save and reprimanded him for any expenses, will automatically behave accordingly. But this does not mean that such a child is doomed to grow up to be a greedy man. According to psychologists, this education will help you become economical, but at the same time successful. Such people know that there are material benefits and know how to be generous.
Material well-being in the family. How does a young man who grew up in a wealthy family behave? Boys who, from early childhood, were not faced with a lack of money, and who were bought everything at the first request, are most likely to grow up stingy. A greedy man will never give you even the smallest gift without reason. Instead of a cafe, you will be taken for a walk in the park. A greedy man is an egoist. He never refuses pleasure and easily spends money on himself.
Greed of father and mother. This is already hereditary, and a prudent attitude towards money will not keep you waiting. Stinginess will still manifest itself, and you will notice how a greedy man behaves.
Life for tomorrow. The psychology of a greedy man is such that he knows perfectly well how to behave: diligently save money to buy something. In this case, it doesn’t matter at all what exactly. A person is carried away by the process of accumulation itself. This is not some long term goal. A man does not save to buy an apartment, not to buy an exclusive car, not to buy vintage wine, he simply experiences the pleasure of putting money “in a piggy bank.”
Distrust of passion. One of the more common reasons for male greed. Mostly couples face this problem at the very beginning of a relationship. How does a distrustful boyfriend behave? At this stage, he thinks like this: I’m seeing her for the first time, we don’t know each other well, it’s not a fact that we will start a relationship, so I don’t see the point of spending any money on her. Greedy young men are afraid to part with their money and believe that a woman who receives material benefits from them will certainly break off the relationship. The boyfriend involuntarily thinks that the woman is mocking him, specifically forcing him to fork out money for purchases for her. Over time, relationships become closer and mistrust disappears. This male approach may be quite logical, but do not forget that if you are too frugal today, you may not have a happy tomorrow with this woman.
Complexes. A man with complexes behaves accordingly. He thinks that he cannot be attractive without money, and is constantly trying to prove to himself that this is not so. A person who has achieved his goals and already has something valuable in life, as a rule, does not suffer from such complexes and knows how to behave with dignity in any situation. In life, most often stingy people are young people who earn very little.

First, you need to figure out whether you really have a greedy husband?

Determine whether your husband is really greedy, or are your requests still inadequate? In this article we will assume that you love your husband and do not live at his expense.

One of the disadvantages of the fight for equality is that a husband is not obliged to support his wife, the exception being situations when you are pregnant and cannot work, are on maternity leave, are sick, or are in full charge of the household. Then, of course, your husband bears “financial responsibility” for you.

The following can be considered signs of a greedy husband:

The husband spends more on himself than is really necessary, but at the same time saves on the family (for example, he pays for painting the car in a fashionable matte color, but forgets about the “washing machine”);

The husband accumulates money even when there is no specific “major” need (an apartment or a family car), denying the family vacations and unnecessary expenses;

The husband is extremely frugal when it comes to buying gifts, saving even on such minor pleasures as flowers for your birthday;

The husband saves on gifts for the child;

And the extreme stage of greed is considered to be a man’s saving on himself.

Signs of a man's greed can also be seen at the dating stage. For example, when inviting you on a date, a man does not pay for movie tickets/cafe bills/other expenses, initially expecting you to pay at least 50% of the date price.

Signs of a greedy man are NOT:

Refusal to give you his entire salary, which he earned through his own labor, investing in this time, strength and health (a man must pay the expenses of his wife, whose job is to take care of the house, cook and other everyday life, but he is not obliged to simply give money to you);

Refusing to buy you things that are too expensive for him at his income level.

So, you have carefully considered the situation and realized that your husband is still greedy and unfair. What should I do? There is a solution, even several!

Consider some reasons for male greed. A man’s tight-fisted nature can be rooted in childhood, as a consequence of poor upbringing. Here, the concept of “bad” can hide many reasons: wrong parental attitude, lack of upbringing in general, someone’s influence (usually the streets). As a result, greed can grow out of simple envy and rivalry. However, one should not think that stinginess is characteristic only of people who come from a relatively poor class. Greed as a quality can be inherent in a person regardless of his well-being. Of course, the greed of the poor and the greed of the rich are different, but it is difficult to say who has it stronger.

Also, the cause of greed can be blows of fate. Difficulties with self-realization or a slightly prolonged financial crisis can break the male psyche (we must pay tribute to the fact that psychologically men are not so strong). In this case, a radical degeneration of personality may occur. And if your man was defeated by fate, then you, as a woman, using your intuition, need to support him at a difficult moment so that, while rethinking his life, he does not acquire “bad” habits. It should be noted that people who have been at the bottom of a financial hole can consciously or unconsciously save for a “rainy day”, sacrificing the present.

The reason for greed may be, as trivial as it may sound, stupidity. The man has not yet fully matured and has not realized the full depth of responsibility for your family. As a rule, there are more desires than possibilities and he is simply unable to set priorities or does not know, or perhaps does not want to notice, your problems that interfere with him.

However, the worst case, and perhaps the incurable one, is when a man takes advantage of his wife’s financial dependence on him and thus “affirms himself.” A man feels like a master, but instead of caring, he builds relationships according to the master-slave model.

Signs of poverty2

Here, on the contrary, the guy will bend over backwards to show that he is not poor. Hints about some high-status friends and businesses, even if he works at Fix Price as a cashier, constant “projects” online, and other gestures that will let you understand that he is not hopeless.

But he lives with his mother in a Khrushchevka, or one-room apartment, rides the tram, and his clothes include a set for work, and what you wear for a walk. It's not a problem if the guy is really trying to get out of poverty and does something for it. And it’s a completely different question if he chose you as a “social elevator”.

Yes, some boys believe that if a girl has an expensive phone and a car, she will happily share all this with her man. Of course, it’s up to you to choose, but if a person lies at the start of a relationship, it’s not very good.

A man's failure as a woman's complex

Nowadays, many women develop an inferiority complex due to the fact that their husband/partner is unsuccessful, or they meet only men of this type in their life.

Almost all women's trainings say that factors such as a man's success and the amount of money he has depend on the woman.

And the woman attends various courses, persistently carries out ceremonies and rituals - with the sole purpose of making her man successful. And if this does not work out, she takes full responsibility for the failure upon herself. At the same time, she does not understand at all that yes, a woman is responsible for a man, but... provided that he has potential and he himself wants to be successful. And if a man doesn’t have such a desire, then at least do something, he won’t be rich.

When you plant an apple tree, you know exactly what kind of apples this tree will bear. However, living or dating a certain man, for some reason you hope to get a harvest of oranges from the apple tree in the fall. And if there are no oranges, then you blame yourself: “That means I’m like that, some kind of sub-woman.” And your man, despite all your efforts, is not getting rich.

This does not mean that he is not a man. But he just can give you OTHER things... And if you look inside yourself, you will probably find that money will come to you much faster.

You may say: “Why then do we need a man? I won't be able to respect him." But this is your problem.

Remember the movie “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears”? The main character, the director of the factory, met Gosha, who was lower in status than her and earned less, but this did not detract from his masculine qualities in her eyes. She could be a woman at home and a leader at work.

And if you are higher than a man in social status, then this should not become a reason for disrespect for him. You compare successes and achievements when it comes to love.

Although, of course, there are many excesses, for example, when a woman plows for days, and a man has fun on the couch, openly taking advantage of the lady’s love. Such manifestations must be recognized immediately and stopped in time.

Greed and Saving: What's the Difference?

A woman needs to learn to distinguish between these two completely different concepts and know how a greedy man behaves. Most people believe that if a gentleman decides to save money on his woman, then he is automatically greedy. This is one of the most common misconceptions. However, it is worth being able to find the differences between greed and economy and see the fine line, crossing which a man begins to behave like Plyushkin.

What is human greed in our understanding? Greed is an immoderate desire to own material goods, the feelings of other people and not knowing the limit. Saving is frugality. A person saves resources by giving up one thing for something else. In other words, a thrifty person sets priorities and prefers some purchases to others.

There are differences between a greedy and a thrifty man. Greedy people prefer to spend the money they earn on themselves, satisfying their needs and desires, without paying attention to what the people close to them want. A frugal person behaves differently. Such a boyfriend, even despite his difficult financial situation, will find a way out of the situation and give his woman at least a small present.

Do not forget that a thrifty man is an excellent option for a future husband. With it, you can be sure that tomorrow your family will have everything they need. Since competent expense planning is a very valuable quality.

“Inspectors” and why they are bad3

He's a poor rich guy who thinks women only date him for money. He believes in this idea so much that he checks every new girlfriend for commercialism. Let's say you don't know his parents and you live in a big city. You will walk in the park for quite a long time, eat ice cream for 20 rubles, and attend free graduation performances.

And then you find yourself at his house, and you realize that this is a prince. Or a slightly twitchy introvert, whose mother got it into his head that there are only predators all around.

“Inspector” is actually not the most successful type. At least the honest greedy doesn't hide his priorities. This one will share what he has acquired with you, but only as much as you satisfy his high standards of a lifelong friend. You just have to look at some half-naked torso in a fitness center where you will go on your family map, and a scandal awaits you.

And then - checking all social networks, spying on the phone, and constant unpleasant conversations. The truth is that the worst partners are insecure, neurotic people. By the way, this also applies to girls. Imagine how life would be with you if you were constantly asking whether you have gained weight or not, whether your dress suits you or not, whether your mother is right or not.

Such a guy has the same level of impact on the brain as an insecure teenage girl.

Visiting a restaurant

Of course, your first date can take place in the park. However, if it’s winter outside, and the guy has been leading you around for an hour and hasn’t even asked if you want a cup of hot tea, then in this case you should be wary.

If the trip to the restaurant does take place, carefully observe the emotions of your companion. For example, analyze how a man chooses dishes, what they cost, whether he complains about the prices, how he pays the waiter and whether he leaves a tip. Has there been any speculation regarding his stinginess? Don't rush to conclusions.

How to check whether a man is greedy and whether he can be re-educated4

Yes, the most normal option here is still a poor guy who is trying to earn money with all his might. Of course, there is a chance that he will get carried away with philosophy and decide that everything is decay, but it is minimal. But greedy, narcissistic guys and lovers of a “free” existence at the expense of their other half will not go anywhere.

Although there are women who like to raise guys, they try for years of training to bring it to fruition. Or both to a nervous breakdown and divorce, depending on your luck. Of course, there are also cases when a greedy person realizes that he needs to share what he has acquired with his wife, but no one can guarantee exactly this outcome of events.

Raising an adult boy who was already raised by his mother before you is a rather futile task, by the way. It can be nerve-wracking and completely exhausting, especially if the “experimental” person is confident that he is right. Unfortunately, if a person is not suitable for some deep reasons, or does not see eye to eye on life and money, it is better not to try to build a relationship with him.

How to tell if a man is greedy

As already mentioned, greed and frugality are different concepts. The ability to be economical is a big plus. Most likely, this will have a positive impact on family life, since spouses can be confident in the future. Excessive frugality, on the contrary, can play a cruel joke on a person. Pathological attention to money will eventually make a man greedy. How does a greedy man behave? There are several visible signs that help recognize male stinginess.

This type of man will never part with money easily. Before going somewhere, a person can monitor the market for services and entertainment for a long time. As a result, he will take the lady to where it is most beneficial for him. He knows everything about discounts and promotions.

The gentleman will choose the cheapest dishes from the menu, and their quantity will be small, since the argument will be that eating at night is harmful. When paying the bill, sorrow will appear in his eyes. Don't be surprised if you are asked to pay the bill. And, of course, there can be no question of rewarding the waiter for his excellent job.

Don't be upset if you are left without flowers on your first date. There may be very compelling reasons for this. The man was either worried or forgot. It is likely that he was afraid of not guessing your preferences. Don't jump to conclusions. The absence of flowers is not an indicator and does not mean at all that there is a greedy man next to you.

However, if the situation repeats itself, it is worth thinking about it. Isn't that exactly how a greedy man behaves? It is this type of suitor who mentally translates everything into a monetary equivalent. By the way, such people are often stingy not only with material things. It is also very difficult to receive praise or compliments from them.

You can forget about gifts. Or the second option: be prepared for the fact that he will give the gift to himself, and not to you. “Darling, I decided to give you ten-year-old cognac! You are happy? Amazing! I just really want to relax after a hard week of work.” Greedy men do not consider it shameful to behave this way.

All greedy men, without exception, love to talk about money. Such a boyfriend can talk endlessly about what and how much it costs, where and what bills he once had to pay, even if you are not at all interested in it and it does not concern you. “Money”, “expensive”, “waste” - such words can often be heard from a miser.

Greedy men are also different. One may not spend money on a woman, while at the same time not denying himself anything. For another, the situation may be even worse: a man knows many ways to wear the same trousers all year round, to live without an iron and many other items necessary for a modern person.

Thanks to these signs, you can easily spot a greedy suitor. However, there are still signs of stinginess that are worth paying attention to. Such a person lives beyond his means, he seems to earn good money, but there is no happiness in life. He does not travel abroad and does not allow himself to buy anything significant.

Greedy man

July 06, 2020

If a person is greedy, he is greedy in everything - in money, words, care, love, attention.

Now, in modern times, many women complain that men are greedy. What is male greed? Does it always depend on a woman whether a man is stingy or not? Is it possible to turn a greedy person into a generous person? Does a man's greed depend on the degree of love for you? Let's try to understand these issues.

Is the man greedy or practical?

First you need to understand what is considered greed and what is considered saving. After all, there are different types of men.

Successful and truly rich men, in principle, from a female point of view, are greedy. It has long been a known truth that the more money a person has, the greedier he is.

And if a man started his own business not so long ago, he has not yet had time to get enough of money. He sees many prospects for the development of his business, requiring financial investments, and therefore prefers to invest all his money in work and only a little in all other areas of life.

In this case, we cannot yet talk about greed: maybe it is just practicality and the understanding that money must first be invested in something that will later bring income.

Again, think about whether you need to endure all these hardships, not knowing whether you will be able to enjoy dividends in the future - suddenly the man will have another woman. Here we are not talking about your husband, but about the men who come into your life. If your partner does not propose to you and says: “Be patient, dear,” then you need to understand that in this case there is a certain amount of risk. And here only your heart will tell you the right path.

There are men who will deliberately lead you by the nose, not intending to marry and not wanting to spend money on you now. And there are those who want to develop their business and only then offer you something, in which case your expectations and modesty will return to you a hundredfold... although they may not return. Therefore, you must honestly answer the question: are you ready for losses if your investments - youth, time, health - never pay off?

You may also meet other men who have already established themselves, but who do not want to invest in you. It's worth thinking about why? Or such a man, in principle, does not want to spend money on you, because he is not confident or deeply disappointed in women, or he has some kind of economical position in life. How does he prefer to spend and invest money?

Does he not want to invest and spend money AT ALL, or is this happening because his partner is not confident in your sincerity and love?

And you? Are you really dating him without thinking about money? Do you have self-interest? Are his suspicions and fears justified?

In this situation you should be careful. Greedy men very often tell women heartbreaking stories about how they were robbed by their ex, how they did a lot for her, and in the end she left her with nothing.

Girls, of course, there are notorious bitches among women. But... If this is not a swindler, but a partner who lived with him for several years and fell into a love trap, then think about why she has so much anger at this man? Perhaps she was greatly offended and believed that everything rightfully belonged to her. She may have wanted to compensate for some gap and wound after her relationship with him. Women do this to men only if they are very offended by them.

There are, of course, other cases, but if a woman is a notorious bitch, then how did she get to your little angel?

Do not rush to feel sorry for a man and, out of a desire not to be like your former passion, prove to him by all means that you do not need money.

If a middle-income man “came” to see you, then look for yourself. If he can’t take you to an expensive restaurant, but he has no problem buying a bucket of ice cream and your favorite fruit, then this does not mean greed. His budget is just limited.

What matters in a man is not how much he pays, but that the amount of money he spends on you is meaningful to him.

For some, 200 rubles is money, but for others, even 20,000 will not cause significant damage to their financial situation. Therefore, you, as a wise woman, do not rush to draw conclusions, but watch your chosen one a little, and then you will be able to understand whether he is a greedy man or not.

Money energy is masculine energy

You also need to understand that money is energy, and masculine. In fact, it is not a man, but male energy that is purposeful, aimed at results and achievements, which is expressed in the form of money.

Why did I emphasize the point that it is not the man who strives for the goal, but his energy? Because very often women do not understand that a man does not always have masculine energy, and this needs to be known and taken into account. All women have a desire for their partner to be successful and have a lot of money. And if this is not so, then it seems like he is not a real man... And the woman begins to feel unhappy. Although, if such a weak man came into your life, then according to the laws of nature, you most likely have more developed masculine energy, and if you do not realize it, then this also makes you unhappy. And it turns out that you suffer twice and are twice unhappy. You don’t feel like a woman next to the average man and you don’t realize your natural potential.

A man with feminine energy will not be able to kill a mammoth in the forest for you. He will shoot a rabbit and cook it for you himself. With such a partner, you will have to learn to save money, or, having spent everything at once, you will then suck your paw.

But how many other positive aspects do such men have? They are truly caring, love children, and enjoy spending time with their family. They understand the world of your feelings and experiences. You can talk to them like you would a friend, about everything and nothing. They are always ready to listen to you and for them family is a priority in their life values. Maybe, of course, they are sometimes overwhelmed by emotions and feelings, but mostly they are open-hearted and very warm. It's cozy with them.

It is difficult to call such a man greedy, just because he has no money. But he is generous with his soul and does not skimp in terms of care and emotions. Yes, he won’t be able to invite you to the Bahamas, but he will renovate your room or make something with his own hands.

Greed is a quality that extends beyond finances. If a person is greedy, he is greedy in everything - in money, words, care, love, attention.

There are many men in whom feminine energies predominate and who, by definition, cannot be strong in this world. But because of prevailing stereotypes, all women want successful partners.

Yes, the successful ones will be able to provide you with the comfort you deserve. You will not save or count pennies, but you must understand that such a man will not have time for you, or he will be emotionally closed. You will miss love and warmth, you will begin to yearn for simple human, warm and sincere communication.

A woman is designed in such a way that she will always find a reason to be sad about what she does not have. And happy are those who accept a man for who he is. And they rejoice in what he gives.

A man's failure as a woman's complex

Nowadays, many women develop an inferiority complex due to the fact that their husband/partner is unsuccessful, or they meet only men of this type in their life. Almost all women's trainings say that factors such as a man's success and the amount of money he has depend on the woman.

And the woman attends various courses, persistently carries out ceremonies and rituals - with the sole purpose of making her man successful. And if this does not work out, she takes full responsibility for the failure upon herself. At the same time, she does not understand at all that yes, a woman is responsible for a man, but... provided that he has potential

, and he himself wants to be successful. And if a man doesn’t have such a desire, then at least do something, he won’t be rich.

This does not mean that he is not a man. But he just can give you OTHER things... And if you look inside yourself, you will probably find that money will come to you much faster. You may say: “Why then do we need a man? I won't be able to respect him." But this is your problem. Remember the movie “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears”? The main character, the director of the factory, met Gosha, who was lower in status than her and earned less, but this did not detract from his masculine qualities in her eyes. She could be a woman at home and a leader at work. And if you are higher than a man in social status, then this should not become a reason for disrespect for him. You compare successes and achievements when it comes to love.

The sick greed of a man

You must understand that if by nature a man has more feminine energy, then you should not expect great success from him in society. However, there are often men who in a perverse way combine both half-man and half-woman. Such partners will not be able to give you either the warmth of feminine energy or male security in material terms, although at the same time they behave like a “model man”, demanding respect and veneration. Run away from these types, and as quickly as possible. Understand that no woman can solve the deep-seated problems of a man, which initially prevent him from realizing himself in any aspect.

This is not a disadvantage or a reason for humiliation - such men need help, deep and serious psychotherapy in order to restore parts of themselves damaged in childhood. But you are not a psychotherapist, you are a woman.

If you don’t get anything from a man, then it means he either DOESN’T WANT to give you anything or CANNOT give you anything.

A man with severe psychological problems not only cannot give you anything, he does not want it.

Such men are greedy by nature. And this male greed destroys a woman. Don’t try to understand and justify this, you won’t be able to become an accepting, unconditionally loving mother for a man, or heal the emptiness of his soul.

The wife cannot solve the problems that the husband had in childhood. The union of a man and a woman is not a union of mother and son, where one gives and the other receives. This is a reciprocal relationship where you both give and receive. Answer yourself honestly the question: what do you get from a man?

Wife status?
Material support?
Feeling safe?
Support?
Love and warmth?
Care?
Feeling of a reliable rear? What?

If none of the above, then isn’t your man a pathological greedy person?

Well, you won’t be able to make him generous, no matter how hard you try; he will always only consume without giving anything in return.

You will not have complete unconditional acceptance of a man, it is very difficult: you cannot even love your children with only such love. In any case, you have your own desires and requirements. And there is no need to be ashamed or embarrassed about them.

Yes, sometimes a woman, with her claims and dissatisfaction, destroys all a man’s aspirations to do anything for her. In theory, a man always wants to be the best in the eyes of his woman, and I think this is the most important thing - not to kill this desire. If a man feels that he is the best for you, he tries to be so, and this desire is his potential. Don't destroy it. And how it will be realized - in money, achievements, love for you, care or something else - it doesn’t matter. Learn to appreciate what you have.

If a man doesn’t even try to become the best for you, or you systematically killed his desire, then it will not be easy to restore everything and return it. Maybe it was not you, but his mother who tried hard and destroyed the desire to please a woman in her son; in this case, no matter what you do, you will not be able to rehabilitate this ability. If the mother did not demand anything at all from her son, surrounded him with love and care, without noticing that she was raising a real narcissist and egoist, then you will not be able to change his existing attitude towards life. So male greed is the lack of desire to please a woman and be the best in her eyes.

Greed is the inability to give, and not only money, but also love, care, warmth, attention, time...

If this ability was destroyed in childhood by a mother or, for example, a father who disrespected his son, made fun of him, laughed at his failures, then as a result the young man gave up forever, considering himself somehow unfinished. And no matter how hard you try, you are unlikely to be able to increase his self-esteem.

You must understand that you should not transfer responsibility for a man’s greed onto yourself, think that it means that you are not a woman, since such a man is next to you. It may not be about you at all.

If you know that a man earns money and saves it for his needs, like a hamster in its hole, then think about whether you are dealing with a real greedy person? Remember, such a partner destroys a woman on a subtle level, because you give, but do not receive anything in return.

I am writing all this about men with whom you have been in a relationship for quite some time. If you have just started dating, then at first it is difficult to judge the qualities of your partner. Let the relationship develop and watch what happens.

Especially dangerous are men who do not invest money in business and at the same time constantly save on a woman and even on themselves. And they collect, collect... Money is energy, and it must be in motion, in flow, and if this does not happen, then you and such a partner will wither away, like stagnant water in a swamp. The more money a man gives, the more he receives, but this does not mean that you need to give every penny, but some of it must be spent. If for a business, then the money invested will pay off handsomely; if for a woman, then by pleasing her, the man sees a happy and satisfied partner, which means he will feel better about it.

Signs of a greedy man

Have you ever noticed that a man takes great pleasure in spending money, but only if he gets something out of it? He can pay for dinner at an expensive restaurant, but only because he likes to go there. He can buy expensive wine because he loves it. He can even pay for your tour, but he will do it not for you, but for himself. And you will be like an additional application to his pleasure. It is important to understand these points: is a man spending money on himself or on you?
Greedy does not recognize and does not understand why give gifts if there is no reason for it; he will give flowers exclusively twice a year: on March 8 and on your birthday. He believes that spending on pleasure is useless, you need to invest money wisely.
When the conversation turns to spending or finances in general, he immediately begins to remember his past merits, how he used to have a lot of money, that there were different times, and how wastefully he handled money. That is, he will remember all the moments when he HAD them and when he spent them, but he will not mention what to do now to improve his financial situation.
Wherever you go, he will comment on the cost of this or that thing and complain about unreasonably high prices. In a restaurant, he will also mention in some form, even jokingly, the cost of the dishes.
He keeps track of all the discounts, knows where and what is cheaper. He will always buy things only on sales or promotions. Moreover, if he buys something cheaper, he will be immensely proud of himself and be in a good mood.
He is very reluctant to spend a lot of money. He always has a limit in his head, a ceiling on the amount for purchases, and with further spending his mood will deteriorate, he will begin to get nervous.
He loves to collect things; collecting is his passion and hobby.

Of course, you need to be able to distinguish when a man is truly greedy and when he is simply rational. If you need a car to conveniently get to work, and you want expensive jewelry, and a man makes a choice in favor of comfort, then this is not greed, but a manifestation of his care for you.

It is very difficult for a man with pronounced masculine energy to spend money on unnecessary things. He prefers to plan his budget and spend money wisely. But such a man can hardly be called greedy. But if a partner, in principle, cannot spend money on pleasure, but only pays for useful things, then he is unlikely to give you the emotions and attention that you will most likely need greatly when you are next to him.

Change a greedy man

If you do decide to try this, here are some tips.

First, you must be ready to accept a man for who he is. Imagine that he will always be greedy. All life. In this case, will you be able to live with him, love and respect him? If not, then don't even waste your time and energy.
If you can, try to identify tasks for a man from the nearest development zone. Be content with what you have, but dream of a LITTLE BIT more. For complete happiness, you need only a little.
So, for the sake of this little thing, the man will try to change. But be careful! If your desires are from the category “I want to be a pillar noblewoman,” then in this way you will kill any aspiration in your partner.
Create a step in your life that will be easy for him to climb. Don’t build insurmountable rocks that he won’t even try to climb.
With a slight difference in mood, let your man understand what you like and what you don’t.
Share your emotions generously when receiving gifts. But don’t jump to the ceiling and don’t thank a hundred times for one given rose.
Tell him about his generosity towards you. It is likely that he will want to become like this.

If you are too demanding of a man, then perhaps you should reconsider your criteria. But if, on the contrary, you forget about your desires, then learn to appreciate and love yourself.

Learn to see a real man, with his abilities and ability to give. Don’t try to make the king of beasts, Leo, out of a kind and loving cat.

If your plans include doing a little more than a little in order to improve the quality of your relationship with a greedy man, come for an interview with a psychologist. And, in addition, you will probably find the 6-month online training program “The Road Home” useful.

With love,

Irina Gavrilova Dempsey.

Category: Psychology of relationships

A very simple greed test

The test is actually very revealing, and thanks to what a man answers, you can understand who he really is and how he will behave in a given situation.

It's no secret that a man's attitude towards money can be used to determine how he will treat a woman.

The easier he parted with money, the easier it came to him. If a man works and always saves for something, such a gentleman is probably used to only receiving, without giving anything in return.

As a rule, such people answer all questions about money quickly. “I want to have a lot of money”, “Happiness is not in money”, “Big money is dirt, so I will never have it”, “I love money, it helps me get what I want in life” I want” - these are just some examples of what you can hear in response.

And the more you hear the words “have, power, want” in his answer, the more likely it is that the man has absolutely no intention of giving you anything. And we’re not just talking about material things here. A greedy man not only behaves predictably when it comes to money, he is also stingy with emotions.

Is the man greedy or practical?

First you need to understand what is considered greed and what is considered saving.

After all, there are different types of men.

Successful and truly rich men

in principle, from a female point of view, they are greedy. The truth has long been known that the more money a person has, the greedier he is.

In this case, we cannot yet talk about greed: maybe it is just practicality and the understanding that money must first be invested in something that will later bring income.

Again, think about whether you need to endure all these hardships, not knowing whether you will be able to enjoy dividends in the future - suddenly the man will have another woman. Here we are not talking about your husband, but about the men who come into your life. If your partner does not propose to you and says: “Be patient, dear,” then you need to understand that in this case there is a certain amount of risk. And here only your heart will tell you the right path.

There are men who will deliberately lead you by the nose, not intending to marry and not wanting to spend money on you now.

And there are those who want to develop their business and only then offer you something, in which case your expectations and modesty will return to you a hundredfold... although they may not return. Therefore, you must honestly answer the question: are you ready for losses if your investments - youth, time, health - never pay off?

You may also meet other men who have already established themselves, but who do not want to invest in you.

It's worth thinking about why? Or such a man, in principle, does not want to spend money on you, because he is not confident or deeply disappointed in women, or he has some kind of economical position in life. How does he prefer to spend and invest money?

Does he not want to invest and spend money AT ALL, or is this happening because his partner is not confident in your sincerity and love?

And you? Are you really dating him without thinking about money? Do you have self-interest? Are his suspicions and fears justified?

Girls, of course, there are notorious bitches among women. But... If this is not a swindler, but a partner who lived with him for several years and fell into a love trap, then think about why she has so much anger at this man? Perhaps she was greatly offended and believed that everything rightfully belonged to her. She may have wanted to compensate for some gap and wound after her relationship with him. Women do this to men only if they are very offended by them. There are, of course, other cases, but if a woman is a notorious bitch, then how did she get to your little angel?

Do not rush to feel sorry for a man and, out of a desire not to be like your former passion, prove to him by all means that you do not need money.

If a man of average income “came” to see you,

then see for yourself.
If he can’t take you to an expensive restaurant, but he has no problem buying a bucket of ice cream and your favorite fruit, then this does not mean greed. His budget is just limited.
What matters in a man is not how much he pays, but that the amount of money he spends on you is meaningful to him.

TOP 5 famous cheapskates

It is a well-known fact that the biggest stingy people in the world are the rich and successful people. Allegedly, a millionaire would not become a millionaire if he did not count every penny. The more facts you learn about some of them, the truer this statement seems. So how do greedy stars behave?

Mick Jagger.
Mick Jagger is known not only as a flamboyant and eccentric personality, but also as a terrible curmudgeon. The musician pays for his purchases with his own autograph. Yes, yes, you heard right. Instead of paying with money, he simply signs napkins and checks. By the way, Mick’s frugality can be seen not only in relation to the staff, but also in his behavior with his numerous mistresses. Each of his women at one time complained that the musician was not too generous with gifts and surprises. Despite his millions, Mick can hardly be called wasteful or generous. In relationships with women, he was guided by the principle: your best gift is me.
Paul McCartney.
Sir Paul McCartney is considered the most greedy and economical of the legendary Beatles quartet. How does an artist behave when he doesn’t want to part with money? He very skillfully pretends that he “forgot” to buy a bottle of wine when friends or acquaintances ask him to do so, and also regularly forgets to give gifts to members of his own family. Paul even gives his house helpers instead of money... cans of beer!
Sean Penn.
The famous actor and director Sean Penn is also not behaving in the best way. He saves on tips for service staff and never pays anyone an extra penny. Penn argues his position by saying that “they already have enough of their earnings.” But the funny thing is that the actor is an ardent charity activist. The miser encourages others to be responsive and help other people if they are in trouble.
Jeremy Piven.
The star leaves discs containing TV series with Jeremy as a tip. It is quite possible that it is not a matter of greed, the actor simply invented his own way of increasing popularity.
Roger Dorcas, Wendy Dorcas and Maximillian. Film director Roger Dorcas is not exactly greedy. And he was not very famous. But the fact that he could behave somewhat strangely is for sure. After the death of Dorcas, it turned out that he left his entire fortune of several million dollars not to his wife (who, by the way, was three times younger than him), but to his beloved dog Maximillian. Of course, the deprived widow filed a lawsuit.
The latter took the dog’s side, but the actress found a way to keep millions for herself - she... married Maximilian. Yes, yes, the poor dog had to walk his mistress down the aisle. It turned out that when Dorcas opened an account for the dog, it became necessary to register the dog as a US citizen in order to pay the necessary taxes. The actress’s marriage to the dog was even registered - the dog’s papers were in order. And when Maximilian died, the “widow” inherited all his wealth.

Money energy is masculine energy

You also need to understand that money is energy, and male energy at that.

. In fact, it is not a man, but male energy that is purposeful, aimed at results and achievements, which is expressed in the form of money.

Why did I emphasize the point that it is not a man who strives for a goal, but his energy?

Because very often women do not understand that
a man does not always have masculine energy, and this needs to be known and taken into account
.

All women have a desire for their partner to be successful and have a lot of money. And if this is not so, then it seems like he is not a real man... And the woman begins to feel unhappy.

Although, if such a weak man came into your life, then according to the laws of nature, you most likely have more developed masculine energy, and if you do not realize it, then this also makes you unhappy

. And it turns out that you suffer twice and are twice unhappy. You don’t feel like a woman next to the average man and you don’t realize your natural potential.

But how many other positive aspects do such men have?

They are truly caring, love children, and enjoy spending time with their family.
They understand the world of your feelings and experiences.
You can talk to them like you would a friend, about everything and nothing.
They are always ready to listen to you and for them family is a priority in their life values.
Maybe, of course, they are sometimes overwhelmed by emotions and feelings, but mostly they are open-hearted and very warm. It's cozy with them.

It is difficult to call such a man greedy, just because he has no money. But he is generous with his soul and does not skimp in terms of care and emotions.

Yes, he won’t be able to invite you to the Bahamas, but he will renovate your room or make something with his own hands.

Greed is a quality that extends beyond finances. If a person is greedy, he is greedy in everything - in money, words, care, love, attention.

There are many men in whom feminine energies predominate and who, by definition, cannot be strong in this world. But because of prevailing stereotypes, all women want successful partners.

A woman is designed in such a way that she will always find a reason to be sad about what she does not have.
And happy are those who accept a man for who he is. And they rejoice in what he gives.

How to deal with a greedy man: some tips

A greedy man, without exaggeration, is a diagnosis. This is truly a serious psychological problem, the most natural of all reflexes inherent in him by nature is violated - to give to a woman. Of course, you can communicate with such people and create families. How to behave with a greedy man is up to you. It all depends on how he will solve problems and raise children. Or maybe your love can change him. In this case, a woman can be advised the following:

Conduct “thematic” conversations with your husband

Be patient and get into the habit of talking. A lot of. Often. For a long time. Stock up on arguments. The more of them there are, the greater success awaits you.

Of course, this will take a huge amount of time and, most likely, you will not see the result soon. If this is your husband, you can only sympathize. You have to carry out long and hard work on your beloved. Be patient as long as you can, and constantly explain that a family requires investments, including material ones.

Provide your spouse with ironclad evidence

So that you do not have to constantly beg for money, even for general household needs, entrust your husband with paying for utilities and other housing services. Believe me, he will probably be very surprised at how much your living space requires monthly and, most likely, will stop accusing you of unnecessary spending.

How to deal with a greedy man? First of all, teach him to trust you. Show interest in your boyfriend as a person. Make it clear that you want the relationship to continue to develop. Connect your feminine cunning and wisdom. Seek help from psychologists. Find what you can “push” on to make you credible.

Start earning money yourself

Finally, start earning money on your own. Especially if you constantly need money. And the funds that the husband earns and gives are not enough. There will be more money in the family and the man will most likely change his attitude. After all, you will be more independent and will no longer be completely dependent on him.

The sick greed of a man

You must understand that if by nature a man has more feminine energy, then you should not expect great success from him in society.

However, there are often men who in a perverse way combine both half-man and half-woman.

Such partners will not be able to give you either the warmth of feminine energy or male security in material terms, although at the same time they behave like a “model man”, demanding respect and veneration.
Run away from these types, and as quickly as possible.
Understand that no woman can solve the deep-seated problems of a man, which initially prevent him from realizing himself in any aspect.

If you don’t get anything from a man, then it means he either DOESN’T WANT to give you anything or CANNOT give you anything.

A man with severe psychological problems not only cannot give you anything, he does not want it. Such men are greedy by nature.

And this
male greed destroys a woman
. Don’t try to understand and justify this, you won’t be able to become an accepting, unconditionally loving mother for a man, or heal the emptiness of his soul.

The wife cannot solve the problems that the husband had in childhood.

The union of a man and a woman is not a union of mother and son, where one gives and the other receives. This is a reciprocal relationship where you both give and receive.

Answer yourself honestly the question: what do you get from a man?

Wife status?
Material support?
Feeling safe?
Support?
Love and warmth?
Care?
Feeling of a reliable rear? What?

If none of the above, then isn’t your man a pathological greedy person?

Well, you won’t be able to make him generous, no matter how hard you try; he will always only consume without giving anything in return.

Yes, sometimes a woman, with her claims and dissatisfaction, destroys all a man’s aspirations to do anything for her. In theory, a man always wants to be the best in the eyes of his woman, and I think this is the most important thing - not to kill this desire.

If a man feels that he is the best for you, he tries to be so, and this desire is his potential.

Don't destroy it. And how it will be realized - in money, achievements, love for you, care or something else - it doesn’t matter. Learn to appreciate what you have.

If a man doesn't even try to be the best for you,

or you systematically killed his desire, then it will not be easy to restore and return everything.
Maybe it was not you, but his mother who tried hard and destroyed the desire to please a woman in her son; in this case, no matter what you do, you will not be able to rehabilitate this ability. If the mother did not demand anything at all from her son, surrounded him with love and care, without noticing that she was raising a real narcissist and egoist, then you will not be able to change his existing attitude towards life. So male greed is the lack of desire to please a woman and be the best in her eyes
.

Greed is the inability to give, and not only money, but also love, care, warmth, attention, time...

If you know that a man earns money and saves it for his needs, like a hamster in his hole,

then think about it, aren’t you dealing with a real greedy person? Remember, such a partner destroys a woman on a subtle level, because you give, but do not receive anything in return.

I am writing all this about men with whom you have been in a relationship for quite some time.

If you have just started dating, then at first it is difficult to judge the qualities of your partner. Let the relationship develop and watch what happens.

Especially dangerous are men who do not invest money in business and at the same time constantly save on a woman and even on themselves. And they collect, collect... Money is energy, and it must be in motion, in flow,

and if this does not happen, then you and such a partner will wither away like stagnant water in a swamp.
The more money a man gives, the more he receives,
but this does not mean that you need to give every penny, but some of it must be spent. If for a business, then the money invested will pay off handsomely; if for a woman, then by pleasing her, the man sees a happy and satisfied partner, which means he will feel better about it.