In this article I will look at one small private situation that occurs in the field of online dating. In dating that takes place on social networks, on dating sites or simply on some forums. This is a situation when you have already talked a little with a girl, and she even writes to you, starting a conversation, but refuses to meet with you. In response to your proposals for meetings, he constantly finds excuses and excuses.
This happens and is not as rare as it might seem. The situation is unique in that the girl initiates communication herself, and since she initiates communication herself, it means she is interested. But despite all this, he refuses to go on a date.
Today we will look at the reasons why this may happen and possible solutions to this problem.
The most likely version may be that the girl is simply bored sitting at home. And in order not to get bored, she corresponds on the Internet. Therefore, she initiates communication herself. That is, you are not interesting as a guy. She is interested in you solely as an interlocutor. This is especially likely if she often just pours out some of her worries or problems to you. For her, you are just a vest with which she can talk things out. Because she has no one to talk to.
In addition, often in such cases, you may not be her only interlocutor, since girls love attention, and the Internet can allow you to correspond with several people at the same time. It happens and you have to deal with it. In this case, you should not delude yourself and think that the girl has fallen for you, since she writes herself, but concentrate and begin to interest her from scratch. And when you track many signs of interest on her part, then you will invite her on a date. Until then, forget it.
Yes, I touched on an important topic here; you shouldn’t judge a girl’s interest just by one sign, even by the fact that she always writes to you first. Always keep track of others.
You can also be her alternate airfield. That is, she may have a boyfriend, but with whom everything is not entirely clear, and she may keep one or several guys, maintaining a certain level of interest and communication, but will not get close to them until she is finally convinced that there is nothing wrong with that guy will come out. This is a very sad situation, since there is little that will help you get together, except for breaking up with her boyfriend or showing your best side.
There is another option when she says that she has a boyfriend, that is, she admits it. Then you can convince her that your meeting alone does not mean anything, and it will just be a friendly one, where you will get to know each other better, no more, no less. To do this, of course, you need to track signs of interest on her part, and then invite her to a meeting.
One of the most common reasons may be that a girl may be afraid of dating. As a rule, this can be if, when asking you out on a date, she asks a lot of questions and breaks down, that is, does not tell you “no” directly. If you notice this, then you need to remove her possible fears; if you don’t know what these fears are, then you can ask, are you afraid of something? And try to bring her at least a little into a sincere conversation, disposing of her fears. As a rule, such an invitation cannot be quick, so it will take time for her to get to know you better and for you to debunk her fears. Then, when all this is there, as well as signs of interest, you can invite her on a date. And I think she won’t refuse.
I told you the most common reasons when it seems like there is interest in you, but the girl refuses to meet. Of course, the most common situation is a girl’s lack of interest, which many cannot track. But if you are not like that, then here are these reasons for debriefing.
Have you ever had a situation where a girl doesn’t want to date you? You can't understand why she does this? Let's look at the reasons for failures and.
Reasons for a girl's refusal
The first reason is that the girl didn’t like you. If you immediately started making “aggressive” advances when you first met, then she might only like your appearance. You had not communicated with her before, so she could not understand what your character was, what was in your thoughts. And if a girl is not attracted to your appearance, then she will never want to start a relationship with you.
The second reason is that the girl found out unpleasant things about you. If you first met a representative of the fair half, communicated, were friends with her, and after some time began to court her, the girl may refuse you a relationship, since you are suitable for her only as a friend, and she would not like to see certain qualities in her boyfriend .
Do you want to know why your lover didn’t want to date you? Then ask her yourself so as not to repeat such mistakes in the future. Prepare the girl in advance for a serious conversation so that she behaves with you as sincerely as possible. This method is suitable for those guys who decided to leave the girl alone and switch to another. The main goal is to eliminate the mistakes of the past.
This method is not suitable for those who want to continue winning a girl. In this case, first become her good friend and do not impose. Show your best qualities and help her. When you become dear as a friend, you can move on to a more active offensive.
How to win your lover's heart
Guys and men don't start serious relationships by saying hello, introducing themselves, etc. Do you want to date a girl? Then try to win her heart, and only then propose to meet in a beautiful and original way so that she cannot refuse you. Let's figure out how to start dating the girl you like and what's the best way to propose to her?
Be confident in yourself
This is the main rule, without which it is not recommended to even approach a stranger. If you have difficulties communicating with representatives of the opposite sex, work on yourself, and only then start a relationship. Start communicating with waitresses in a bar, saleswomen in a supermarket, with a hairdresser, with girls passing along the street. Start with simple questions: how long or how to get to a certain street. Over time, you will feel yourself becoming more confident. But here you also need to not overdo it. Girls don't like self-confident egoists, don't forget about it.
Start a conversation
The girl you like will not come up to you to start a conversation, especially if she notices that she is interested in you. You're a guy! Approach her yourself and strike up a conversation, because you’ve already gotten your head around it. Ask about her hobbies and occupation. She will answer all questions and ask you anything.
Don't be discouraged by rejection
If a girl doesn't want to communicate with you, don't be offended and insist. Suddenly she has urgent matters to attend to. Don't take rejection to heart, your next acquaintance will be more successful.
Call
The girl gave you her phone number - great. Call her on the same day, don’t delay calling, girls don’t like that. Remember, the relationship has not yet begun, the main thing is yet to come. Invite her to meet, but don't insist on a relationship right away.
Calmly
Never be nervous, be confident, turn on the charm, just don’t overdo it. Don't insist on anything so that the girl doesn't think you're too pushy. When you meet, you can ask about her hairstyle, makeup, dress.
Select a location
A restaurant is the best place for a first date. No matter how trivial it may seem, it always works. After lunch, invite the girl to a cozy cafe for a cup of tea or coffee. Then take a walk - a change of place is always good. In the evening, walk the girl home and thank her for a great time. Hug her tenderly, but never kiss her. She will see that she liked you, but you are a modest person. Say goodbye and tell her you'll be glad to meet her. Wait until the girl comes into the entrance, then go home. If the girl liked this date and she felt your gallantry and seriousness of intentions, rest assured that this is the beginning of a serious relationship. At your next meeting, you can move on to . They should be as gentle as possible, preferably not into a hickey. The main thing is not to relax and always keep your standards. Then any girl will like you.
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And the subject of his letter is: “The girl doesn’t want to date”
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We've been dating a girl for almost 9 months, we talked, we saw each other several times a week, basically
, intimacy, everything, communication outside of meetings, calls, everything is ok.
But that was not the case, out of nowhere she became terribly angry when they met, she was furious
. Well, okay, you never know, I don’t swear too much, the second time, almost the same situation and after that things started to rage, I’ll meet you once a week when I call, I’m busy, I call the second one, I’m busy, well, I think ok, I tell her, I won’t call you again.
Just two weeks pass, I decided to stop by, resolve the issue, I arrived, I said: “Why are you running from me?” What's the matter?
To which I receive the answer: “I don’t know,” I thought so, I say: “ in that case, let’s separate.”
, you don’t want to see me, you’re lying to me about being busy” (I know that she 100% had time).
He left her, after which he called and said, come to my house for the night tonight and that’s all, come. I thought that I would come purely for the sake of sex, there wasn’t that much, because the feelings had already cooled down, we hadn’t seen each other much yet, I came, well, we spent time with wine, intimacy and that’s all.
The fact is that her attitude towards me changed dramatically:
No desire to see each other; The calls stopped; I began to communicate as if I were an acquaintance.
So that’s the question, what could it be, why could it be such nonsense and what should I do to find out? I myself haven’t decided whether I don’t want to lose her, or I don’t care anymore. And what to do if the girl doesn’t want to date?
Advice won't hurt. Thank you.
So, let's understand this situation.
What can you say about the guy?
The guy clearly doesn't respect himself
, does not know how to build relationships, does not know how to meet girls, experience with girls is very small and scarce. As a result, such a guy can only find a strong girl who will do whatever she wants with him.
And since he is weak, he will allow this girl to do whatever she wants
and swallow disrespect from the girl.
Why does he do this?
Yes, because he knows very well that he will not be able to easily find a replacement.
of this girl and will be chewing snot all the time. And in this option, although it is bad for him, there are at least rare meetings and sex, plus he can tell all his friends that he has a girlfriend, i.e. he is not a loser, but a normal guy.
will hold on to the girl for a long time
as if for the last straw. Even if she sends him in direct text, he will still hang around her.
Now, what can you say about the girl?
The girl uses this boy for sex
and entertainment, when a girl gets bored and there is no normal guy on the horizon, she agrees to meet this guy and sometimes gives him sex, since she herself is not averse to doing this.
In her free time, she dates other guys and is looking for a replacement.
this poor guy. And as soon as she finds a new guy, she will immediately dump her ex-boyfriend, which, in fact, is what she is doing now.
That is why she no longer calls him, does not go to meetings with him, does not communicate with him.
So, I answer the question: “ What to do if a girl doesn’t want to date?
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This means that a replacement has already been found for you.
, and the new guy turned out to be much better than you in all respects. Therefore, under no circumstances should you return it back.
You need to start working on yourself
(become a man) and only then find yourself a new worthy girl and no longer commit the mistakes that got you into this situation. (for example, he chose the wrong girl for himself because of his weakness and worthlessness, who wiped her feet on you.)
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Hello, dear readers! Women are not always easy to understand. Not everyone likes to advertise their own feelings and actively show sympathy for a young man. Some of us believe that this is the only way to win the guy we like. Men, in turn, are tormented by the question: “Does she even like me?”
Today we will talk about how to understand that a girl wants a relationship. I will tell you how she behaves in this case, why she can be afraid and hide her own feelings, as well as what a young man should do in an age when the phrase “Let’s meet” remains only in the arsenal of schoolchildren, and even then not all of them.
She talks to him alone
If a girl is interested in a relationship, then the conversation usually takes place in private, and not just when they are in the company of friends. She will always find moments to be alone.
If a girl talks to a guy only in the presence of friends, and in private she simply smiles and asks about school or work, then she is simply polite.
She comments on him a lot on social networks
A guy should pay attention to whether a girl comments on his posts on social networks. Does she write that he looks great when he shows off his homemade breakfast?
The whole point is that if she wasn't interested, she wouldn't waste her time on it. She may like a few photos, but she won't comment on them.
Why doesn't a girl want a relationship?
A lady may avoid relationships for various reasons. Some of them can be corrected, while others are so serious that it will be extremely difficult to change anything in communication with your beloved.
Reasons why a girl doesn't want a relationship:
#1 She recently broke up with her boyfriend, and the breakup was hard for her. After a long time of unfreedom and a showdown, she will at least want to live for her own pleasure for a while until she is released.
#3 She doesn't like you enough. She keeps you as a backup option. It seems to communicate, flirt, give hope, but does not reach a relationship. As soon as another guy appears with whom she falls in love, even the communication that exists will come to naught.
No, not all. All people are different. Everyone has their own life experiences and beliefs. Accordingly, life goals. For example, a girl is going to move to another country after some time. And he doesn’t want anything serious until he leaves. This is understandable: she will leave anyway, and there is no need for unnecessary suffering.
Or another example. She is going through a serious period in her studies or business. She set herself a framework: to put effort into developing her business or study for a year, and not be distracted by anything. This rarely happens. But it happens.
However, often girls simply come up with excuses for why they don’t want a relationship. And such excuses do not intersect with reality. For example, she may say that she is very busy and has no time for a relationship. And the point will simply be that she doesn’t like you enough.
This is exactly the 100% case when she keeps you in reserve. Ladies love to attract many men to themselves and take advantage of them whenever possible. The more there are, the better. If she doesn't love you, but you can provide some service, then she will gladly take advantage of it.
Do you have a car and will you be happy to take her wherever she asks? And you will pick up the drink late at night from your friends. This is exactly the moment when she will give you hope for a relationship because she is comfortable with you. And this pleases her pride. Increases self-esteem.
If you have self-esteem, you will immediately refuse to provide such unreasonable services to a lady.
What a girl says when she doesn't want a relationship:
- I'm not ready for a serious relationship.
- I'm afraid of a serious relationship with a guy.
- I'm not ready for a new relationship.
These are the basic phrases. There may be a thousand more options and other variations of its explanations.
She doesn't ask him about his personal life
Sometimes guys think that when a girl asks him about his love life, it means she wants him to ask her out, but that's not always the case.
She may just be friendly and just want to make casual conversation. The girl might just be curious if he has a girlfriend, or maybe he was dating someone special, but she has no intention of dating him.
Denial of further meetings
2. The young lady has not expressed a desire to go on a date with you.
There are a huge number of reasons, guided by which the girl did not dare to continue your acquaintance. They fall into three categories: serious, frivolous or fictitious. If the reason is fictitious and the young lady doesn’t even try to justify it to you, then she’s simply not your person, you’re not interested in her, and therefore you shouldn’t get hung up on this option. Perhaps she has had her eye on someone for a long time, and you are ruining her future plans. Girls, as a rule, give reasons for a serious reason, and therefore in a particular case it is better to show leniency and respect.
You just met and are already claiming her personal space. Perhaps the girl has planned the evening in advance and is completely absorbed in her problems and affairs; you should not interfere in her personal life until you have become a part of it. Try again in a couple of days, only after writing down her phone number. A frivolous reason... In this case, this statement is somewhat ambiguous, since the young lady may be conscientious about studying, friends or going to the gym, and you are trying to disrupt the usual pattern of her daily life.
3. The girl didn't want to go to bed with you.
This is really the problem. Initially, it is necessary to carefully analyze the reasons for the refusal. So, for example, maybe this happened because you have known each other for a couple of days, or even worse - a few hours? In the young lady’s imagination, you are already standing on an embroidered wedding towel, and a few minutes later she throws the bride’s bouquet to her bridesmaids. In this case, the main thing is not to destroy her castles in the air with your banal proposal. Otherwise, you will have to think about what to do if the girl does not want to meet. Remember, a woman loves with her ears. A couple of sincere compliments, slight embarrassment and friendly, trusting hugs will help you overcome the barrier that has arisen.
If a girl refuses, you should not be discouraged and refuse the object you like; perhaps in the future she will change her anger to mercy and everything will work out for you.
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She laughs at his jokes, even if they aren't funny.
Giggling is what happens when a girl is very nervous. She will laugh at his jokes, even if what he said wasn't that funny. When a girl feels good in a relationship, she is happy, and this has a positive effect on the relationship.
Even if a girl is just sitting or standing next to her loved one, this is a good way to simply smile and convey a piece of good mood to her crush. This shows that the girl dreams of the day when the guy asks her out on a date.
What to answer if a girl refuses to date?
“Die bastard!” - You shouldn’t answer in that spirit. If you are very offended or angry, then just get wet. Let her think and try to understand how you feel.
There is also no need to repent, apologize or beg. All these paths lead to a place from which there is simply no way out. Be firm and you might get another chance.
You can answer her neutrally, “I understand,” “It’s okay,” “Okay, let’s be friends,” and so on. But after refusing, you shouldn’t immediately start communicating closely with her. Otherwise, you'll end up in the friend zone again.
You can answer her with humor. But don't overdo it. Otherwise, she will think that you are just a joker, and then there will be no talk of a romantic relationship.
And there is no need to ask for a reason for refusal or a promise to think about it. This is not buying a vacuum cleaner. Love cannot be sold with the help of good advertising.
Why do girls refuse guys relationships?
If a girl refuses to meet you, then she doesn’t like you. Other reasons are (in most cases) simple excuses. To fix the situation, you need:
- Change your image;
- Start behaving differently;
- Play sports or be creative;
- For a while, leave the lady alone;
- Understand what she wants;
- Try to become better.
Girls love serious guys who can solve problems and show emotions in moderation. But there are also small deviations from the course. After all, each case is individual.
Change yourself qualitatively and gradually. Then all reasons will fade before her feelings. If a girl loves, then she dates despite everything.
Sometimes (!) ladies don’t want a relationship due to the fact that they don’t know the guy well or are simply capricious. If she communicates with you normally and does not ignore you, but does not want intimacy, perhaps this is such a case. Here you can start being friends with her, but only with the clear goal of turning friendship into love.
And if she doesn’t want to be with you, but is totally messing around with others, then she doesn’t like you. Here you just have to work on yourself. Nothing else is given.
Don't believe excuses
To turn off an annoying fan, girls can come up with the following reasons for refusal:
- I don’t want to have a guy from my school - from the “because gladiolus” category;
- For me, studying comes first - and of course it’s not possible to combine them!
- You're too good for me - you're too beautiful for me, I'll go fuck a homeless man!
- We are different - in general, a man and a woman cannot be the same (8th grade anatomy);
- I don't want any relationship - not a bad answer when the girl is 70 years old.
Just don’t show her the truth right away. Pretend to believe the excuse, but don't give up. Just don't listen to her and don't look for reasons why you can't be together.
Situations when a girl refuses to date happen to every guy. There's no need to play out the tragedy. Try to win her favor, if not, then go to someone else. Take this lightly, then your personal life will definitely work out. And if you fall into depression, then the best years of your life will definitely be spent in splendid isolation.
And very useful articles.
Ideally, this should never happen. Whatever you did that led to the girl turning you down (you walked up and said a disgusting phrase when meeting her; you asked her to dance out of the blue; you offered to buy her a drink; you tried to kiss her when all her signs shouted that she is not interested in you, etc.), you should seriously reconsider your approach. You approached the girl with the goal of pleasing her so that she would experience the most fantastic sensations of her life. Remember, the approach should be something like this: “Hmm, let’s see how long this girl can stand the magic, fun and pleasure.” However, if you were refused, this means that you failed twice - you not only failed to please her, but you also failed to realize this, which in itself is a failure.
However, even the best of the best get rejected ;) They often get rejected because they don't try very hard: they see signs that the girl is not interested in them, but they continue to attack despite no matter what - you can call it laziness if you want;) They know that in any case they can get any girl, even this one who just rejected them - if they just want it a little more or less, take a different approach, and etc. But they, by and large, don’t care - maybe she’ll change her mind eventually, or maybe she won’t - what difference does it make? However, from time to time, even their girl’s refusal takes them by surprise ;) “This is how some of them deal with such situations.
Say, “It was nice to meet you.” Say it as if you really mean it - friendly, respectful, but with restrained emotion. Thus:
- you will let her know that her behavior did not at all contribute to the establishment of your relationship with her, but you do not need her communication, you just gave her a chance to be in your company;
— you will separate yourself from the losers who in such situations mutter under their breath: “bitches, you’re all like that”; - you will remain a cool, confident gentleman in a good mood. And it will suck for her to realize that she just lost you;)
If she simply ignores you, add: “I didn’t notice right away that you were deaf ;).”
Ross Jeffries:
“I never attach much importance to victories or defeats when it comes to women. That is, it is important to understand that if a woman accepts you, this does not mean that the next woman will necessarily do the same - so always be alert, do not be lazy or stupid. If she turns you down, it just means that the approach you were using at that particular moment and with that particular girl didn't work—until it hasn't. It may work at a different time with her, or you just need to change your approach. If another approach does not work with her, then it is useful to keep the following thought, which I once expressed to a friend who once saw me, as it seemed to him, rejected: “I am never refused. I’m just checking to see if the girl has taste!”
The positive side of using patterns if you are just discovering them (from an article in Playboy):
“Speaking in someone’s—I don’t remember whose—words, it seemed to me that my ego was somehow uneasy. Maybe that's what it's all about. If I myself did not end with her, then for me personally there was no refusal. She just didn't like the material. To use Jeffries' metaphor, I am the captain of a fishing boat and I am simply looking for a quick catch. I’m not going to limit myself to just one fish.”
And more about what to do in case of refusal, from the same article:
“In fact, the most successful seducers I know are not that successful in any average relative sense. James Toback, the writer and director of The Pickup Artist whom I met in Los Angeles in 1980, told me that he never took rejection as a personal failure: “If anyone -he refused me, for me it only meant that I was mistaken in this girl, that this was precisely my mistake. As Jeffries says, “The difference between losers and winners is that losers lose too rarely.” And he's right. You need to constantly try and take risks. If this is not in your character, then you need to have a strategy and you can use the suggestive effect in speech. Of course, NLP is a cheap trick, complete nonsense, but you will have a much better chance of success if you use NLP rather than just sitting at home in front of the TV.”
Ross Jeffries's opinion:
“The worst thing that can happen is that you find out that some girl doesn’t want to play with you.” Remember - you were going to give her a fantastic gift (patterns or the best orgasm of her entire life;)). If she refuses you, well, poor thing, she doesn’t know what she’s losing ;).”
Mr Happy, ASF:
“Rejection is good, it’s not bad.
The more people refuse me, the more girls I will sleep with. Every time I learn something new. If a girl refuses me, it only shows how stupid this girl is. I win, she loses." Reasons why a girl might refuse you, according to Johnny Shack (https://showgirls.com.au)
. However, remember that Johnny Shack, apparently, prefers to play at random and does not want to do the preliminary work to win the girl over. He simply introduces himself to the girl as best he can, makes his offer as sincere and irresistible as possible, and in case of refusal, remembers the following reasons:
There are only three reasons why a girl can refuse. Believe in them and you will become invincible!
1. She has a boyfriend.
2. She already wants your friend.
3. She is not confident enough to say yes. You should think twice before deciding whether you want to pursue this woman or not. Many girls do not really consider themselves worthy of being asked out on a date and therefore automatically refuse such offers. Besides, she may have recently—or long ago—been dumped by her boyfriend, and she still can’t believe in herself again. The problem that a woman faces in this case is that the more she continues to behave this way and runs from her fears, the faster it turns into a bite. In addition, many women believe, for various reasons, that if they refuse everyone, they thereby make themselves more desirable. It seems to me that this only makes them begin to become covered with cobwebs!
So, guys, you don't know what's really going on in their heads. If she says no, then just remember these three reasons. This way you won't lose confidence. Remember that your consciousness is determined by the information you provide it."
Every guy, of course, has encountered a situation when a girl doesn’t want to date a guy and refuses him. Usually a young man cannot understand why this happens, what is wrong with him and how he can try to make the lady of his heart fall in love with him.
What to do if a girl refuses to date? First you need to understand the reason for the refusal, then everything will fall into place. It may be that the girl simply didn’t like the guy, and she doesn’t see him as a future spouse. Here, too, there are different reasons why she might not like the guy. Perhaps he was very persistent and intrusive, so this pushed the girl away. In addition, the young man’s appearance simply may not interest her.
Another reason is the guy’s unpleasant character traits or unpleasant conversations about him from his friends. It happens that a couple first meets, becomes friends, communicates, dates, and then the girl hears unpleasant rumors about her boyfriend and after that her desire to communicate completely evaporates.
Of course, you can guess for a long time about why a girl refuses to date, but the easiest way is to ask her herself. After this, you can try to fix something, for example, start communicating with people who are not friends. You can show concern for her, help her in everything, demonstrate your positive qualities, and then maybe the girl’s heart will open for this guy. Perhaps after this the young man will be able to move forward in the relationship and become not only a friend, but also the girl’s loved one. After all, close friends often become so close that you don’t want to part with them even for a minute, and this is exactly what a guy who wants to attract a girl’s attention needs.
It must be remembered that the main goal is to eliminate past mistakes that could prevent you from giving the girl a positive answer. Therefore, there is no need to try to intrusively ask a girl to meet; it is better to do everything carefully so as not to scare her off.
Why do girls refuse to meet a guy described above, now it is important to understand how to win your beloved? First you need to win her heart, and only after that offer to become a girl, and then a wife. If her heart is won, then she will no longer be able to refuse the guy. It’s worth understanding how to establish a relationship with a girl you like. The main thing is to be a confident guy, but not arrogant. Without this, you shouldn’t even try and approach the girl. Some guys have problems communicating with the opposite sex, and therefore you first need to learn how to talk to ladies, and only then offer to date. You can practice by talking to a hairdresser, a waitress in a cafe, or saleswomen in stores - this will help you gain confidence. It is worth remembering that girls do not like selfish people.
The next thing that can help a girl like you is to start a conversation with her, because she is unlikely to approach you on her own. You need to show her that the guy is interested in her. You can ask about her hobbies and activities, so there is an opportunity to continue the conversation.
Don’t despair if a girl refuses to meet you, because maybe she just has important things to do and doesn’t have time to communicate. Moreover, if a girl gave a guy’s phone number, it means she can agree to meet at the next, more convenient time for her. Don’t be nervous, you need to behave calmly with the lady, and also turn on all your charm.
Interestingly, the restaurant is one of the best places to meet a girl. Moreover, it is not at all necessary to take her to the most expensive place; you can simply invite her for a cup of coffee and a bun, and you don’t need to be a miser. After the restaurant, you can change your surroundings and take a walk in the park.
Guys should remember that it is difficult for a girl to immediately understand what he is like. Therefore, there is no need to insist on becoming this guy’s girlfriend on the first date. You may have to meet several times, showing your friendliness and gallantry, and only after that can you offer to become his girlfriend.
Probably every guy has had situations when a girl refused to give her phone number, go on a date, or just make love. In this case, the main thing is not to panic and completely control the current situation. So, let's look at some of the most common situations and analyze ways to overcome the difficulties that arise. 1. You met a beautiful young lady, were inflamed with unearthly feelings, but she refuses to give you her phone number. In this case, you should return to the previously discussed issue and give the lady your most sincere smile. The main thing is not to look offended, and, even more so, to be offended. This way you will show her your weakness. She will not only feel her superiority, but will completely show it to you. It is enough to simply pretend that nothing out of the ordinary happened and continue the conversation in the same spirit.
A couple of jokes and the question will be settled. At the end of the conversation, you can repeat your request or go in search of your soulmate in another place. Don't despair! A girl may have her own reasons for refusal. Perhaps she already has an admirer and does not want to spoil the normal existing relationship. In addition, you should remember that the young lady might simply not like you in appearance. The main thing is not to panic, because there are quite a lot of pretty women, and you have only one. Each refusal should be an incentive to move on, and not develop an inferiority complex and cherish your low self-esteem.
She asks him a lot of questions
Girls tend to ask a lot of questions. This may seem quite strange, but women can ask five questions in a row without waiting for an answer.
Guys are sometimes very embarrassed by this. However, this is a clear sign that the girl wants to continue their relationship and finds the guy really interesting. She doesn't find him boring and wants to continue communicating with him. On the first date, it is quite possible to assess the current situation.
It's not about the man
Whenever I told a guy I wanted to meet in public and wouldn't let him pick me up from home, he almost always insisted. This may be the sign of a gentleman, but for many women it is a red flag.
If we haven't met, I don't want him to know where I live. And not at all because I think he’s a scumbag. If I knew this, I wouldn't go on dates with him.
Women don't necessarily distrust you, it's based on our fear. We must take extra precautions. You'd be surprised how many women you know or have dated carry a knife, keep keys between their fingers in case they need a gun, and tell multiple people where they're meeting you.
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Whenever I went on a date with someone I met online, I made sure to tell my friends where I would be. This may seem unnecessary to you, but for most women it is simply a way to feel safe. Regardless of whether our conversations are pleasant or not, there is always a risk. I once tried to explain this to someone. I said the worst thing that could happen to him is that we don't get along, but for me it could be rape, murder, kidnapping, etc.
Whenever I took precautions, it was not because of the guy, but because of my past experiences, the stories of other women and simply the statistics of crimes against women.
The girl trusts the guy
Trust in a relationship is very important. If a girl trusts a guy, it means that she is gradually falling in love with him and wants to build a relationship. However, this is not always the case.
Sometimes it happens that a girl feels quite vulnerable and unprotected due to the difficulties she faces. She wants to talk to a good friend about it and wouldn't want to open up to the person she really likes.
Many girls at the very beginning of a relationship want to present themselves from the best side and make a good impression, and therefore each will be very worried if the guy finds out about her problems. Naturally, she will tell him about this later, but only if they manage to build a strong enough relationship.
She's shy sometimes
When a girl is too shy and sometimes feels more shy than usual, this is a good indicator and indicates that she really likes the guy. She acts in a certain way with him, and this behavior is somewhat different from the way she acts with other people.
Next to the guy she likes, the girl may be a little worried, and therefore becomes quieter and shyer. This behavior suggests that she would like to go on a date with him.
If a girl treats a guy simply as a friend, she feels quite comfortable in the relationship and is practically not worried about communication. She'll just be herself.
Why does a woman communicate but say she doesn’t want to date?
The phrases are painfully familiar, aren’t they? If your crush constantly says them, and you suppress the nagging feeling of resentment in your chest, this is the friend zone.
You can be the closest person to a girl, understand her perfectly, have jokes that only you two understand, but have no chance of mutual feelings.
Most often, the culprit is indecision. Perhaps the moment was missed when it was worth confessing your love and now the girl cannot perceive you differently. To make matters worse, your friend may be in love with another guy and discuss their relationship with you.
Is the girl in a relationship but still flirts with you and isn’t shy about asking for favors? Perhaps even jealous when you begin to show sympathy for other representatives of the fair sex?
- Quite cynical, but very common behavior of young ladies who prefer to think through the outcome of any relationship in advance.
- Your mistake is endlessly waiting for her current relationship to end sooner or later, and then her beloved will become yours.
- Think about what can await you in this union? Won't your chosen one treat another naive guy in the same way, making him her backup option?
The bitter experience of previous relationships makes a girl more careful and selective towards men. The chosen one may refuse you, even if she experiences similar warm feelings, only because she is afraid of getting burned again, being deceived or abandoned.
In this case, you just need to be patient and show maximum attention and care so that your beloved thaws out and understands that she has nothing to fear with you.
How to correct the situation if the girl has not yet recovered from the bitter experience of past relationships is described in the video:
The girl behaves coldly and arrogantly and makes herself known only when she needs something:
- Are you her faithful driver, household assistant, or maybe even a financial sponsor, but in return you receive nothing but flirtation and ghostly hints of a relationship?
- Or maybe even the girl is not shy about belittling your dignity and causing you an imposed feeling of guilt? We have bad news for you - this is abuse.
Important! Abuse is a person’s tendency to hurt others and feel power over them. If an abusive girl understands that her partner is fighting to lose her and therefore cannot repay her in kind, this fuels her fuse even more.
All you need to do in this situation is to gain self-esteem and end this painful relationship.
Now is no longer the time when a woman’s only dream is a successful marriage, motherhood and waiting for her husband to get home from work in the evenings.
Modern girls, like boys, care about self-realization and a career. In this whirlwind between study, work, fitness and hobbies, there is not always time for a serious love relationship.
Such girls, as a rule, are interested in equally ambitious young men who know how to set goals and achieve results. And it is also important that the chosen one does not devalue her aspirations and does not impose his value system.
Important! If your chosen one is like this, show her that you can become a support and support for her.
An attractive and interesting young lady may have more than one contender for her heart. It is quite natural that a young lady may doubt which of the men to choose.
Here the outcome may depend on her personal preferences and the assertiveness of the young man.
She mentions several times that she is single
Girls don't like to be alone, especially if everyone around them has found their soulmate and is happy with the person they love. When a girl tells a guy that she is single, she is trying to imply that she wants him to ask her out.
She makes very obvious hints that she is single and wants to go on a date with him. Therefore, this is a clear hint that you need to take the initiative into your own hands and ask the girl out on a date.
A warning to men in love
If you experience some discomfort in communicating with a girl and want to protect yourself from rejection, then you can watch the woman a little and try to find out if she has sympathy for you.
I must immediately warn you that in this way you are depriving yourself of some opportunities, because you can remember a thousand stories when a girl did not pay attention to a guy until he showed himself. Sometimes you need to go on several dates to make sure that you really like a man.
